while girls perceptions are fukked up...you can kind of see where she's coming from with that
i'm quick to let a chick know when she's being an idiot because in my head...if I'm gonna be dealing with shorty for a long time I gotta nip any kind of blatant stupidity and childishness in the bud. If I dont the relationship wont last because I'll eventually get tired or just lose respect for her.
I used to tell my homies while giving them advice that sometimes you gotta make a chick cry

. They were laughing but i's dead serious. You dont have to shyt on her or dig up personal shyt but when she's being an idiot talk down to her and let her know it. 1, She'll respect, trust and look up to you for it. And despite this feminist bullshyt almost every woman wants a man to look up to (literally and figuratively). 2. It'll increase her emotional investment in you.
Girls always want shyt to be even in a relationship. If they feel you're not emotionally invested at all they'll slowly start pulling their investment out the fund as well until they mirror you. You shouldnt actually be emotionally invested to the degree they are, but just enough to pass their litmus tests and make them think you care.