Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I think when it comes to women, its black and white.

i have dealt with women that really liked me and breh's, shyt felt nice AND natural. But this whole notion of playin hard to get and chasing i think is stupid. To a point atleast.

i think where the frustration arises from is dudes get that concept and lack of interest mixed up. If a shorty is feelin you, you'll 90-100% kno. Anything other than that, and you doing too much, especially if she ain't rewarding you.

Society is to blame for this because they changed how women are suppose to naturally behave (feminine and loving) into something they are not accustomed to doing. For example, a shorty you know likes you, but her friends and society tells her she shouldn't be easy because guys hate that and therefore she should play hard to get. So she starts to do something out of her element and what ends up happening? the guy will either fuk her and leave her for playing or completely lose interest and drop her altogether. (A lose-lose)

Going back to the original point, even if you were to cut back on shyt and she comes back, i styll wouldn't entertain it. Ignore her texts and phonecalls, but not as a tactic. Really move on. You'll kno after this whether or not she was really and truly interested or if you saved yourself from a whole lot frustration and shyt. (A win-win)

P.S., this doesn't apply to shorties ya'll ain't attracted to.


i agree, the thing many men fail to do is say no when a woman comes back, wanting to hit it one more time, oh i ove her bla bla, but why would you want someone who made you their second option :camby:
 

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how do you deal with a woman with high interest in you one day, and then 2 weeks later its so so interest?
 

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how do you deal with a woman with high interest in you one day, and then 2 weeks later its so so interest?

probably found someone else who has her attention more, or found something she doesn't like about you.

In this situation usually I'd just dissappear, stop texting, stop calling , if she makes the imitative then cool if not :manny:, many women will not straight up tell you that, i'm seeing someone new, or the attracttion or sparks i have for you are gone "maybe we should just be friends" or leave me alone don't want to talk to you. What women usually do is answer with like one word text msgs, like k, or convos slow, or always busy etc.


in like may i was messing with this girl, at first she was so into me, constant texting, always wanted to go out, then suddenly she always seemed busy. i sensed she was drifting away. Back in the day I would have responded by texting alot, or trying to come on strong now i just i deleted her number didn't text for a while, its december now still haven't heard from her :heh:
 
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i agree, the thing many men fail to do is say no when a woman comes back, wanting to hit it one more time, oh i ove her bla bla, but why would you want someone who made you their second option :camby:

so how do you stop yourself from saying no? And how you stop yourself from thinking if she's thinking about you or missing you or wants you back? I know my situation is fukked up, but these things i can't stop thinking about.

But what you say makes sense. But as soon as you hear from them, your emotions take over, and logic is gone.
 

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so how do you stop yourself from saying no? And how you stop yourself from thinking if she's thinking about you or missing you or wants you back? I know my situation is fukked up, but these things i can't stop thinking about.

But what you say makes sense. But as soon as you hear from them, your emotions take over, and logic is gone.

strength, yes sometimes second chances work when you and the person have been away from each other for awhile realize the error of your ways etc. but that's rare. You just have to keep reminding yourself doy ou really want her? or do you want the sex, the phone calls, the text messages, just someone to fill that void.

I remember I always thought I wanted my ex for a long while, then i finally started dating someone I was really interested in and then I realized :ehh: all i was really missing was someone to talk to about my day, go to the movies with, someone i knew was thinking about and they were thinking about me.

the other part of your question is, you don't know. everyone is different. Is she probably thinking about you? yeah. Is she obsessing over you like you are over her doubtful, the thing with women sad to say is that its so easy for them, instead of dealing with the pain or the loss of a relationship or dating they can just hop right back into a relationship even though its a rebound and not have to eal with it. Does she want you back? again doubtful sad to say, when a woman wants you, or a woman wants to talk to you NOTHING Will stop her, not her pride, not her girlfriends nothing.
 

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so how do you stop yourself from saying no? And how you stop yourself from thinking if she's thinking about you or missing you or wants you back? I know my situation is fukked up, but these things i can't stop thinking about.

But what you say makes sense. But as soon as you hear from them, your emotions take over, and logic is gone.

You need to have other chicks in your rotation at all times. The worst thing you can do is let a woman know you can't easily replace her.
 
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You need to have other chicks in your rotation at all times. The worst thing you can do is let a woman know you can't easily replace her.

truth be told, i can't date multiple women. i like one girl who is loyal and wants to spend time with me. Besides the girl i was with watched me like a hawk, and was so insecure that i would leave her that we would fight multiple times over who i'm talking to .. why is some girl hollering at me etc. . but i understand that's what women do in a relationship.

but before i ended with her, i kinda lied to her telling her that i already got a date lined up ... some macho bullshyt .. but truth be told my weekends are being spent on liquor and weed :to:
 

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just want to add, i remember when i was down and out one time years ago obsessing over my ex and well i stalked her fb and there she was out drinking and clubbing smiling, that got me sort of :sadcam: but also made me realize why the hell im i sitting home obsessing over this broad while shes out living it up
 

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truth be told, i can't date multiple women. i like one girl who is loyal and wants to spend time with me. Besides the girl i was with watched me like a hawk, and was so insecure that i would leave her that we would fight multiple times over who i'm talking to .. why is some girl hollering at me etc. . but i understand that's what women do in a relationship.

but before i ended with her, i kinda lied to her telling her that i already got a date lined up ... some macho bullshyt .. but truth be told my weekends are being spent on liquor and weed :to:


fake it till you make it :ehh:
 
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just want to add, i remember when i was down and out one time years ago obsessing over my ex and well i stalked her fb and there she was out drinking and clubbing smiling, that got me sort of :sadcam: but also made me realize why the hell im i sitting home obsessing over this broad while shes out living it up

i hit the clubs the last two weekends .. the first night, i spent in the corner replying to my ex cause i thought i had a chance with her back but i was liquored so i had a :meh: time. the second time i barely wanted to move inside a club cause i was too down.

one other thing i keep fighting over. 1. this girl has no options cause of her situation and 2. she's out with the guy from work and probably fukking
 

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she gave me that ether though .. LOL .. "i hope you have a great time and enjoy yourself" .. meaning i don't give a fukk, why you telling me.

trust me she does care

no women is going to say otherwise

just the old have fun, have a great time ish, when deep down there :sadcam:, plus its either for a woman to get a date as a male its harder.
 
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