Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Atlrocafella]

Wanted to ask her out a 2nd time for some time now, first time well like I said before here i only knew her for like 3 weeks first time I tried in March, and she just said well im working
I really think I had a window when she brought me some of her food(jokingly said she should bring me some, and she did) last month, but only reason why I did not ask was mainly because I had to study that weekend for school. I see her from time to time we talk n shyt(like make her laugh and all) I really don't text her cuz there ain't no reason to do it if I ain't tryna get a meetup like a date like asap.

But i'm gon be done with this semester like on the 14, prob will try to ask her out whenever I see her.

Man she is fukking nice, like everytime I see her I can't stop thinking bout her afterwards. Im good when I dont see her she rarely is on my mind but the days I do
and no I don't put all my eggs in one basket with her if I see someone else like the opportunity arises I go at it.

But her brehs when I see her SHE GOT ME fukkED UP I need to ask her out so I can end this shyt and either she down with me or she and i won't be all fukked up after I see her on some Drake shyt

Yup, that's what you got to do..the sooner the better. The what if's will kill us.

 

[AJtheOne]

Wanted to ask her out a 2nd time for some time now, first time well like I said before here i only knew her for like 3 weeks first time I tried in March, and she just said well im working
I really think I had a window when she brought me some of her food(jokingly said she should bring me some, and she did) last month, but only reason why I did not ask was mainly because I had to study that weekend for school. I see her from time to time we talk n shyt(like make her laugh and all) I really don't text her cuz there ain't no reason to do it if I ain't tryna get a meetup like a date like asap.

But i'm gon be done with this semester like on the 14, prob will try to ask her out whenever I see her.

Man she is fukking nice, like everytime I see her I can't stop thinking bout her afterwards. Im good when I dont see her she rarely is on my mind but the days I do
and no I don't put all my eggs in one basket with her if I see someone else like the opportunity arises I go at it.

But her brehs when I see her SHE GOT ME fukkED UP I need to ask her out so I can end this shyt and either she down with me or she and i won't be all fukked up after I see her on some Drake shyt

go for it breh

 

[Oye]

Fellow dudes Im so conflicted cause tonight at dinner with my family they planted a seed in my mind that normally doesn't exist. We were talking about my nephews and how they only have 1 first cousin and of course everyone turned to me to ask when I was going to have kids. I don't mind that anymore I'm used to it but what happened is that my brother in law was the primary person pushing it but.....he said something that I hadn't thought about. He said "Axxxx is single now, you should holla at her". My sister & father both agreed and then my mom said "She's gorgeous you should!!". Here's the problem my friend's brother just got left by her and they were together 12 years. He had strung her a long for years saying he would marry her but turns out he had no intention of ever getting married or ever having kids. She's Jamican/Puerto Rican is jaw dropping and I rarely say this but she is a dime and the first time I met her I had to catch my thoughts. On top of her exterior she's sweet, intelligent and just a really nice person. I've been around her plenty of times in the past and no I didn't ever make attempts at her then but we always had things to talk about when we saw one another. We never flirted but there was some good chemistry between us.

The situation though would be messy...my brother in law's sister is married to his brother and I am friends with his two brothers. I have almost no interaction with him and it would be a stretch to say he and I are friends but I do hang out with his brothers. She is everything I could want in a woman and I understand there are plenty of women out there but she is top tier and I could see a future with her which is something I've put on the backburner. I think she would be worth the awkward situations that could come from me and her getting together....can someone talk me out of it? I'm about to give her a couple of months before I hit her up. I've never gone after anyone's ex that I knew which is why I'm so torn on what to do.

Also met my grandmothers nurse that has a daughter my age and she showed me a pic of her.....Thanksgiving was a good day for my options.

 

[The ADD]

^^^Fam if she got strung along for 12 years there is some damage there you don't want to deal with. No need to be the first responder on this.

The other chick however.

 

[DaRealness]

As men, we are dealt with fighting against our social programming as well as our inherent nature of being the protector. The guy bought her all this stuff and she didn't appreciate it. Instead, she decided to fleece him. Keep your money in your pockets and don't allow women to manipulate you. As soon as you start paying for her school, for her hair and nails, for her rent, etc., you're just paying for a free ride for the next man. If she doesn't want to deal with you off of personality alone, she's out the door.

Really, that story is just proof that until a man works on his confidence and self esteem he shouldn't even be dealing with women at all.

 

[DaRealness]

Fellow dudes Im so conflicted cause tonight at dinner with my family they planted a seed in my mind that normally doesn't exist. We were talking about my nephews and how they only have 1 first cousin and of course everyone turned to me to ask when I was going to have kids. I don't mind that anymore I'm used to it but what happened is that my brother in law was the primary person pushing it but.....he said something that I hadn't thought about. He said "Axxxx is single now, you should holla at her". My sister & father both agreed and then my mom said "She's gorgeous you should!!". Here's the problem my friend's brother just got left by her and they were together 12 years. He had strung her a long for years saying he would marry her but turns out he had no intention of ever getting married or ever having kids. She's Jamican/Puerto Rican is jaw dropping and I rarely say this but she is a dime and the first time I met her I had to catch my thoughts. On top of her exterior she's sweet, intelligent and just a really nice person. I've been around her plenty of times in the past and no I didn't ever make attempts at her then but we always had things to talk about when we saw one another. We never flirted but there was some good chemistry between us.

The situation though would be messy...my brother in law's sister is married to his brother and I am friends with his two brothers. I have almost no interaction with him and it would be a stretch to say he and I are friends but I do hang out with his brothers. She is everything I could want in a woman and I understand there are plenty of women out there but she is top tier and I could see a future with her which is something I've put on the backburner. I think she would be worth the awkward situations that could come from me and her getting together....can someone talk me out of it? I'm about to give her a couple of months before I hit her up. I've never gone after anyone's ex that I knew which is why I'm so torn on what to do.

Also met my grandmothers nurse that has a daughter my age and she showed me a pic of her.....Thanksgiving was a good day for my options.

The first one . If you have to ask, you shouldn't pursue it.

The second one yeah, why not? YOLO.

What happened to your overbearing family friend BTW? Has she backed off now or is she still mean mugging if you even smile at a chick?

 

[Oye]

^^^Fam if she got strung along for 12 years there is some damage there you don't want to deal with. No need to be the first responder on this.

The other chick however.

Normally I would agree however passing up on her could be a mistake. I'm very much apathetic towards relationships right now but I know her well enough that I can say it could be very good. I wouldnt be a first responder I'd give her 6 months to a year before I get at her. I'm just keeping it in mind... I'm seeing a few women right now and I don't feel any of them long-term.

The first one . If you have to ask, you shouldn't pursue it.

The second one yeah, why not? YOLO.

What happened to your overbearing family friend BTW? Has she backed off now or is she still mean mugging if you even smile at a chick?

The second one would just another woman I'd mess with but not wife. She looks good and thats all I know about her.

Lol yeah she was at my family's thanksgiving dinner and she didnt mention it. Her daughters have moved to CA and won't be back for a minute so I guess she gave up on the idea of me and her daughter for now.

 

[Jahmal]

But how do you make sure you aren't falling into simp status?

Women won't turn down free shyt, so if he has to intiate the event(dinners,movies, etc,) how can he really tell the chick is interested or just using him for the free shyt?

@Atlrocafella I dont spend money on women unless they are on my team. When i first meet a woman I take her to free shyt like a walk at Piedmont Park or Atlantic station and just chop it up with her. Now that its cold I have chicks come to my place to cook. Taking chicks you just meet on dinner/movie dates is trick status. They take your free dinner/movie , give you a hug and go fukk the next nikka. fukkk that!

 

[Momentum]

Fellow dudes Im so conflicted cause tonight at dinner with my family they planted a seed in my mind that normally doesn't exist. We were talking about my nephews and how they only have 1 first cousin and of course everyone turned to me to ask when I was going to have kids. I don't mind that anymore I'm used to it but what happened is that my brother in law was the primary person pushing it but.....he said something that I hadn't thought about. He said "Axxxx is single now, you should holla at her". My sister & father both agreed and then my mom said "She's gorgeous you should!!". Here's the problem my friend's brother just got left by her and they were together 12 years. He had strung her a long for years saying he would marry her but turns out he had no intention of ever getting married or ever having kids. She's Jamican/Puerto Rican is jaw dropping and I rarely say this but she is a dime and the first time I met her I had to catch my thoughts. On top of her exterior she's sweet, intelligent and just a really nice person. I've been around her plenty of times in the past and no I didn't ever make attempts at her then but we always had things to talk about when we saw one another. We never flirted but there was some good chemistry between us.

The situation though would be messy...my brother in law's sister is married to his brother and I am friends with his two brothers. I have almost no interaction with him and it would be a stretch to say he and I are friends but I do hang out with his brothers. She is everything I could want in a woman and I understand there are plenty of women out there but she is top tier and I could see a future with her which is something I've put on the backburner. I think she would be worth the awkward situations that could come from me and her getting together....can someone talk me out of it? I'm about to give her a couple of months before I hit her up. I've never gone after anyone's ex that I knew which is why I'm so torn on what to do.

Also met my grandmothers nurse that has a daughter my age and she showed me a pic of her.....Thanksgiving was a good day for my options.

Going out with her isn't going to kill you. You're planning all these awkward situations when you don't even know if you can enjoy a 1-on-1 conversation with her yet.

Just do it.

 

[DaRealness]

@Atlrocafella I dont spend money on women unless they are on my team. When i first meet a woman I take her to free shyt like a walk at Piedmont Park or Atlantic station and just chop it up with her. Now that its cold I have chicks come to my place to cook. Taking chicks you just meet on dinner/movie dates is trick status. They take your free dinner/movie , give you a hug and go fukk the next nikka. fukkk that!

 

[Steezy]

this bytch just ethered me..

this one chick i been feelin forever too. Just never got around to getting serious with her. she told me i was too nice. i aint her type of nikka.

honestly..ima mean ass nikka.. Ive said i would buy nikkas cheeseburgers..ride in the car with them and eat they cheeseburger. then lie about it even against clear evidence. and she just told me I'm too nice. she cook..she clean.. she a 9. and she told me that shyt.

Spoiler

 

[RealAssanova]

this bytch just ethered me..

this one chick i been feelin forever too. Just never got around to getting serious with her. she told me i was too nice. i aint her type of nikka.

honestly..ima mean ass nikka.. Ive said i would buy nikkas cheeseburgers..ride in the car with them and eat they cheeseburger. then lie about it even against clear evidence. and she just told me I'm too nice. she cook..she clean.. she a 9. and she told me that shyt.

Spoiler

Sounds like you let your emotions get caught up in all dis breh.

That's one of man's greatest struggles. Controlling their emotions and knowing when its ok to use it and when its not.

You too nice? Aight. You got your answer and it ain't gonne change anything (atleast not now).

Move on and don't worry about her. You'll get to a point where you can look back and and if she tries to reach out to you down the road

 

[Steezy]

Sounds like you let your emotions get caught up in all dis breh.

That's one of man's greatest struggles. Controlling their emotions and knowing when its ok to use it and when its not.

You too nice? Aight. You got your answer and it ain't gonne change anything (atleast not now).

Move on and don't worry about her. You'll get to a point where you can look back and and if she tries to reach out to you down the road

bruh thats exactly what i thought.. trust me.. I'm quick to throw a bytch the sometimes too quick.. thats my real downfall.

i know now that i can never ever fukk with this chick from now on.. she thinks I'm weak. bytch we don't even live in the same city


that shyt did hurt tho.. thats the 2nd time i heard that

 

[Atlrocafella]

this bytch just ethered me..

this one chick i been feelin forever too. Just never got around to getting serious with her. she told me i was too nice. i aint her type of nikka.

honestly..ima mean ass nikka.. Ive said i would buy nikkas cheeseburgers..ride in the car with them and eat they cheeseburger. then lie about it even against clear evidence. and she just told me I'm too nice. she cook..she clean.. she a 9. and she told me that shyt.

Spoiler

at Too Nice. So after she finishes getting dogged out by all the not nice nikkaz, she'll be posting on facebook about how all she wants is a nice guy.

 

[Steezy]

at Too Nice. So after she finishes getting dogged out by all the not nice nikkaz, she'll be posting on facebook about how all she wants is a nice guy.

i really don't know what she wants from me breh ..a nikka can't have big goals ? have a job..a whip..his own spot ?