And you're a man for being in here learning cuz most dudes egos don't allow them to. But that's why most dudes have bad luck with women.
Yeah man, and trust if you know your confidence and swag is off she can absolutely feel it -- even if she's never seen you with your swag on a trillion yet. You know how we talk about women being emotional? We talk about it in the negative sense, but never forget that women are far more emotionally intelligent than us and can sense when your vibe is off. They're in touch with their feelings early, while we're more logical and put our feelings to the side. Women's intuition is real, so you can say all the right things but even the slightest passivity in your energy is going to ring alarms much louder than any words that come out your mouth.
That's why going for that hard yes or hard no is so important. They're both good, because they give you information. A yes is good for obvious reasons, while a no lets you know whether you're wasting your time or not. If it's an emphatictype no, you know that y'all aren't on the same page and don't want the same things out of life. If it's a girly, wishy washy
type no, where she makes up an excuse that seems silly or moves your hand off of her titty but doesn't seem cold, it probably means she's either not turned on enough yet or is trying to be a "good girl", which means all you gotta do is be like
"Word" and then wait for a little bit or change up your approach.
But either way, all it is is INFORMATION. If you treat it like information, you'll be detached from the outcome which means you have no reason not to have your swag and confidence on. If you're attached to the outcome, it means you're wanting her yes or no to validate your confidence and swag, which women take as a signal subconsciously that you're not the man you say you are, and on an animal level, not valuable enough for her to procreate with.
That's why I choose to hold men accountable, because we're always in the driver's seat for either getting what we want or recognizing it's time to move on. Women are more reactive and passive, so all they can do is give off signals. But when you learn to read the chess board and pick up on those signals your game will become gigantic
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Shiiiit and bro don't be afraid to turn an awkward L into a W either. Being bold when you fukked up is just as sexy to a woman as not fukking up at all.
For instance, when you grabbed her face:
Ol' Girl: My dog does that
Breh: Oh yeah?
THEN KISS HER
This shyt is like verbal/mental jiu jitsu
Real shyt.
Yeah next time we hangout, im going for the jugglar. I gotta just be myself, get rid of the fear and take that risk. If it pays off, cool if not..atleast I tried.
This is a silly mentality imo that a lot of brehs have. If she gave it up fast in the past and she making you wait all that happened is that dude ramped her attraction up wayyyyy faster than you or she sees you as boyfriend material. I've had girls I've slept with first couple times I've seen them and had good relationships and girls who made me wait far longer that fizzled quickly. Its 2017, people are more open sexually than ever. Only reason a women making you wait 3-5 dates or more to scrape is because she not really feeling you like that. And several dates without a kiss :wow ? pretty soon she'll auto disqualify herself and ghost because she either isn't attracted to you or she thinks you really don't like her.See the thing is with me...I don't want a woman that's too easy because than it makes me think of how quick she gave it up to other dudes.
But at the same time, I don't want someone that's hard as fukk to obtain where you feel like you wasting you're time.
I'm just likeat this point...I shouldn't be stressing this damn much over a woman
sex isnt calculus... more mental gymnastics to rationalize making the wrong choices. a lot of women wouldn't have given it up to a lot of nikkas if they could do a repeat.
. i've never been a relationship where i don't eventually feel like a ineed to take one week solitary breaks for myself from the chick...
You prob sound like Elliot Rodgers... fall back for a min. And take that L on backpages
Nah but no bullshytting the fact a stranger stopped you is a sign you fukking up badly
I'm going to Tampa this weekend so the women will be better. 
here are a few random thoughts i've had given a [crazy] few months dealing with multiple brehettes. partially me reflecting, but hopefully it's helpful for my brehs out there--
1) funny how some women justify having a high body count by saying that being sexually experienced helps in pleasing their current partner. bish whet?
2) if you're a professional black man making decent bread, it's hard to overstate how much of a gem you're perceived as. for women with emotional baggage from past nikkas... you are literally their ticket to a fairytale ending. these women will be beautiful... scrutinize their habits carefully and don't be afraid to cut it off just because they are attractive. in fact, having the fortitude to break up with an extremely attractive woman will allow you to have the confidence to look for more than just a pretty face / nice body in who you settle down with.
3) everybody wants a traditional woman but still want to do dirt. pick a side, nikka
4) black women can definitely understand you on a level that other races of women will be tone-deaf to. especially if she's an enterprising black woman... she will help you grow. on the flip, just by virtue of our culture and being more outward... it's normalized for some of em to just feel like they can be extra with you as a black man til you set that tone. some brehs may not want that and may prefer the more submissive type. figure it out.
5) doing the short-term relationship thing makes you appreciate how amazing, how calming it is to FINALLY have time to yourself...
6) a lot of educated, professional women out here who are big time freaks. the prudish exterior is sometimes a facade... big time
7) a lot of brehs think they won if they got a baddie... a lot of men focus on the MONETARY aspect of keeping a chick in terms of dates, movies, etc... but the real drain is TIME. frivolous sex is never frivolous if you're wasting precious time that could be spent on hobbies, making more money, etc. Maybe i'm just hyper aware of the time i feel i'm *wasting sometimes hearing brehettes talk about random BS, arguments, etc... it's almost conditional with the p*ssy...
8) i've only dated women of color (mostly black, but also hispanic and arab)... and a lot have this latent fear of you cheating on them with beckies. that conditioning is a MF.
