Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Like I said earlier, I'm not trying to fukk again, I'm just trying to find a way to keep my distance without being an a$$hole. As to the reason we stopped seeing each other:

We hadn't been seeing each other that long, maybe a month. So we go out to this concert one night, and we are on our way to grab a couple drinks afterwards, and we bump into her ex. So they chat for a minute or two, and she asks if it's cool if he comes for a drink. I'm not really feeling the situation for obvious reasons, but I figure fukk it - what harm can one drink do? Well, one drink turns into two drinks, which turns into three, and I start getting heated. So eventually I say "fukk this, I'm gonna let you two enjoy your evening" and bounce. We talked the next day, argued about it & shyt, the usual. Eventually we patched things up, but it hasn't really been on the romantic tip since.




I know, but how would it look just driving past her on my way home and not even offering her a ride, when I had been doing so since before we were even seeing each other? It would look like I'm salty about things, which I'm not. And I don't really care about what her friends at work think, I'm not trying to get at them anyway. Like I said, all I want to do is find a way to maintain some distance so I can get my head straight without hurting her feelings.



I know, it's pretty much a hopeless situation :snoop:

Her feelings?:dwillhuh:
 

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Like I said earlier, I'm not trying to fukk again, I'm just trying to find a way to keep my distance without being an a$$hole. As to the reason we stopped seeing each other:

We hadn't been seeing each other that long, maybe a month. So we go out to this concert one night, and we are on our way to grab a couple drinks afterwards, and we bump into her ex. So they chat for a minute or two, and she asks if it's cool if he comes for a drink. I'm not really feeling the situation for obvious reasons, but I figure fukk it - what harm can one drink do? Well, one drink turns into two drinks, which turns into three, and I start getting heated. So eventually I say "fukk this, I'm gonna let you two enjoy your evening" and bounce. We talked the next day, argued about it & shyt, the usual. Eventually we patched things up, but it hasn't really been on the romantic tip since.




I know, but how would it look just driving past her on my way home and not even offering her a ride, when I had been doing so since before we were even seeing each other? It would look like I'm salty about things, which I'm not. And I don't really care about what her friends at work think, I'm not trying to get at them anyway. Like I said, all I want to do is find a way to maintain some distance so I can get my head straight without hurting her feelings.



I know, it's pretty much a hopeless situation :snoop:
only a month? quit torturning yourself dude. she probably fukked her ex the next day and now is using you for your altruistic nature. i'm probably one of the least cynical on here but this is way too cut and dry. She been over it. You need to let yourself be free man.

also fr fukk her feelings. only dating for a month and she try you like that? not worth even being friends with people like that man.
 

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Ok so in my class we're doing a group project and we exchange phone numbers anyway the really cute girl we talked a lot in class:ehh: and she even waited for me after class to walk with me:patrice: we texting a bit right now but i did invited her to come have lunch with me but she had work:martin: she said annother time thou:obama: so how do i go about asking her out:jbhmm: or is it too early for that? I literally met her today:martin: im just trying to stay away the friend zone:patrice:
 

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Ok so in my class we're doing a group project and we exchange phone numbers anyway the really cute girl we talked a lot in class:ehh: and she even waited for me after class to walk with me:patrice: we texting a bit right now but i did invited her to come have lunch with me but she had work:martin: she said annother time thou:obama: so how do i go about asking her out:jbhmm: or is it too early for that? I literally met her today:martin: im just trying to stay away the friend zone:patrice:
give her a couple days
 

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Ok so in my class we're doing a group project and we exchange phone numbers anyway the really cute girl we talked a lot in class:ehh: and she even waited for me after class to walk with me:patrice: we texting a bit right now but i did invited her to come have lunch with me but she had work:martin: she said annother time thou:obama: so how do i go about asking her out:jbhmm: or is it too early for that? I literally met her today:martin: im just trying to stay away the friend zone:patrice:

This won't work if you keep moving too fast, nobody wants anything that comes easy and you putting her in a pedestal which tells her you don't think you're good enough

Patience is a virtue don't rush it, let it flow
 
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