Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Redwood]

I think women sub consciously always testing you too. They don’t even know it sometimes but they want to see what kind of man you are and if you are “worthy” of the p*ssy.

When you reach a certain age, that "testing" gets old

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

When you reach a certain age, that "testing" gets old

Like I says tho they do it subconsciously like they might not even realize it. It’s in there nature/survival skills.

 

[Redwood]

Like I says tho they do it subconsciously like they might not even realize it. It’s in there nature/survival skills.

When you been raked through the coals you start to see how petty it is

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

When you been raked through the coals you start to see how petty it is

*how Petty women are

 

[Redwood]

*how Petty women are

Just like how everyone else pretty much are

 

[cyndaquil]

When you reach a certain age, that "testing" gets old

aint shyt we can do about it but maintain a masculine frame. She trying to test you just check that shyt immediately and maintain your boundaries

 

[VertigoKnight]

got her number off the app but she said she cant meet till next weekend cause shes planning her aunt funeral. not trying to sit here and text for days. I got other options but not sure how to play this in the mean time.

Did she mention a funeral when you first started talking or only when you asked to see her?

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Did she mention a funeral when you first started talking or only when you asked to see her?

When I asked to see her. Doesn’t make sense to me if funeral is next week? I did ask her how the planning was going she said she’s working on a speech for it. I duno maybe she has family coming in?

 

[Redwood]

aint shyt we can do about it but maintain a masculine frame. She trying to test you just check that shyt immediately and maintain your boundaries

I know, most times I don't even care about all that and fail them on purpose

 

[cyndaquil]

Found a chick who has no social media...lo and behold the typical dating app bullshyt is nowhere to be seen so far.
This shyt is rotting these hoes brains so bad

She also actually has plans for for Father's day

 

[Ohene]

Found a chick who has no social media...lo and behold the typical dating app bullshyt is nowhere to be seen so far.
This shyt is rotting these hoes brains so bad

She also actually has plans for for Father's day

 

[The Jewnited States]

Found a chick who has no social media...lo and behold the typical dating app bullshyt is nowhere to be seen so far.
This shyt is rotting these hoes brains so bad

She also actually has plans for for Father's day

A chick without social media? You found the unicorn breh

 

[Brandsdale]

Found a chick who has no social media...lo and behold the typical dating app bullshyt is nowhere to be seen so far.
This shyt is rotting these hoes brains so bad

She also actually has plans for for Father's day

If she’s black, I think you found Mewtwo breh

 

[cyndaquil]

If she’s black, I think you found Mewtwo breh

Latina

Not my usual type but I'm open. Showing very high interest. We'll see how it goes

 

[skyrunner1]

In theory that’s what they want but a lot of women have attachment issues from unresolved trauma whether it be from childhood or adult relationships.

Unless they do the self improvement work/seek therapy it’s a perpetual cycle of running away from men who are serious about committing or who are serious with their intentions. I just went through it a couple weeks ago. I was reading something about attachment styles trying to find answers after this relationship ended.

What I found that was interesting was that after a certain age majority of the dating pool are avoidant types simply because the secure types (as you can already imagine) have no trouble holding a long term relationship bond. To some that may sound like psychological babble but based on that locker room thread of “dating after 30” it kinda lines up.

Brehs have countless stories of vibing heavy with a chick, the relationship is great, and then suddenly they go cold and eventually bail. My previous relationship was like that. She claimed I was everything she wanted, she’s still attracted to me and how much she loves me but yet ended the relationship. Why? In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter because nobody will ever know what her true feelings are.

I take things at face value. I’m not the only one that’s experienced that out here. So what I’m preparing for is really paying attention to certain key words a chick will say and asking specific questions to weed out the “avoidant” types to not waste time and have the rug pulled out suddenly when things are clicking along. I recommend the book “Attached”. It provides a lot of insight into what the dating pool is like.

Theres truth in what youre saying. I went through the same issue in January.

However the point were making is that youre better off showing your hand early and then saving yourself the wasted time. If shorty is avoidant youre better off being cut loose after a couple dates versus after a couple months.

I think one date is too soon cause you dont even know the girl yourself. But after a month things should start to be pretty smooth/easy imo and one is better off not playing games

It's as if you gotta come with 99% "lets get married energy" but 1% Toxic steez like you're gonna leave at any second because she's not pretty enough/prettier girls out there (when in fact she's perfectly fine, and it's her behavior that's the problem not her looks. But most females are convinced that men are 100% driven by visuals...and being on The Coli would probably not disabuse them of that notion)

That's if you care about the girls mental/emotional state and want to keep her in status that *you* like.

You can totally not care about her avoidant/insecure tendencies and replace her independent streaks and flights of fancy with concrete tasks. But thats for guys that like to rule a relationship with an iron fist..

Miss a couple days and miss this exchange on attachment.. Definitely an important discussion for brehs and probably needs to be fleshed out. I am usually someone who sidesteps as mostly woowoo type stuff but when I actually looked into it a couple years back, it was paradigm shifting to me, could see how it affected multiple relationships. I actually think "game" is just packaged Avoidant behavior lol.. I know I have said multiple times that when I became exposed to "game" online, it felt like home and fit like a glove for me. Would also be confused why past behavior would have girls chasing even more when they say they want the opposite. Getting understanding on attachment theory answered why I felt that way. Brehs definitely dont underestimate this stuff, its atleast a pillar in helping you understand what you are dealing with or looking at yourself in mirror.

I know @Ohene talked about getting them to expose early than later but thats the thing, avoidants know how to do the beginning of dating stage REALLLLY well .. Like I said "game". They not even doing it consciously, it just happens that way. It reveals itself month down the line when vibes cant carry the relationship anymore and the other party wonders where this is going. Thats when its like hold on, I got commitment issues or some shyt comes up .. Then the chase begins and it triggers an outdated coping mechanism. Dont let it be an anxious type, they are drawn like moths to a flame.. Had to sit my ass down and build self back up brick by brick. Lets see how that plays out. Even if miss discussion good stuff and needed for other brehs. Its life changing because most of that stuff is subconscious and just coping behavior that while might have been adequate at younger age is outdated and outlived use in adulthood.