Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Right, I know his work. He's been saying this since around then. I want to say he was an engineer. How did you feel after reading the book, back in 2014? that Sean Parker quote, where he says

• “The thought process that went into building these applications, Facebook being the first of them, … was all about: ‘How do we consume as much of your time and conscious attention as possible?'”
• “And that means that we need to sort of give you a little dopamine hit every once in a while, because someone liked or commented on a photo or a post or whatever. And that’s going to get you to contribute more content, and that’s going to get you … more likes and comments.”
• “It’s a social-validation feedback loop … exactly the kind of thing that a hacker like myself would come up with, because you’re exploiting a vulnerability in human psychology.”
• “The inventors, creators — it’s me, it’s Mark [Zuckerberg], it’s Kevin Systrom on Instagram, it’s all of these people — understood this consciously. And we did it anyway.”

I say on here all the time, I never had ONE social media app, not one. But it's not like I knew better back in 2007. I couldn't even give a straight answer as to why I didn't get one. Everyone I knew was on it. But, I don't doubt it would have hooked me too, for at least a period of significant time. I was so ignorant of social media, I didn't even see or realize it's power for a long time.

In 2014, I started noticing everyone on their phones all the time, and I was like are they all making money like that? Are they fukking with that many men/women? I'd have my Blackberry and IPhone, and wasn't on it like that. It was all foreign to me. Around 2017, I used to access Instagram through google, and at the time, it was pretty close to what the app was like, but I remember how an hour would just pass like 5 minutes, going from one profile to another. People I knew 15 years ago. Their friends. Their bullshyt. Their friends friends. Super addicting. A cycle of nothingness.

I dont think you woulda got hooked

I say this as somebody who at different pts has been convinced to get fb, snapchat and ig but would notice how they affected ppl and quite frankly thought they were wack. So as. Result i deleted facebook right after graduation and never really hopped on ig but had an acct that was deactivated 95% of the time.

Youre probably a non conformist or somebody who really pays attention to how stimuli affects ppl. Even if you hopped on it you woulda saw it for what it is and disengaged

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

All this tech to make our lives easier and entertain us - but we all feel worse, or affected by people feeling worse - which brings us down whether we want to be down or not.

jonathan haidt has a book called “anxious generation”

Suicide rate among women thru the roof
When IG took off

 

[Ohene]

These kids, all they have is a phone. No wallet, no money, no keys. Just a phone. That was tech's goal, is for the phone to centralize everything.

I've never had The Coli/SOHH on my phone. I only post from my IMac at home, since always. Again, I don't even know why that is, or why I decided that. I felt like I was already on the internet too much when I was around 22. And it was really just desktop on SOHH and reading the news. Around 2008, I remember saying to my boy who got the first IPhone, I already feel like I am on the internet too much, why would I need an IPhone? What a fukking delusion.

I grew up walking to school with a Discman/walkman, and always had headphones, but when I took out the AirPods about 3 years ago, it feels a lot better. I hear the birds, I hear background noise, pieces of conversations, and I am not tapping and clicking, which is the most important.

Those few times I binged IG through google, I remember feeling weird, like snapping out of a trance. I could have gone on forever, and that's without liking a post. it was 10:00 PM and I'd spent 2 hours on the couch looking up people who I haven't spoken to in years, going through all their mundane details. It felt vaguely gross. I can only imagine spending hours a day doing that and the cognitive affect it must have.

Breh i was at a jays playoff game this wknd and i seen a kid with hos parents playing some bs cell phone game

Tickets were like 250-300 too

Could you imagine? Id be tempted to beat my kids ass if he was playing games on his phone playing games throughout a live playoff sporting event lol