nikkas be on these train rides that clearly aint gonna end well because they got no options and then don't even be smashing lmfao.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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nikkas be on these train rides that clearly aint gonna end well because they got no options and then don't even be smashing lmfao.
A lot of these dudes just don't have the self confidence that they display on here because some of these scenarios always sound crazy from the jump and they dive in head first. But some also have a scarcity mindset with women. Like if they turn this one down they won't ever get an opportunity for other women to come into their lives. Some of them honestly need to focus on themselves and get their lives right. When you're aligned with who you are and where you're heading some of these types of chicks wouldn't even approach you or be appealing at all
yeah, like Usually the brehs who "got shyt together" have the issue of the chick I`m with is cool but like nothing more than Eternal GF Status but I`m not gonna marry her lol, but these nikkas talking bout they life amazing and they got shyt going and chicks hitting them with invoices, that is number 1 "I see you as a trick provider" status which is usually nikkas tryna punch above their weight class or just dealing with bums.
If you dealing with women who actually into you aint none of thew stupid games, or how should I text her and all that shyt. Like I said before lotta dudes don't wanna be honest that the women who tend to be into them if any are simply unattractive so they are stuck in purgatory of not qualifying for who they want OR not wanting who wants them/nobody wanting them.
then you got the cases of dudes going through all these bootcamps for chicks that don't like them and they haven't even slept with her. I`m not saying p*ssy is the end all be all what I am saying it doesn't take a woman long to know if she is into you, and if you actually come off as a Man you are the one in the driver seat and its really you disqualifying her.
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Paranoid women are the WOAT...
The ones that be watching all that ID channel and A&E shyt bout true crimes
they be wanting all your info. References, work history, birthday, siblings names, birth certificate 
The ones that be watching all that ID channel and A&E shyt bout true crimes
they be wanting all your info. References, work history, birthday, siblings names, birth certificate 
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I Am A God
I was speaking on a situation from literally 15 years ago when I was dealing with a chick I didn't really want. As soon as I fukked her, she asked me to buy her some scrubs for work. And at one point she asked me for $500 bucks. She worshipped the ground I walked on and met me back in my DJ years but I was never into her at all. She was one of those chicks who thought a man should solve all her problems but at the time I was dealing with her was because it was an easy lay and she was giving me attention. She's was more of a bum category than me punching above my weight class because I didn't even want her. Back in my Dj years, it was easy to attract these types. I no longer DJ anymore and am in a completely different life and career.
My point of bringing that up in my initial post is that I'm way more selective these days. I now date women who I actually like and women who have things going for themselves now.
I hear you, in general. as a man you shouldn't be around women who clearly have nothing to lose as outside of annoying it is a safety concern too because these are chicks who have no problem lining you up.
But even with the "women I like, and have things going for themselves" my thing is before all of that she needs to be into me above all else and then from there filter out "ok I can rock with her on the looks, lemme see what the personality and lifestyle looks like".
how often do you run into situations where a chick seems clearly interested and then pulls back/switches up
recently this has happened to me a few times after like the third date
the in person chemistry is great, cadence is decent, attraction is clear but then they kinda do a 180
ive never had a woman switch up on me, my issue is usually the chicks lifestyle doesn't align with mine, or she has too much trauma that I don't want to deal with nor should I have to (that is what therapy is for). The only time I can say a woman "changed" was more so a case of me myself going through depression and becoming lesser than who I was (and I didnt need to be in a relationship) so that is more so a mix of "he isn't the man I feel In love with" paired with women not being groomed to "go through the thick and thin", but we were not married so even then it isn't expected.
I feel you
I run into the bolded a lot too
Last chick i was dating told me her dad cheated on her mom and they got divorced. Homie then got married to the side piece
My antennas started flaring immediately- no surprise it flamed out lol
If a woman has no stories of loving her dad and singing her praises she should already be disqualified for long term commitment, and then of she does sing her fathers praises the next stage is gauging if he was a simp or actually a man lol which then lets you know if she is worth long term commitment. That said these are MY guidelines and I use this because very few seek therapy to heal and become the exception of the rule, and to be honest therapy can't even heal you from that kinda stuff so the rule hasn't really failed me.
You can't use cases where a women loves her bothers or uncles because those men are not seen as "men", uncles are a utility who filled the gap of a father from a DUTY standpoint but not "I see how this man treated my mother", and brothers are seen as the "child" of a woman if he is her age or younger, or in the same category of uncle if he is older.
If a woman has no reference of seeing a Father Lead a home, be decisive, and love her mother then she has no examples nor was she obviously raised to be in a long term relationship let alone marriage, hence why women tend to self sabotage when they fall for a man because they are afraid of entering unchartered territory.
That said with how the past decades have been these type of women are becoming more of a minority.
Yeap like I always say the biggest problem with dating is that both men and women both want the idealistic partner that they don't qualify for or don't want to actually put the work in to become the version of themselves to attract that type. But the person that truly is for them or wants to date them is around them or has shot their shot but they rejected them because they don't fit the "look" of the person they feel they should be with.
Also alot of people are just lacking in self confidence and self worth. So they feel they need to be with someone to help fill that lonely and unhappy void within themselves and place it on their partner which also scares folks away.
at my age my main thing is do we get along? like if we don't get a long I don't want to be around you. I`m not a picky person when it comes to looks as Im like if you are in decent shape and take care of your skin and don't have deformities like 9/10 as a women you would be cute lol.
for me dating =/= relationship/commitment. The things I`m calling out = women Id actually commit to/start a family with, anyone else we can date all date but it is more of a enjoy the ride vs this is going to = family creation.
its important to compartmentalize/separate the two. where many men (including myself at times) get fukked up is by projecting a potential long term relationship with somebody who clearly doesnt have to tools/mindset conducive to be in one - just cause of "chemistry" and attraction etc.