Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Malcolmxxx_23]

All this tech to make our lives easier and entertain us - but we all feel worse, or affected by people feeling worse - which brings us down whether we want to be down or not.

jonathan haidt has a book called “anxious generation”

Suicide rate among women thru the roof
When IG took off

 

[Ohene]

These kids, all they have is a phone. No wallet, no money, no keys. Just a phone. That was tech's goal, is for the phone to centralize everything.

I've never had The Coli/SOHH on my phone. I only post from my IMac at home, since always. Again, I don't even know why that is, or why I decided that. I felt like I was already on the internet too much when I was around 22. And it was really just desktop on SOHH and reading the news. Around 2008, I remember saying to my boy who got the first IPhone, I already feel like I am on the internet too much, why would I need an IPhone? What a fukking delusion.

I grew up walking to school with a Discman/walkman, and always had headphones, but when I took out the AirPods about 3 years ago, it feels a lot better. I hear the birds, I hear background noise, pieces of conversations, and I am not tapping and clicking, which is the most important.

Those few times I binged IG through google, I remember feeling weird, like snapping out of a trance. I could have gone on forever, and that's without liking a post. it was 10:00 PM and I'd spent 2 hours on the couch looking up people who I haven't spoken to in years, going through all their mundane details. It felt vaguely gross. I can only imagine spending hours a day doing that and the cognitive affect it must have.

Breh i was at a jays playoff game this wknd and i seen a kid with his parents playing some bs cell phone game

Tickets were like 250-300 too

Could you imagine? Id be tempted to beat my kids ass if he was playing games on his phone playing games throughout a live playoff sporting event lol

 

[jay83]

It’s crazy the number of black women who have dated slept with white dudes that has put up with racist shyt. Was at a get together 3 black women. 1 SA, 1 from UK and 1 from America all dated white dudes and said they would say racist shyt.
“ why didn’t you leave?”

“ I don’t know, didn’t think he meant it.”

 

[Ohene]

It’s crazy the number of black women who have dated slept with white dudes that has put up with racist shyt. Was at a get together 3 black women. 1 SA, 1 from UK and 1 from America all dated white dudes and said they would say racist shyt.
“ why didn’t you leave?”

“ I don’t know, didn’t think he meant it.”

i be tryna tell ppl lol
white men privilege is next level. all races of women will overlook a lot of shyt to be with them. its disgusting

 

[Apollo Creed]

One day in Thailand/SE Asia seems flooded with washed Western Feminist + Black dudes seem to leave an impression where all the fat Thai women flock to them (I assume they are undesirable to the White dudes and of course locals lol).

 

[Canon]

One day in Thailand/SE Asia seems flooded with washed Western Feminist + Black dudes seem to leave an impression where all the fat Thai women flock to them (I assume they are undesirable to the White dudes and of course locals lol).

Women just have this habit of being where they claim all losers are lately

 

[Apollo Creed]

Women just have this habit of being where they claim all losers are lately

SE asia always attracted the herbal tea types but its just funny local men dont want these women yet they claim they have the options lol. Travel chicks only deal with expats or grt ran at their sex tourist hubs like Jamaica and Italy.

I have tours every day so really aint even studying chicks as im not here long enough, apps just open for any layups/down time

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

i be tryna tell ppl lol
white men privilege is next level. all races of women will overlook a lot of shyt to be with them. its disgusting

To easy for them
They sleep with women of color to end their sex drought

Black Asian and Indian girls

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

If you're with a chick, or messaging a chick trying to set something up, and she says "but what about your girlfriend" or "what about that other girl I saw you with" or anything similar, just leave her alone. She's not interested and is just wasting your time.

 

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[Redwood]

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[WIA20XX]

Ozempic Face

 

[Ahadi]

When we were talking about music, I thought about that more, and went on like a three day listening binge, Jodeci, R. Kelly, Brain McKnight, The Isley Brothers, Janet Jackson, Keith Sweat, Mariah Carey, like all that. And even though I play them all the time, I was struck by how drenched in how romance it was, and how drenched in sex it was, when thinking about modern culture. I found some quote on Reddit about how the music back then had a focus on romantic relationships, the yearning, the passion, the romance. And the heartbreak. But it was rarely just an individualistic perspective, which seemed accurate to me.

And I don't listen to a lot of modern R&B, but I know enough, and I would say it is very focused on one person's experience, often framed negatively. A song like R.Kelly and Sparkle Be Careful, (this song sounds so reasonable in 2025) was a masterpiece, and a song like Drake and SZA Slime U Out is something I like. But a little of that goes a long way, and for a lot of people, that's all they hear. Who are the big stars? SZA? And a lot of imitators. Doja Cat, Dooechii. And the pop stars, like Sabrina Carpenter, the music is maybe "empowering", but compared to like 90's Janet, or Mariah, it's not uplifting.

Some of these women I know, who are like 30, they all seem to lack that romance, that kind of passion. I was thinking if they listened to all that 90's shyt for a month, they would feel better. And I don't know which one is upstream or downstream of the other, music/culture/labels/artists, but it's pretty apparent to me. The music reflects the times.

cause its not about romance anymore. its just straight fukking, scamming, getting over on somebody, cheating, etc. Toxic music is the energy now.

SZAs, Summer Walkers, Mariah The Scientist, etc.

Tbh a lot of these women werent taught romance either.

 

[Ahadi]

Dont forget, IG MAJOR update that initially had many u in arms but them going from chronological order feed to Algorithm based one was a game changer also.. In early 2016. There is a reason many feels things changed around that time, that has alot to do with it. Camera phones and broadband like speed introduced on wireless also happened around that mid 2010's..

I will say i see ppl moving away from IG. i see a couple post on tiktok / twitter expressing how they're staying off of IG because it seems "performative", everyone is using expensive cameras to take photos, renting black trucks, designer, luxury, travel, and there's more people watching, than engaging. Its almost forcing people to make new accounts, that are smaller, but more "real" / natural in a sense.

So people will have there flashy IG, then their "real life" IG. Some people also are getting off the app, or removing their photos and leaving their profiles blank or private.

 

[Ahadi]

It’s crazy the number of black women who have dated slept with white dudes that has put up with racist shyt. Was at a get together 3 black women. 1 SA, 1 from UK and 1 from America all dated white dudes and said they would say racist shyt.
“ why didn’t you leave?”

“ I don’t know, didn’t think he meant it.”

I was around 1 SA girl and she said "they're kind"

......

The ppl who created Apartheid are kind