They using the term wrong but I assume I'm gonna be an anti social hermit while.you chase before.you smash
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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They using the term wrong but I assume I'm gonna be an anti social hermit while.you chase before.you smash
I'm seeing a lot of content lately about men saying they aren't approaching women because other men are flooding their DMS or they get hit on everyday.
Men gotta reprogram their mindset. The first thing you have to say is "She haven't met me yet!" yeah these guys may have money, clout, followers, status etc but they don't have MY ENERGY, It's gonna make me stand out
I been apart of doing hip hop media and that shyt is a jungle and found a lane and way to standout so I figured if I can do that.. With Women it ain't shyt
Do I get chosen all the time? Of course not and that's ok because everyone is different. But men thinking not approaching or doing anything is gonna rewire the game and they gonna go
Once you find the ones that like and respect you it's nothing
I hit and get hit on out and about all the time, including last night where like three women came up to me, and spit their game to me-, another story- and I don't disagree with you, but my one caveat would be that the pull of technology/digital can be extremely powerful.
It's like this: in person interactions can be thrilling and sexually charged, or just nice, it feels goods to have someone compliment you, or hit on you. But not the same way as a digital dopamine hit. It's this weird dynamic, where text/digital/social is almost MORE real, where you can have a hot in person connection, and then text that person and they just don't answer. For whatever reason, but 100% sometimes, they are just like MORE comfortable pursuing those social media connections.
A woman can meet you and like you, but it's not the same as having like a half dozen, or a dozen dudes hitting her up on social media, trying to fly her out, or fly in, or buy her a 100 roses or whatever, and that's like the extreme, for the super bad IG girls I know, but increasingly, even women I know who are like semi professionals, they carry themselves on social media like basically escorts. They have that pornstar look. But thats a digression.
And probably they never even meet up, but that validation, that dopamine is strong. And you are more in control. Those same girls that came up to me in the spot last night, snaked their arms around my back, stared into my eyes, or tried to get me to dance with them, my guess is they would be a fukking nightmare to get to actually go out with. (or go home with)
Meeting up with someone, a relative stranger is awkward. It can make you nervous. And it involves on some level ceding some control. You have to meet up. You have to at least commit to that. But messaging with a bunch of prospects at distance keeps you in control. You can back out or back in at any moment. And I do think this is very very common in modern dating. I don't have much but my own observations, but I straight up think people have way less sex now, because of this.
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as somebody who solely approaches women i actually kinda disagree. i honestly dont blame men who choose to only date onlineI'm seeing a lot of content lately about men saying they aren't approaching women because other men are flooding their DMS or they get hit on everyday.
Men gotta reprogram their mindset. The first thing you have to say is "She haven't met me yet!" yeah these guys may have money, clout, followers, status etc but they don't have MY ENERGY, It's gonna make me stand out
I been apart of doing hip hop media and that shyt is a jungle and found a lane and way to standout so I figured if I can do that.. With Women it ain't shyt
Do I get chosen all the time? Of course not and that's ok because everyone is different. But men thinking not approaching or doing anything is gonna rewire the game and they gonna go
Once you find the ones that like and respect you it's nothing
women dont appreciate it. they might in the moment but they will treat you no different then the guy who just DMs or likes their profile on hinge. so theres no real point. plus like @re'up alluded to, they treat the person with the souped up IG profile better
cyndaquil
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I assume it's cuz they going from one extreme to the other. They was all in wasting men time then when men stopped responding and started unmatching when they do that they now moving to the other extreme of tryna meet up quick and not have their time wasted. But the sad part is when both sexes start taking accountability for how fast things move and actually communicate these issues would be avoided. But we know this shyt operates on crests and troughs like waves. It'll swing back again lol
I said hefore everyone tryna not get got so they want to one up the other its why you see this ping pong of extremes as you say.
Women wasting time yet talk they want communication so men said ok we finna sit on this app and talk so i see if i like you lol
And then men matching and not messaging first got chicks heated lol
cyndaquil
Lv 100 Bold natured
Might have to go back and read some posts in here I havent seen. Thread long as hell tho
Wargames
One Of The Last Real Ones To Do It
Depending on where you are at it also be the timing of the year, we are going into Fall. That is “last call” on finding someone before winter comes back and physically going on a date is a bit of a struggle cause the weather is worse.
Summer and Fall is usually when women want to go out more.
Fall they want relationships for holidays and company party and too cold for brunch
Wargames
One Of The Last Real Ones To Do It
Yeah but Fall is last call, if you don’t get nobody it’s gonna be a lonely winter. The availability of women is a yearly cycle.
but you know what...in a lot of ways the very first post is the only one that matters.. a lot of the shyt on page 1 is stuff that rings true today.
1. not coming on too strong
2. lying to preserve peace/sell them their dream
3. making a woman feel comfortable
Brandsdale
Big Yella
I don’t see any of these new trends yall talm bout on dating apps
Every other month when I download them apps it’s a ghost town for me lol
Every other month when I download them apps it’s a ghost town for me lol
The delusion of these women 
We're not here to be apart of your goofy ass romance fantasy
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