Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

To me the only mental standpoint to come from is this mantra:

I'm a quality male and I'm looking for a quality woman. I know what I deserve and what I'm worth and I'll accept no less than that. If I can't find what I'm looking for again I'll accept no less and i'm perfectly fine with walking away with nothing if that isn't attainable.

Women don't fill a void in my life. My life is complete without them they are a spice to season it. they are my support but i don't need them. I would prefer to have a woman around but it isn't required. I'm perfectly comfortable riding solo.

I'm willing to be nice to people I care about but I won't allow myself to be taken advantage of by anyone. I will help people within reason if it makes sense but I won't carry anybody else's weight.

I live my life on my terms and anyone in is had better accept that or there's the door. They can exit it and they won't be missed. I don't allow myself to become attached to anything to the point where I couldn't get rid of it at a moment's notice if necessary. I won't compromise myself or change for anyone but myself and I always come first.

I enjoy vagina and sex but I could take it or leave it and not be affected at all. Getting vagina or the opportunity to get it doesn't affect my behavior in the slightest. I don't need any woman's approval because I have my own and in the end that's all that matters to me."

If all men internalized that attitude and approached the game from that standpoint they'd be good. the problem is many of us as men don't. we approach the game with this sold thought

"I want some p*ssy how can I get it?" and that's it and from that point everything done is an attempt to get p*ssy. its like Wild E Coyote chasing the Roadrunner. the plans are made and revamped all in an attempt to catch that bird with elaborate plans that typically backfire and get modified and re-ran to get it.

That's a cool answer man. See, that's why I said before, I am actually GLAD when women punished me for some of the simp moves I made in my past. When you get burned on the stove enough, you learned that your former mentality and your former tactics were INEFFECTIVE. Instead of worrying about the woman's happiness, you are worried about YOUR life and YOUR happiness. See, God designed men to be the leaders. You can't lead if you're more concerned with those who follow you and 'how they feel' about something. It's not necessarily only about your happiness, because if you're a high quality leader, you will worry about the happiness of those who follow you... but what you are MORE concerned about than anything is if you are doing the right thing.

Be real with yourself and think... when you look back on your life, do you want to be some weak negro snuggling, cuddling and laying around with some woman all day or do you want to look back and said I stood up, handled life in a real way, got a ton accomplished and can feel proud about what I done. Before you can really deal with any woman, as we've said before in this thread, women really respond to certain behaviors. They respond to MASCULINE behaviors because they want a man. If they wanted feminine traits, they'd go directly to the source and be lesbians. All of that snuggling, waiting up on her, always being there for her, supporting her... that's feminine behavior. That's what she should be doing for you. What a man should be doing is controlling the situation, instilling discipline and leading.

 

[kevm3]

the most important change for me has been mental. I'm all about having a good mindset and letting this be my foundation for my actions. I don't try to control as much. I just know what i feel and want and can tolerate and choose to deal with people who fit into that vision. Basically i've completely stopped blaming other people and women for my shortcomings and own up to it completely (and it ironically feels good when you realize it's all your fault cause it's mostly all your choice). Once I've learned to accept this, I can plan and execute changes. I feel less stressed about if i'm acting right or wrong cause i have my principles and with the right mindset i just let it happen naturally. less stress equal more happiness and energy to focus on other stuff.

been getting my money up, lost some excess weight, lowered my blood pressure, been reading a lot about different subjects, all things i feel will elevate my happiness and quality of life. I don't really like to expand too much on my personal life but I actually feel like i have a lot more options not just as far as women but my life in general. I live in North America (land with LOTS of opportunity), relatively pretty healthy (knock on wood), internet access, library access, pretty young man, completely debt free... not much is stopping me...

Yeah man, as you can see, when women didn't make it easy on us, in a lot of ways it did cause us to step it up in a lot of ways. Not getting the caliber of women you wanted in the way you saw fit made you improve your mentality, improve your physicality and after seeing how women do weak, easily manipulated men, it made you step your mentality up to a much higher degree and actually WATCH what's going on to avoid being manipulated by not only women, but people in general. This has in turn made you a higher quality man, and now you are actually in a position to demand what you want from women before they deal with you.

 

[George Gooney]

have a little bit of drink in me and i can't front, reading this story, it's so much in it at the same time....shyt makes me angry and sad at once. but her fam is so cool too. sometimes i really hate this world man...

Breh I could sit here and replay the scenario in my head and still become infuriated years later... I've been through so much shyt breh that I don't even Like women as people anymore... But I don't go outta my way to be disrespectful towards them I just treat them like ghosts...

 

[kevm3]

Can I share a fukked up story with you breh??? I remember when me and one of my exes(one before last) were dating and broke up. About 2-3 weeks after we broke up Me and her were hanging out(I was a simp and trying to get her back) at her mother's house(My first time meeting her mom too). Well I was talking to her family and they loved me, were very kind and considerate, even bought some liquor and shared it with me. Well while me and her mom and sister were talking and drinking I notice my ex on her cell talking to someone the whole night. I knew it was another guy but I was thinking "Hey they can talk all they want i'm gonna take her home with me anyway and make her forget about him"...

But as the night went on we got hungry so me and my ex went out to get food for everyone, we wound up getting Chinese food. I payed for her food(). On the way there and back we were kissing and holding hands and everything...Anyway we get back to the house and we're eating when my exes cell phone rung again and it was the dude from earlier. She says "Yea i'm ready just ring the doorbell". I'm sitting there like . So the doorbell rings and it's dude and she gets up from the table tells her fam and me goodbye and leaves I look out the window and she gets in his car and they pull off. Her sister is looking at me like and her mother just sighs and shakes her head(she was used to this behavior fom her daughter) So I get up and head towards the door and i'm tipsy from the alcohol (not a heavy drinker) and I head towards the door after saying my goodbyes.

I get outside and i'm fukked up breh I can't even remember the route we took to get her mom's place(That's because we took a cab) and i'm too embarrassed to knock back on the door and ask directions. Apparently I was standing outside longer then I realized because her mom comes outside to check on me after watching me wander around for 5 minutes trying to catch a cab. I suck it up and tell her i'm having trouble remembering where the station is in that area. And I kid you not Her Mom heads upstairs puts on some walking sneakers and walks with me 10 blocks to the train station. We talked about a lot of things(mainly her daughter) and she's like "i'm sorry she abandoned you like this" "I don't know why she acts like this" "You're such a nice guy too" And i'm feeling serious ether because her mom called her to yell at her but she didn't pick up(We can all guess why). Well anyway from that day forward I vowed to never forget the kindness her mom showed me and to this day I still consider her a friend... I'm sorry this story was so long I tried to cut it short but yea breh Women man...

Hey man, that story is ice cold, but let me tell you what. If you really look back on that story and analyze it for weaknesses, it's going to give you some real fly knowledge on how to deal with that situation next time, or even better, to avoid that situation in the first place.

The difference between the successes and the failures is that the failures get angry and stay there while the successes get better.

That story just gave you some fly rules... if a woman is always on her cell phone while with you, check her on it, and if she can't get with it, boot her. always demand your respect. always be careful about which women you spend any kind of money on. never be too sweet when dealing with women. never deal with women that have funny style characteristics-- screen them beforehand... man you can pull at least 10 fly rules to implement to your gameplan for next time.

 

[kevm3]

Let me share something with ya'll... the difference between a winner and a loser... between a man and a male. For one, a man is a winner. A male is of the male gender who doesn't qualify for the title of a man. Now, when dealing with women, we've all taken our losses and if someone tells you they have never taken any kind of loss with a woman, they are lying. So then, we can all say we've had our down times, but we've also had our great times, which makes us keep coming back to them. I'm saying all of this to say that when we deal with these women, we have to WIN. Our losses in our past give us plenty of information about where we made missteps and bad moves if we only look at it honestly and realistically. In order to win, we have to remove the missteps and weak moves out of our gameplan and come even sharper next time... so while we can sit around discussing those trashcan breed of women, we won't win until we start gameplanning on how to avoid them and how to only allow the women that want to see us win in our lives.

Let's be proactive, not reactive.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

Yea getting numbers is middle school game. Women give their number out to dudes just to have someone call and text them throughout the day. Personally, I like to give my number out to women and if they really feeling me they will hit me up. But if u do decide to get her number, the first time u hit her up set a date or meet-up ASAP. All that texting back and forth will just weaken your vibe with her.

 

[DaRealness]

Giving numbers don't mean a thing. People walk around with about 200 numbers when they probably only regularly use 10 of those anyway lol. To me that's just like the Facebook 'friends' list.

 

[sixsixtwo]

Why The U.S. Divorce Rate Is Not Important

 

[sixsixtwo]

Spoiler

You’re about to marry this woman. You can look forward to paying for the marriage, the diamond ring, the obligatory 2 children that most couples obtain in 4 years, her education loans, the house, the car(s), clothes and food for children and wife, and in return for what?

The amount of sex you’ll be able to get in roughly two years, subtracted the time were natural causes are involved, such as pregnancy, childbirth, periods, arguments, and “not tonight, honey, I have a headache’s”.

Let’s say that is roughly equivalent of 2 X 365 days = 730 days, where you can get your rock’s off.

Then you’d have to add the countless arguments, the deceit, the heartbreak, the financial worries, the following divorce, where you’ll be stripped of every asset you have ever obtained before marrying her, as well as the ones obtained during the marriage itself, only to end up being raped in divorce court and stripped of basic human rights.

It doesn’t stop here…

Then you can look forward to starting all over on your own, while having to pay alimony to someone you wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire under normal cirumstances. Also, the costs involved with bringing up 2 children, that you will most likely not get to see, and later getting them through college, for 18 years, and end up watching another man take credits for their upbringing later.

That amounts to roughly 6570 days in the threadmill, while your value to any woman coming after that will be considerably deflated, because you’re basically broke most of the time.

Did I miss anything, because it seems to me that 730 days of fun in exchange for 6570 days as a wage slave, with the added physical, economic, and emotional costs involved, are nowhere near anything remotely close to a bargain?

What it DOES look like, is a very good reason that men don’t live as long as women do, and you might as well go jump off a bridge instead, to spare yourself the pain and heartache involved.

Not that I plan to.
But then again, I’m not planning on getting married either..

 

[sixsixtwo]

Flowers and Champagne From My Valentine - Maverick Traveler

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Can I share a fukked up story with you breh??? I remember when me and one of my exes(one before last) were dating and broke up. About 2-3 weeks after we broke up Me and her were hanging out(I was a simp and trying to get her back) at her mother's house(My first time meeting her mom too). Well I was talking to her family and they loved me, were very kind and considerate, even bought some liquor and shared it with me. Well while me and her mom and sister were talking and drinking I notice my ex on her cell talking to someone the whole night. I knew it was another guy but I was thinking "Hey they can talk all they want i'm gonna take her home with me anyway and make her forget about him"...

But as the night went on we got hungry so me and my ex went out to get food for everyone, we wound up getting Chinese food. I payed for her food(). On the way there and back we were kissing and holding hands and everything...Anyway we get back to the house and we're eating when my exes cell phone rung again and it was the dude from earlier. She says "Yea i'm ready just ring the doorbell". I'm sitting there like . So the doorbell rings and it's dude and she gets up from the table tells her fam and me goodbye and leaves I look out the window and she gets in his car and they pull off. Her sister is looking at me like and her mother just sighs and shakes her head(she was used to this behavior fom her daughter) So I get up and head towards the door and i'm tipsy from the alcohol (not a heavy drinker) and I head towards the door after saying my goodbyes.

I get outside and i'm fukked up breh I can't even remember the route we took to get her mom's place(That's because we took a cab) and i'm too embarrassed to knock back on the door and ask directions. Apparently I was standing outside longer then I realized because her mom comes outside to check on me after watching me wander around for 5 minutes trying to catch a cab. I suck it up and tell her i'm having trouble remembering where the station is in that area. And I kid you not Her Mom heads upstairs puts on some walking sneakers and walks with me 10 blocks to the train station. We talked about a lot of things(mainly her daughter) and she's like "i'm sorry she abandoned you like this" "I don't know why she acts like this" "You're such a nice guy too" And i'm feeling serious ether because her mom called her to yell at her but she didn't pick up(We can all guess why). Well anyway from that day forward I vowed to never forget the kindness her mom showed me and to this day I still consider her a friend... I'm sorry this story was so long I tried to cut it short but yea breh Women man...

Damn, this made me so sad breh


These are valuable lessons tho.....

 

[twan83]

Can I share a fukked up story with you breh??? I remember when me and one of my exes(one before last) were dating and broke up. About 2-3 weeks after we broke up Me and her were hanging out(I was a simp and trying to get her back) at her mother's house(My first time meeting her mom too). Well I was talking to her family and they loved me, were very kind and considerate, even bought some liquor and shared it with me. Well while me and her mom and sister were talking and drinking I notice my ex on her cell talking to someone the whole night. I knew it was another guy but I was thinking "Hey they can talk all they want i'm gonna take her home with me anyway and make her forget about him"...

But as the night went on we got hungry so me and my ex went out to get food for everyone, we wound up getting Chinese food. I payed for her food(). On the way there and back we were kissing and holding hands and everything...Anyway we get back to the house and we're eating when my exes cell phone rung again and it was the dude from earlier. She says "Yea i'm ready just ring the doorbell". I'm sitting there like . So the doorbell rings and it's dude and she gets up from the table tells her fam and me goodbye and leaves I look out the window and she gets in his car and they pull off. Her sister is looking at me like and her mother just sighs and shakes her head(she was used to this behavior fom her daughter) So I get up and head towards the door and i'm tipsy from the alcohol (not a heavy drinker) and I head towards the door after saying my goodbyes.

I get outside and i'm fukked up breh I can't even remember the route we took to get her mom's place(That's because we took a cab) and i'm too embarrassed to knock back on the door and ask directions. Apparently I was standing outside longer then I realized because her mom comes outside to check on me after watching me wander around for 5 minutes trying to catch a cab. I suck it up and tell her i'm having trouble remembering where the station is in that area. And I kid you not Her Mom heads upstairs puts on some walking sneakers and walks with me 10 blocks to the train station. We talked about a lot of things(mainly her daughter) and she's like "i'm sorry she abandoned you like this" "I don't know why she acts like this" "You're such a nice guy too" And i'm feeling serious ether because her mom called her to yell at her but she didn't pick up(We can all guess why). Well anyway from that day forward I vowed to never forget the kindness her mom showed me and to this day I still consider her a friend... I'm sorry this story was so long I tried to cut it short but yea breh Women man...

damn fam

 

[winb83]

Can I share a fukked up story with you breh??? I remember when me and one of my exes(one before last) were dating and broke up. About 2-3 weeks after we broke up Me and her were hanging out(I was a simp and trying to get her back) at her mother's house(My first time meeting her mom too). Well I was talking to her family and they loved me, were very kind and considerate, even bought some liquor and shared it with me. Well while me and her mom and sister were talking and drinking I notice my ex on her cell talking to someone the whole night. I knew it was another guy but I was thinking "Hey they can talk all they want i'm gonna take her home with me anyway and make her forget about him"...

But as the night went on we got hungry so me and my ex went out to get food for everyone, we wound up getting Chinese food. I payed for her food(). On the way there and back we were kissing and holding hands and everything...Anyway we get back to the house and we're eating when my exes cell phone rung again and it was the dude from earlier. She says "Yea i'm ready just ring the doorbell". I'm sitting there like . So the doorbell rings and it's dude and she gets up from the table tells her fam and me goodbye and leaves I look out the window and she gets in his car and they pull off. Her sister is looking at me like and her mother just sighs and shakes her head(she was used to this behavior fom her daughter) So I get up and head towards the door and i'm tipsy from the alcohol (not a heavy drinker) and I head towards the door after saying my goodbyes.

I get outside and i'm fukked up breh I can't even remember the route we took to get her mom's place(That's because we took a cab) and i'm too embarrassed to knock back on the door and ask directions. Apparently I was standing outside longer then I realized because her mom comes outside to check on me after watching me wander around for 5 minutes trying to catch a cab. I suck it up and tell her i'm having trouble remembering where the station is in that area. And I kid you not Her Mom heads upstairs puts on some walking sneakers and walks with me 10 blocks to the train station. We talked about a lot of things(mainly her daughter) and she's like "i'm sorry she abandoned you like this" "I don't know why she acts like this" "You're such a nice guy too" And i'm feeling serious ether because her mom called her to yell at her but she didn't pick up(We can all guess why). Well anyway from that day forward I vowed to never forget the kindness her mom showed me and to this day I still consider her a friend... I'm sorry this story was so long I tried to cut it short but yea breh Women man...

i remember when i had your naivety.

her mother was old enough to recognize the value of such a naive man. understand the older a woman get the less she uses her emotions to determine a suitable mate and the more logic based she becomes. young women operate purely off emotions. really most men are kind and nice to women because they believe they can convince a woman to like them through their behavior. older women recognize that and know if i attach myself to hem he'll be faithful and loyal. David Deangelo said it best attraction is not a choice. romance is primarily emotion based and emotions don't logically attach themselves to the best choice. people feel how they feel and really if a woman logically attached herself to you chances are its despite her emotional reaction to you not because of it. in other words emtionally she feels next to nothing but she logically recognizes your value. in that case as they younger crowd puts it here you'll be destined to "share that girl."

to this day i still sometimes struggle with the concept that a woman doesn't have to "like" you (or approve of you as a person) to feel attracted to you. if she feels attraction to you (an emotional pull) then her liking you (logical approval) is irrelevant.

 

[rapdonttweet]

You&#8217;re about to marry this woman. You can look forward to paying for the marriage, the diamond ring, the obligatory 2 children that most couples obtain in 4 years, her education loans, the house, the car(s), clothes and food for children and wife, and in return for what?

The amount of sex you&#8217;ll be able to get in roughly two years, subtracted the time were natural causes are involved, such as pregnancy, childbirth, periods, arguments, and &#8220;not tonight, honey, I have a headache&#8217;s&#8221;.

Let&#8217;s say that is roughly equivalent of 2 X 365 days = 730 days, where you can get your rock&#8217;s off.

Then you&#8217;d have to add the countless arguments, the deceit, the heartbreak, the financial worries, the following divorce, where you&#8217;ll be stripped of every asset you have ever obtained before marrying her, as well as the ones obtained during the marriage itself, only to end up being raped in divorce court and stripped of basic human rights.

It doesn&#8217;t stop here&#8230;

Then you can look forward to starting all over on your own, while having to pay alimony to someone you wouldn&#8217;t piss on if they were on fire under normal cirumstances. Also, the costs involved with bringing up 2 children, that you will most likely not get to see, and later getting them through college, for 18 years, and end up watching another man take credits for their upbringing later.

That amounts to roughly 6570 days in the threadmill, while your value to any woman coming after that will be considerably deflated, because you&#8217;re basically broke most of the time.

Did I miss anything, because it seems to me that 730 days of fun in exchange for 6570 days as a wage slave, with the added physical, economic, and emotional costs involved, are nowhere near anything remotely close to a bargain?

What it DOES look like, is a very good reason that men don&#8217;t live as long as women do, and you might as well go jump off a bridge instead, to spare yourself the pain and heartache involved.

Not that I plan to.
But then again, I&#8217;m not planning on getting married either..

See this is what I'm talking about when I'm saying there's so much bitterness. What insight does this add on how to deal with women? Its basically creating a worst case scenario with the worst kind of woman where the guy is spending his money on absolutely everything. And then it goes on to assume the only thing of value the guy is getting out of a relationship is sex.

 

[rapdonttweet]

Hey man, that story is ice cold, but let me tell you what. If you really look back on that story and analyze it for weaknesses, it's going to give you some real fly knowledge on how to deal with that situation next time, or even better, to avoid that situation in the first place.

The difference between the successes and the failures is that the failures get angry and stay there while the successes get better.

That story just gave you some fly rules... if a woman is always on her cell phone while with you, check her on it, and if she can't get with it, boot her. always demand your respect. always be careful about which women you spend any kind of money on. never be too sweet when dealing with women. never deal with women that have funny style characteristics-- screen them beforehand... man you can pull at least 10 fly rules to implement to your gameplan for next time.

I agree with this 100%. I've got my own crazy stories of females that played me but I'll probably never share them because I've got no remaining issues with them. I'm glad they happened because they made my game so much better. I'm not only much better with women but more confident in other aspects of my life as well. How could I be angry at the experiences that made me a better and wiser person?