RaspberryFitted
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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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NoirDynosaur
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How to have a better mouthpiece?
Take a look at this book
Develop your charisma. Be interested in other people. Ask questions to get to know people that’s how you create a bond. Start talking with your hands and have a playful vocal tonality
Learn how to lead a conversation. Assertiveness gets results done . If you ever feel nervous, going out your comfort zone is how you’re gonna get rid of your anxiety
Bro, my game was hella trash when I was a teenager. I had a serious case of social anxiety which made me miss out on some Colchis. However, It took a lot of trial and error through my late teens/early 20’s to get where I am today.
Charisma will get a woman wetter if you say the right things along with showing flirty body language.
Be confident! Women can smell fear of a man. Think to yourself “What’s the worst thing that can happen” Possibly rejection. Rejection is more based on your approach than who you are.
Last but not least, believe in yourself. Best of luck!
I’ve been seeing his guy a lot. He has an interesting perspective on vocal image.
I’ve used coaches before to project and work on my voice. (Radio DJs, public speakers)
Breh, where you live again? Lmao I’ve met some strange bw, but a weight requirement is something I’ve never heard of before.
I'm a Steve Urkle by nature but a Stefan Urkle with the broads (I have named it and claimed it, eff y'all handsome gang ninjas, and "I been getting hoes since pre-k" playas - you don't and can't understand my struggle, mein kampf even - shout out to Perp)
So as I'm rapping with a chick, the scientist is always taking notes, gathering data, making extrapolations, tweaking the hypothesis, and altering the experiment. I've seen the patterns. I'll let you in on what i've learned of running through all manner of broads. Domestic and Foreign, English Speaking and ESL. Every color of the rainbow. Short Term and Long Term.
Now, I'm assuming you're a millennial or a Gen Z cat.
All of y'all grew up on the internet. All of your socialization is stunted. Not just you personally, but all men, and all of the women. Especially the women.
Don't down yourself for the time/environment you grew up in. Indeed, there are so many people out there trying to take you down already, especially as a Black Man, that you need to have more than just good self esteem, but DELUSIONAL self esteem.
Gen X cat like myself, our socialization was stunted by TV. We still had a lot more face to face/offline interaction than y'all. I can't tell you the damage that was done to my psyche by WKRP in Cincinnatti and Good Times.
My parents were stunted by radio.
Now my Granny n'nem (RIP) they were prolly messed up by the newspaper....
But way back then That's when "How to Win Friends and Influence people" was written. So rapping with people, be it ones you know or randoms, has always been an issue.
You think you're really off in terms of socialization, but everyone has always been off. Almost everyone around you doesn't feel right, like they get it, like they know what they're doing.
Studies say that most people are extroverts, they get hype off of interacting with people.
The studies are wrong. People are not extroverts, they WISH THEY WERE EXTROVERTS. Even in our culture, most of these females is in groups talking to themselves not even chatting with other women. Most the dudes are playing the wall. It ain't really till the alcohol and music hit that strangers stop being strange. It's even worse in other communities...
But he fact that most people wish they were "social", is the first part of the game.
They wish they could say what they want.
And that's your angle. You're gonna give any man, child, granny, cop, cashier, and IG thot the chance to really speak from the heart.
The Game is ultimately about delivering those feelings, that sense of self, that she cannot get on her own.
And when you give her something intangible, and to keep getting that from you, she gives you something tangible.
That said, as men, we basically have
- the burden to approach
- the burden to say the first words
- the burden to make things live
- the burden to keep things going
- the burden to say the things she won't
- the burden of doing all the nonverbal stuff to get her to a place of understanding.
Pookie n'nem aren't socialized enough to see all this socialization BS. IMO, that's how they can run up in all these broads, be they Jenny from the Block, saddity College chicks, or high falutin PhD's... There's a woman behind all that BS.
In my estimation, from putting cats on SQUARE game for like 15 year or so,
You really need to do this one thing to get your verbal game up to par.
Talk to random mf'ers all the time with the purpose of uncovering a passion.
The Next YOUNG female (for me that's 40 and under, for you that might be 25 and under) you see - be it a customer at the store, cashier, on the bus, at the train, at school, at work - ask them one question
Lemme ask you one question, Beyonce or Rihanna?
I don't elaborate on it. Be it their music catalogue, their persona, who she relates to, etc. Let the broad define it and speak on it.
I just started using that today, and the topic alone is something that OPENS THE DAMN FLOOD GATES.
Talking to random mf'ers, asking questions, pausing to get them to fill in more of how they feel - just giving a broad a chance to speak on something SHE BEEN DYING TO TALK ABOUT (even if she don't know it) - that puts you LEAGUES above the random dude.
The game is not about saying the smoothest stuff, or having the best comeback line. If that's what you want, you need to start roasting fools and getting roasted.
No.
Gift of Gab is what lames see in Pimps. IMO, Pimps don't see that in other Pimps. But being that I'm talking square game, cause I'm regular polygon like a mug - I don't want to speak on that which I don't really know.
As a dude that's run through chicks, when I see a dude light a chick up, light her friends up - I know he has game. Especially when he's not being a clown, telling jokes, or dancing. When he's just conversating and getting them to emote... It's on like Donkey Kong.
The game is about GETTING HER TO FEEL SOMETHING, i.e. BRINGING SOMETHING OUT OF HER.
This game goes FAR BEYOND picking up broads, but "sold not told".
If you can ask simple things, make simple statements, and get the chick flowing from her own survival scrolls - be it positive or negative (ideally both) - you have something that most men CANNOT CONTEMPLATE.
Most dudes want to work out, want to wear tight clothes, want to work, want to show off their riches, want to roll with the strongest crew. There's a lot to be said about that. I would call all of that passive attraction. It works.
But I want you to do active attraction. You're making something out of nothing. If you ever see an average dude with a very hot female, and he looks like a bum - it's because he's got her mind. What he's giving to her is something on the psychological tip that 6 Figures Dude or 6 Pack dude can't give her. The hotter she is, the more run of the mill those guys are.
So the principles here
Are always talk to broads about things that they're passionate about.
Never talk to a broad about stuff you're passionate about. (Like no FEMALE wants to hear me wax philosophical about Sara Jay and Gianna Michaels ushering in the PAWG era and changing the face of modern dating, or how Big L, had he lived, would have faded away like everyone else in DITC...I digress)
You need to ask follow up questions, clarifications.
But it don't need to be "active listening" level of follow up questions. You're not a therapist.
Stuff like, you 1) put on a face of misunderstanding and then say 2) "Really?"
The broad will double down and get more emo.
So the verbal game is not about you having a comeback for everything she puts out, it's you getting her to speak on stuff that she's passionate about.
Since you didn't pay for this, I'm giving you a money back guarantee. Approaching broads like this will sky rocket your game.
Your ability to get emotions out of females is the crucial first step in this.
There are 2 more steps, but you just asked about the verbal part of the game.
Used to live in NYC, in CLE for a little business / couple projects.
Considering moving back lol.
The key to confidence and convo skills is to get s fukking life.
nikkas be in the crib watching anime all day and playing video games then shocked they aint got shyt to talk to hoes about
nikkas be in the crib watching anime all day and playing video games then shocked they aint got shyt to talk to hoes about
Rich Spirit
#LeveledUp
yea guys gotta get out the house. Join social groups, attend networking events, etc.The key to confidence and convo skills is to get s fukking life.
nikkas be in the crib watching anime all day and playing video games then shocked they aint got shyt to talk to hoes about
BandOfGypsys
All Star
I'm a Steve Urkle by nature but a Stefan Urkle with the broads (I have named it and claimed it, eff y'all handsome gang ninjas, and "I been getting hoes since pre-k" playas - you don't and can't understand my struggle, mein kampf even - shout out to Perp)
So as I'm rapping with a chick, the scientist is always taking notes, gathering data, making extrapolations, tweaking the hypothesis, and altering the experiment. I've seen the patterns. I'll let you in on what i've learned of running through all manner of broads. Domestic and Foreign, English Speaking and ESL. Every color of the rainbow. Short Term and Long Term.
Now, I'm assuming you're a millennial or a Gen Z cat.
All of y'all grew up on the internet. All of your socialization is stunted. Not just you personally, but all men, and all of the women. Especially the women.
Don't down yourself for the time/environment you grew up in. Indeed, there are so many people out there trying to take you down already, especially as a Black Man, that you need to have more than just good self esteem, but DELUSIONAL self esteem.
Gen X cat like myself, our socialization was stunted by TV. We still had a lot more face to face/offline interaction than y'all. I can't tell you the damage that was done to my psyche by WKRP in Cincinnatti and Good Times.
My parents were stunted by radio.
Now my Granny n'nem (RIP) they were prolly messed up by the newspaper....
But way back then That's when "How to Win Friends and Influence people" was written. So rapping with people, be it ones you know or randoms, has always been an issue.
You think you're really off in terms of socialization, but everyone has always been off. Almost everyone around you doesn't feel right, like they get it, like they know what they're doing.
Studies say that most people are extroverts, they get hype off of interacting with people.
The studies are wrong. People are not extroverts, they WISH THEY WERE EXTROVERTS. Even in our culture, most of these females is in groups talking to themselves not even chatting with other women. Most the dudes are playing the wall. It ain't really till the alcohol and music hit that strangers stop being strange. It's even worse in other communities...
But he fact that most people wish they were "social", is the first part of the game.
They wish they could say what they want.
And that's your angle. You're gonna give any man, child, granny, cop, cashier, and IG thot the chance to really speak from the heart.
The Game is ultimately about delivering those feelings, that sense of self, that she cannot get on her own.
And when you give her something intangible, and to keep getting that from you, she gives you something tangible.
That said, as men, we basically have
So even if you're starting from a deficit that all men your age are starting from, and these hoes have weird and sky high requirements - recognize that even with all these things going against you - the bar is still LOW.
- the burden to approach
- the burden to say the first words
- the burden to make things live
- the burden to keep things going
- the burden to say the things she won't
- the burden of doing all the nonverbal stuff to get her to a place of understanding.
Pookie n'nem aren't socialized enough to see all this socialization BS. IMO, that's how they can run up in all these broads, be they Jenny from the Block, saddity College chicks, or high falutin PhD's... There's a woman behind all that BS.
In my estimation, from putting cats on SQUARE game for like 15 year or so,
You really need to do this one thing to get your verbal game up to par.
Talk to random mf'ers all the time with the purpose of uncovering a passion.
The Next YOUNG female (for me that's 40 and under, for you that might be 25 and under) you see - be it a customer at the store, cashier, on the bus, at the train, at school, at work - ask them one question
Lemme ask you one question, Beyonce or Rihanna?
I don't elaborate on it. Be it their music catalogue, their persona, who she relates to, etc. Let the broad define it and speak on it.
I just started using that today, and the topic alone is something that OPENS THE DAMN FLOOD GATES.
Talking to random mf'ers, asking questions, pausing to get them to fill in more of how they feel - just giving a broad a chance to speak on something SHE BEEN DYING TO TALK ABOUT (even if she don't know it) - that puts you LEAGUES above the random dude.
The game is not about saying the smoothest stuff, or having the best comeback line. If that's what you want, you need to start roasting fools and getting roasted.
No.
Gift of Gab is what lames see in Pimps. IMO, Pimps don't see that in other Pimps. But being that I'm talking square game, cause I'm regular polygon like a mug - I don't want to speak on that which I don't really know.
As a dude that's run through chicks, when I see a dude light a chick up, light her friends up - I know he has game. Especially when he's not being a clown, telling jokes, or dancing. When he's just conversating and getting them to emote... It's on like Donkey Kong.
The game is about GETTING HER TO FEEL SOMETHING, i.e. BRINGING SOMETHING OUT OF HER.
This game goes FAR BEYOND picking up broads, but "sold not told".
If you can ask simple things, make simple statements, and get the chick flowing from her own survival scrolls - be it positive or negative (ideally both) - you have something that most men CANNOT CONTEMPLATE.
Most dudes want to work out, want to wear tight clothes, want to work, want to show off their riches, want to roll with the strongest crew. There's a lot to be said about that. I would call all of that passive attraction. It works.
But I want you to do active attraction. You're making something out of nothing. If you ever see an average dude with a very hot female, and he looks like a bum - it's because he's got her mind. What he's giving to her is something on the psychological tip that 6 Figures Dude or 6 Pack dude can't give her. The hotter she is, the more run of the mill those guys are.
So the principles here
Are always talk to broads about things that they're passionate about.
Never talk to a broad about stuff you're passionate about. (Like no FEMALE wants to hear me wax philosophical about Sara Jay and Gianna Michaels ushering in the PAWG era and changing the face of modern dating, or how Big L, had he lived, would have faded away like everyone else in DITC...I digress)
You need to ask follow up questions, clarifications.
But it don't need to be "active listening" level of follow up questions. You're not a therapist.
Stuff like, you 1) put on a face of misunderstanding and then say 2) "Really?"
The broad will double down and get more emo.
So the verbal game is not about you having a comeback for everything she puts out, it's you getting her to speak on stuff that she's passionate about.
Since you didn't pay for this, I'm giving you a money back guarantee. Approaching broads like this will sky rocket your game.
Your ability to get emotions out of females is the crucial first step in this.
There are 2 more steps, but you just asked about the verbal part of the game.
Thanks breh, sometimes I get in the "interview" mode and just ask BS questions that mean nothing and don't know how to fill in the spaces when it's my turn. I know I need to practice more with randoms, it was a chick at the grocery store the other day that choosing hard but I'm iffy on if it was a tranny or not so I didn't even try. Also I hear fat bytches are good for practice.
Since the locs are growing, working out is paying off and I finally realized I had to shave off that crooked ass mustache "I'm clean-shaven gang now" the choosing has been off the charts to what I'm used to so I should really be swimming in it. Not hitting the same hoes over and over.
I'm considering joining toastmasters
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BandOfGypsys
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skyrunner1
Superstar
I would say if you feel like you are behind you will need reps, lots of reps, conscious reps where you put yourself in position to be around people and need to be social, not just with women but in general.. I think the main thing is exposure, even when I lock in for a couple months focus and come back I can feel the atrophy in skills but get them back quickly, I couldnt imagine someone who just does work/school and then comes home and stays in room isolated..What's the best way to improve your mouthpiece brehs? I'm seriously lacking in this area, this the main area holding me back from more
Another thing I dont see mentioned as much but have noticed is you will have to be comfortable leading an interaction and not just that but something I would say is being comfortable with awkwardness. Awkwardness will inevitably happen, the person who can manage those moments and take the burden off the other person or group is the one that is usually thought of as "charismatic".. I honestly think that is a large chunk of it that doesnt get mentioned. Like the most charasmatic people I know all handle awkward moments like they dont even happen, I guess thats why the dark triad type stuff gets mentioned because those guys just blow thru everything with ease..
Example I was at football game, had a friend I havent seen at same game, I go to meet up with him at halftime where he is sitting, link up with him and he is with a crew of people I never met, he is kinda lit from tailgating and debauchery so there was an awkward moment of this new guy being introduced to group that they dont know. I already can sensing it, I dont make it more awkward waiting for drunk guy to introduce, or just stand in corner, I make a joke and introduce myself and how I know him, how we played ball, etc. I then ask how a nice group of people like them know this savage, they laugh and they all teach together, yada yada.. They buy me a beer, I say lets all get a pic, the wife hit her man and said, you see you can take pics lol..
He texted me that they want me to tailgate with them next week for big game.. Now this is super overboard as far as breaking down but these little things can be difference between positive /negative interactions.. Obviously didnt start like that and thats years of starting from just pointing out nails on a cashier and going from there..
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Big Yella
It really ain’t tho
BandOfGypsys
All Star
This is such a good way to look at it that I never thought of and actually seems achievable.
I honestly spent my childhood in the house homeschooled, no friends and depressed AF so that shyt deteriorated fast!
Business/personal/interpersonal relationships are all structured on forming connections/making connections with others.
I don't, or don't want to do the hype man style of trying to make everyone laugh, trying to please/serve everyone, or trying to tease people I like. I try to find
a) people I am attracted to
b) find what connects us
in general I tend to have more stable/more connected relationships of all kinds, because they have some kind of foundation.
I don't, or don't want to do the hype man style of trying to make everyone laugh, trying to please/serve everyone, or trying to tease people I like. I try to find
a) people I am attracted to
b) find what connects us
in general I tend to have more stable/more connected relationships of all kinds, because they have some kind of foundation.
Exactly if you arent witty you can at least talk to hoes anojt hobbies with a sprinkle of pop culture (movies and music).
Literally telling a chick about a most recent trip you took or plan on taking will get you laid