Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Rocket Scientist]

This is true. I was just talking to my friend yesterday about that and saying we (men in general) need to stop giving women all this attention because, young and old, they love to play these games where they make you THINK they're interested, but a lot of the time it's really just a ploy to get you to respond to them in order to feed their egos.

Sometimes we do get it wrong even when a chick is just being friendly and not playing games at all, however if you know your own self worth then that shyt wouldn't even matter anyway. You have to not respond until you know for sure she's into you. I have to pat myself on the back cos I've successfully resisted the urge to simp a few times over the holidays. I've vowed to not give away too much of myself and to always be the first one to end a conversation (granted, I back slided a couple of weeks ago, but oh well it happens.....) and to keep it brief with chicks. I've vowed not to wear my heart on sleeve for anyone and to turn down a chick's invitation if I'm not in the mood. I'm studying my certs, I'm gonna be hitting the gym at least four times a week no matter what and I'm going to pursue even more interests and read a couple of books a week. That's more than enough to keep a man busy. I've been going out a lot lately, but I'm also a homely guy too. If a chick wanna see me, she can drive her ass to my crib or I'll go out when I'M good and ready. Any chick I deal with is gonna be majorly disappointed if she thinks she's gonna get a ton of freebies and not do shyt. Nah, you wanna get with me, you gotta put in that work too. I'm a new breed of man and we ain't going for the okey doke and accommodating simp shyt no more.

Other than that, 2014 is 'me time'. I won't be readily available for no one.

#HOH

I feel you bruh Im more worried about the Stock Market then what a woman thinks.Like Kevm says never make yourself too available for a woman.The problem with women all these years is they didnt do any work to be with a man and they want freebies such as dinner,drink.You gotta keep it short with women

 

[The Frozen One]

just another question.

ever since my break up .. i can't find enjoyment in any thing. I can't watch movies, i can't play games, i can't even watch sports without being distracted or disinterested.

These are my favourite hobbies and i never had problems with this before. What gives? I've been keeping myself busy with working overtime and 6 times a week. And try to go out with friends as much as i can. But right now i'm at home with nothing to do and i'm feeling so lonely.

to make it worse, i texted my oneitis happy new years and no response .. fukking women

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Fellas if you start a convo with a woman and she ends it before you.How would you take it?1 poster brought up an interesting point.

 

[DaRealness]

just another question.

ever since my break up .. i can't find enjoyment in any thing. I can't watch movies, i can't play games, i can't even watch sports without being distracted or disinterested.

These are my favourite hobbies and i never had problems with this before. What gives? I've been keeping myself busy with working overtime and 6 times a week. And try to go out with friends as much as i can. But right now i'm at home with nothing to do and i'm feeling so lonely.

Been there and done that. You're just going through a grieving period right now. You get your good days and your bad days.

Two years ago I was crying my eyes out and heavily depressed over the breakup of my marriage and would have moved heaven and earth to get her back, now I'm going on dates and flirting with women with no fukks given. Of course sometimes the pain creeps up on you every now and then, but as time goes on it becomes so few and far between and those moments become a lot less in duration.

You have to accept that it wasn't meant to be, because there's BETTER out there and you needed to learn some life lessons in order to be a better person.

 

[YoNoSe]

eh in regards to the new year drama its either one of two things:
1 - She's telling the truth and thats how it went down
2 - She willfully made out with the dude and is scared one of her her friends or someone he knows gonna snitch so put her version out there first

which one actually happened depends on her character....

Bingo. Its hard to believe that after she was forcibly kissed the first time, her friends would allow the guy to be within 5 feet of her after that. When women go out together they stay in a flock to protect each other and ward off creeps and dudes they not feeling. Secondly, if she was forcibly kissed multiple times without her consent, why was the guy still around the place to get her number? she didn't alert the bouncer/security to get that dude outta there?

It doesn't help to assume, only your boy knows how his girl is.

 

[kevm3]

When you start making excuses for what you feel is funny behavior, all you are doing is covering doodoo with an intellectual blanket, hoping that it makes it disappear... but you'll find that you'll keep getting the notion that something stinks. When you start saying, "Ahh, that ain't what it looks like" or you keep finding all kinds of rationalizations for why a woman isn't doing what she should, if you stick with that course of action, you will find yourself on a losing train. Women that really like you, you have to beat them off with a stick. You don't sit there wondering, "Where is she at?" "Why isn't she around?" You're wondering, "Man how do I get her away from me? She is way too clingy." So my friends, when these broads start telling you they are so busy and just can't find the time, they are indeed busy, but they are busy getting gamed up by another man more often than not. If question marks start coming up about her interactions with other men, aka her 'male friends,' more often than not she is doing what your gut is telling you she is doing but your mind is covering up with 'please don't be a ho' rationale because you like her so much.

 

[Turbulent]

got friendzoned hard but at least i got a new friend out of it

went out last night .. cute girl waiting in line, my buddies told her they will get her in and pay for her. fukking simps. Inside, she started talking to me about sports. Even got her to buy me a shot. Talked for a while, danced with her on the dance floor. Then my buddy snatched her from me. I ignored her after that. She came to me later on and we started talking again. She told me i was a good guy so i turned her into a wingman. I told her to go break the ice for me with other girls, and she did and i got me a girls number.

We talked all night, i got her number too and she said she would like to hang out again, and doesn't want the impression of her dancing with my buddy clouding my mind. I harassed her about it a bit, and brought up that i'm a "nice guy" to tease her. She said guys that she meets just want to bang her and it's different for her that i'm not trying to fukk. She's still a virgin she said but i didn't push. If she can be a good wingman, i don't really care.

Should i hit her up or ignore?

do you need a new friend, are you trying to fukk? what's your intention with her?

 

[Turbulent]

Fellas if you start a convo with a woman and she ends it before you.How would you take it?1 poster brought up an interesting point.

depends on the vibe. maybe she had to go. maybe she wasn't interested in the convo. I would just let it go and KIM. if she wants something from me she'll come and if i feel like i should charge her, i will.

 

[smARTmouf]

got friendzoned hard but at least i got a new friend out of it

went out last night .. cute girl waiting in line, my buddies told her they will get her in and pay for her. fukking simps. Inside, she started talking to me about sports. Even got her to buy me a shot. Talked for a while, danced with her on the dance floor. Then my buddy snatched her from me. I ignored her after that. She came to me later on and we started talking again. She told me i was a good guy so i turned her into a wingman. I told her to go break the ice for me with other girls, and she did and i got me a girls number.

We talked all night, i got her number too and she said she would like to hang out again, and doesn't want the impression of her dancing with my buddy clouding my mind. I harassed her about it a bit, and brought up that i'm a "nice guy" to tease her. She said guys that she meets just want to bang her and it's different for her that i'm not trying to fukk. She's still a virgin she said but i didn't push. If she can be a good wingman, i don't really care.

Should i hit her up or ignore?

Breh....she came back to you because you didn't give a shyt if she went with your buddy or came back to you. YOU have the upper-hand now. Don't fukk it up. I say hit her up casually., but with the intention to friend zone HER. Once you dangle the carrot, keep dangling that shyt until she fools herself that she is actually head over heals over you. And she'll do that too just because she'll want her value validated by you.

Cute girl ,talking sports, bought you a shot?...A virgin? These are things that drive your basic nikka crazy and it feeds her ego. She Is left with no challenge. You have the potential to present a challenge that she is looking for. Make her make the big moves that make her show her hand. If she doesn't?...ignore her. She'll be back...

 

[Atlrocafella]

Nothing like New Year's drama. My dude's girlfriend is out of town, and tonight she went out with some old friends. She had been drinking a lot and there was a guy at the bar being pretty aggressive towards her. According to her, he forcibly kissed her a few times and he grabbed her arm as she was leaving and wouldn't let go until she gave him her number (she said she gave a fake one).

She doesn't go out much and I guess it was her first time drinking in a while so she was out of it, but she called my boy up right after it happened to apologize and explain that the dude forced himself on her. I could hear her on the phone and she seemed pretty sincere (didn't sound like she was crying though). My boy believes her story but he isn't sure what to do about this.

I'm not going to suggest that he dumps her seeing as she said the guy forced her into it, she called to apologize right after it happened, and the relationship seems to be going very well (before this obviously). They're both 24 and she's a respectable girl who holds him down, no red flags that I'm aware of.

Thoughts? What would you guys do if some dude forced himself on your girl like that when you weren't around, but she called to explain/apologize? Tricky shyt. I might make a thread on this.

She's probaby lying..If he lets her get away with this unchecked, than she will now know what she can easily get away with.

 

[smARTmouf]

@C.Holla If she ends the conversation before you. It's over. This is really something I live by. You always want to end the conversation first while you still have some good shyt to say. Preferably after some good shyt so she is left wanting more.

This is if you sparked the conversation first and approached her. If she's already someone you talk to, the rules are different because she has a life too and may actually care about you waiting for a response while she is actually busy.

 

[Cladyclad]

What I learned about women the more I talk about my girlfriend. The more girls I know want me. Chicks be Peyton Manning me the puss. But I am too scared to act on the advances

So I see even if u don't hav a gf make up one. Talk about how much u do for her and how much she irks ur nerves. Some girls look it like I can be that girl for u in sh1t. But they ain't even know u

 

[Medio]

happy new years. this year i'm starting off the new year with some self respect and not texting back this girl who played me but wants my attention again.

yall preach the gospel in this thread

 

[DaRealness]

 

[The Frozen One]

Breh....she came back to you because you didn't give a shyt if she went with your buddy or came back to you. YOU have the upper-hand now. Don't fukk it up. I say hit her up casually., but with the intention to friend zone HER. Once you dangle the carrot, keep dangling that shyt until she fools herself that she is actually head over heals over you. And she'll do that too just because she'll want her value validated by you.

Cute girl ,talking sports, bought you a shot?...A virgin? These are things that drive your basic nikka crazy and it feeds her ego. She Is left with no challenge. You have the potential to present a challenge that she is looking for. Make her make the big moves that make her show her hand. If she doesn't?...ignore her. She'll be back...

I texted her and the other girl I got the number of.. Funny the other girl kept texting me all night... Neither replied. Oh well on to the next ones.

I wasn't looking for sex from her. Just to have conversation and hang out here and there.