Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I totally agree with what you're saying. I've come to terms with the fact that girls will always have options, even when they're in a relationship and they can and will find a reason to end the relationship if they're bored but they will do what is necessary to keep the good guys warm towards them in case they need someone to pick them up. It's something I've had to accept since I'm always going to be good to women I'm in a relationship with. I just need to choose them better.

I look at those situations as offensive because I see it like this; a girl had an opportunity to build a house with me but she decided she can get one built elsewhere. Now that her house is built up and not to her liking, she's come back to me so she can either get me to fix up her house or move into mine.

I don't know why but I've always been offended when people come back to me to admit their guilt/mistakes. I'd prefer they keep it to themselves since I've moved on.
They need to release it, if you are not in the wrong in any way...guilt is a tough thing to keep inside forever. There is a good chance their friends and family suggested that they contact you.

I've also been contacted when the girl didn't necessarily have a bad relationship/situation, she just kept wondering how things would have gone if things worked out with me.
 

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Guys,

How do you deal with getting stood up from a chic that you been dating for a while? This chic that I been seeing for about three months stood me up yesterday for a date. Pretty much, I text her on Saturday to see what days that she was free and she stated that she was free on Monday for a date. I called on Monday afternoon just to confirm but I didn't get a answer. I didn't receive any response from her for the rest of yesterday and so far today. I'm not going to call her until she contacts me but should I start preparing to send her to the bushes or just give her a firm warning if/when she responds? A part of me feel that I should have sent another text/call but I also know that she is around her phone so a missed call from me would have pop up and that should have trigger a reminder about our date for yesterday.
*Update*

I just woke up to a missed call and text from ol girl stating that she sorry that she missed my call from Monday. She also states that she left her phone in her friends car and she just got it back last night.

:patrice:

Don't know what to do fellas. It seem plausible and this is not typical behavior from her from as i know from her so far but still a part of me....:comeon::aicmon:
 

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She's probably lying, but there's the rare chance that she isn't. Set up one more date and see if she pulls an excuse. If she does, it's cut off time.
 

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*Update*

I just woke up to a missed call and text from ol girl stating that she sorry that she missed my call from Monday. She also states that she left her phone in her friends car and she just got it back last night.

:patrice:

Don't know what to do fellas. It seem plausible and this is not typical behavior from her from as i know from her so far but still a part of me....:comeon::aicmon:
what is your gut teliing you?


EDIT: be as real as possible with yourself and listen to your gut. it's like a spidey-sense.
 

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*Update*

I just woke up to a missed call and text from ol girl stating that she sorry that she missed my call from Monday. She also states that she left her phone in her friends car and she just got it back last night.

:patrice:

Don't know what to do fellas. It seem plausible and this is not typical behavior from her from as i know from her so far but still a part of me....:comeon::aicmon:

I personally wouldn't buy that, but how you proceed after this is up to you. If a part of you doubts, then......:yeshrug:
 

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@BeckyChaser personally i would accept her apology if i felt it was true but i wouldn't set up another date. i would wait for her to come to me and for her to set up something. give her space to fix her mistake. don't fill in the space trying to remove the awkwardness or she will see you as a captain-save-her. you've already showed you want to spend time with her. she flaked and then came up with an excuse that could be true or not. if you feel like she earned the benefit of the doubt, she still hasn't demonstrated she wants to spend more time with you. give her the opportunity to show it by not setting up something else. and if she doesn't, you already have everything you need to know.

props to TheKidd for dropping game on the concept of "space".
 

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*Update*

I just woke up to a missed call and text from ol girl stating that she sorry that she missed my call from Monday. She also states that she left her phone in her friends car and she just got it back last night.

:patrice:

Don't know what to do fellas. It seem plausible and this is not typical behavior from her from as i know from her so far but still a part of me....:comeon::aicmon:

Do you believe her? If her phone is the only way she can contact you, then its understandable. But 3 months of dating, yall never e-mailed each other? Should couldn't shoot you a quick note saying "Lost my phone in homegirls car, hard to reach until I get it back"

I would say, forgive her but remember this. And let her set up the next outing.
 

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I asked back for money and was told that I'm.not collections there's nothing I can do and to f off.

Iliterally snapped and called her a leech a user , and when she wss unemployee with unemployment about to run out i shoild habe left her to fend herseld and that I should have just let her abort her child .
 

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I asked back for money and was told that I'm.not collections there's nothing I can do and to f off.

Iliterally snapped and called her a leech a user , and when she wss unemployee with unemployment about to run out i shoild habe left her to fend herseld and that I should have just let her abort her child .
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completely cut her off breh. to the point where you don't even give a fukk if karma spares her and she ends up living a happy prosperous life.
 

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The biggest advice I can give is that if you don't have respect from a woman, then you don't have anything. Without respect, what do you really have? A woman that will use you for your resources, put you on the backburner and hit you up when her first, second or third option doesn't pan out? A favor buddy who she constantly asks for favors from but never reciprocates? A complaint buddy who she will tell all her problems to so she can rejuvenate her emotions before she goes RIGHT BACK to dealing with him and engaging in the same nonsense?

What has happened in this day and age is that women have reversed the roles on men. Men are now the needy ones who can't go on without being in a relationship or getting female attention... sitting around waiting for her call and hoping to get a crumb of attention all the while she is dealing with 2 to 4 other guys who she has in a queue ahead of you.... and men put up with all of this for what? What is she bringing to the table? It's like men are owners who are willing to sign players that shouldn't even be in the league to $80 million dollar contracts and are doing that with a smile.

Stop wasting so much time and energy into women who aren't receptive and who think you owe them something. If they can't come with basic respect for you, then boot them and keep it pushing. It's not an easy road to walk, but really, if you don't have respect from a woman, what do you have?

On another note, stop focusing on what women like, what catches women, what pleases women, etc. Who cares? What are they doing to deserved to be pleased and served? Are they studying how to make you the perfect sandwich, give you the best massage of your life or any of that? I highly doubt it. So why are you so concerned on pleasing women who aren't deserving of it? A great woman who has SHOWN you her loyalty, yeah, she is deserving, but some woman you just met can come in here and demand things like you owe her something? Nah. If you take some woman to Mcdonalds, she needs to be grateful. That's something free that she wouldn't have otherwise got. What is she bringing to the table to demand you feed her lavish food or buy her lavish gifts? The problem is men in this generation were raised by pro-neo-feminist and simp encouraging baby boomers.

The reason why women are so entitled this generation is because they can be due to how men react. They know men will rush out and give them what they want. They can develop an entitlement attitude because men don't believe in anything these days and they know they can demand something from a man and he will cave in. Men weren't taught to tell some woman who brings nothing to the table, "Look, you better be grateful I'm giving you anything at all because I don't owe you anything." They weren't taught that you don't give in to her temper tantrums and fits of anger because doing so only encourages her to keep on playing you in that way and it will make her lose respect for you. They were probably taught some simped-out solution like, "Do what she wants and bring her roses to calm her temper." That's just a recipe for a broad walking all over you and turning you into a hen-pecked husband or boyfriend.

Women are developing circles of simps who cater to her every need. She has the listening brotha who gives her an emotional boost when she needs a short break from dealing with the dude that she 'hates'. She's hungry or needs some money? She has Mr Meal on Wheels to take her to eat wherever she want to energize her body so she can deal with the dude she really wants to deal with after dinner. She has Billy the Banker to give her free money to pay her rent and necessities while she uses her own money to hit the club up and grind on some random dudes. Funny how these women don't have money for rent, but they have pictures of them posted up in the club with a new out-fit ain't it?

Negroes are walking free-favors and rest havens and wonder why women act the way they do. You don't owe women anything, and if they get mad, tell them to keep it pushing. Don't give in to that emotional manipulation.


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I'm working on it.

I'm.literally at the point even though I need that money to say f it.

I got this bytch a job and this is the disrespect Ideal with.


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completely cut her off breh. to the point where you don't even give a fukk if karma spares her and she ends up living a happy prosperous life.
 

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The only winning move is not to play.

When "playing the waiting game" with a chick, the best move is not to play. waiting requires patience. patience requires energy. Don't waste energy on that game. Stop waiting and Put yourself in a mindstate where you view it like she already decided not to do whatever it is you want her to do and move on.

-If she was waiting on you, her patience will get exhausted first by default since you're not using your patience. you genuinely moved on from her and don't care anymore.

-If she actually did move on, then you would have waited for a while with no result in the end. By not waiting, you saved time, stress and energy.


either way, your best move is not to play. best way to win the waiting game is to not be patient and not wait.
 

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Yeah I wouldnt proceed with this check, lie is straight BS

Good. Also, for me, it would depend on how they apologise. If it's just some ole nonchalant, couldn't care less, matter of factly, half hearted shyt then it's bushes. If they try to make quick rearrangements ASAP then I'd give it a chance. A simple "sorry" doesn't cut it.
 
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