Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

Your last paragraph is poignant. I spent the last how many weeks trying to get her to communicate what's on her mind, what's bothering her, etc. I straight up told her like...I'm trying hard to make things work and iron out the issues in the relationship, and it's almost like that pushed her away more. But then it's all "you don't listen to anything I say; you don't care about my feelings anymore" bullshyt like that. I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.

About the image she had of me...I was basically the best guy friend she could ask for. She trusted me with anything. Even back when we just "drinking buddies" she would stay at my crib the whole weekend, sleep in my bed with me, knowing she was safe. That type of trust level. Eventually she made the move and I couldn't turn it down. I guess she had an idealized version of me in her mind that I just couldn't live up to. I knew all her faults, flaws, relationship history, etc. going in and I accepted her despite all that. I couldn't get the same consideration back but that's how it go.

For the record she's 21 so I know she has a lot of growing to do. But my optimistic ass thought maybe things could be different with her because she really has held me down through some tough times in my life recently. She's not the person I thought I knew and that's a hard pill to swallow. She'd probably same the thing about me though so idk. I'm going thru it right now brehs.

1. They don’t want you to solve their problem fam. As illogical and weird as that statement sounds...its true. But to 99% of men, we want to even if it makes no sense. She says you don’t do this or that...when in reality you do so you’re like They just can’t and won’t admit to no longer wanting you and therefore in their mind want to end the relationship but in a way which puts the blame on you even though you’re not at fault. Sickening.

2. Men are forgiving and willing to look past certain things. Women are not even though they say they are. Which is why folks in here always speak about not being emotional, crying in front of your woman, going to her in times of hardship, failing, etc. Basically anything that can communicate to her that you’re not strong cuz the minute she sees that, the countdown to the end of your relationship has officially begun.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Men are forgiving and willing to look past certain things. Women are not even though they say they are.

They say Priest go preach!

 

[dat aint da same sandwich]

Your last paragraph is poignant. I spent the last how many weeks trying to get her to communicate what's on her mind, what's bothering her, etc. I straight up told her like...I'm trying hard to make things work and iron out the issues in the relationship, and it's almost like that pushed her away more. But then it's all "you don't listen to anything I say; you don't care about my feelings anymore" bullshyt like that. I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.

About the image she had of me...I was basically the best guy friend she could ask for. She trusted me with anything. Even back when we just "drinking buddies" she would stay at my crib the whole weekend, sleep in my bed with me, knowing she was safe. That type of trust level. Eventually she made the move and I couldn't turn it down. I guess she had an idealized version of me in her mind that I just couldn't live up to. I knew all her faults, flaws, relationship history, etc. going in and I accepted her despite all that. I couldn't get the same consideration back but that's how it go.

For the record she's 21 so I know she has a lot of growing to do. But my optimistic ass thought maybe things could be different with her because she really has held me down through some tough times in my life recently. She's not the person I thought I knew and that's a hard pill to swallow. She'd probably same the thing about me though so idk. I'm going thru it right now brehs.

that's the problem right there. You was the nice guy.

Broads subconsciously see that shyt as weak. You might think you doing the honorable thing, but women are wired differently compared to 100 years ago. Even women twice her age would see it as a turn off.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Too many nutcases I see on online dating. They have the looks but mentally, something is off

Chicks be having Nicki Minaj egos online, but approach them in person, they act way differently. Real Talk!

 

[Rozay Oro]

Too many nutcases I see on online dating. They have the looks but mentally, something is off

Chicks be having Nicki Minaj egos online, but approach them in person, they act way differently. Real Talk!

Everybody big and bad behind the phone keyboard

 

[Vilify]

How do you tell a woman you don't want her spending the night every time she comes over, without hurting her feelings..

 

[TRUEST]

Your last paragraph is poignant. I spent the last how many weeks trying to get her to communicate what's on her mind, what's bothering her, etc. I straight up told her like...I'm trying hard to make things work and iron out the issues in the relationship, and it's almost like that pushed her away more. But then it's all "you don't listen to anything I say; you don't care about my feelings anymore" bullshyt like that. I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.

About the image she had of me...I was basically the best guy friend she could ask for. She trusted me with anything. Even back when we just "drinking buddies" she would stay at my crib the whole weekend, sleep in my bed with me, knowing she was safe. That type of trust level. Eventually she made the move and I couldn't turn it down. I guess she had an idealized version of me in her mind that I just couldn't live up to. I knew all her faults, flaws, relationship history, etc. going in and I accepted her despite all that. I couldn't get the same consideration back but that's how it go.

For the record she's 21 so I know she has a lot of growing to do. But my optimistic ass thought maybe things could be different with her because she really has held me down through some tough times in my life recently. She's not the person I thought I knew and that's a hard pill to swallow. She'd probably same the thing about me though so idk. I'm going thru it right now brehs.

Yikes. Your problem isn’t her. It’s you. You’re expecting figs to grow on thistles and grapes from thorns. A 21 year old is a child with childish feelings. Nothing mature should be expected from her.

with girls u can’t get too comfortable with them that u start being overly accommodating.

 

[Rozay Oro]

How do you tell a woman you don't want her spending the night every time she comes over, without hurting her feelings..

 

[Guvnor]

Questions brehs, is it always a bad sign when a chick turns her phone face down when y'all together.

 

[The ADD]

Questions brehs, is it always a bad sign when a chick turns her phone face down when y'all together.

I don’t think so. If she’s doing that then she seems to be giving you undivided attention. If it was up then she’s distracted and it’s not like you would really see what was going on.

 

[Claudex]

I don’t think so. If she’s doing that then she seems to be giving you undivided attention. If it was up then she’s distracted and it’s not like you would really see what was going on.

This facts breh.
A woman could have her phone jumping, and if she didn't want you to know shyt you really wouldn't know.

She put the phone down then it's because she ain't trying to give a fukk about the phone. A win for you @Guvnor breh.

 

[Killigraphy]

How do you tell a woman you don't want her spending the night every time she comes over, without hurting her feelings..

Hurt her feelings, she won't believe you're so cruel.....and still blow you the following hang out. If you simply aren't as heartless as I, then just lie; it all works if shes just some booty call; "I work tomorrow"/"I have an early day" work. Remember, you don't owe her any explanation to begin with, she's not paying your bills or your mama, kick her out, either aggressively or with lies.

 

[Killigraphy]

Questions brehs, is it always a bad sign when a chick turns her phone face down when y'all together.

To be fair, I do that, as I don't want to be bothered. Doesn't matter if I'm with friends or birds, phone goes down, more importantly on DND and in my pocket. I'm not addicted to alerts so I'm never sucking phone-dikk. Would it be a red flag for me? No. If she wanted to fukk countless men, you'd never know about it.

 

[King]

Time to go back in the field tonight


I swear to god I just know these women gonna be stuck up as usual

Might just stay home

 

[MikelArteta]

Actually had a date today and it went well. We walked around the city looking at my watch like 19km , went down to the fake beach and chilled as well, had a great talk and i was taking photos of the city. Anyways we made it back to where we started and she invited me over to her apartment I said sure. We ended up playing scrabble on her balcony then I had to bounce as I had other obligations.


Spent like three dollars and had a good time