Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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i think someone posted this a while back but its true its much easier to talk yourself out of puzzy than into it.its better to lose a chick from being too quiet or boring than talking a load of shyt and revealing too much

true story. the "mystery" factor is what makes you so appealing to them. you can be whatever they want you to be without actually being it. seeing as how many young women are driven by feelings and impulse, and often dont know what they want in a man from one moment to the next, if you want to get with her, its best to let her think you are whatever shes fantasing about in the moment. shutting up can be a great way to look like youre everything she would want you to be.


men we do this too with women though, we see a pic and go "wifey material" or "Id do this and that to her" but really, her mind could be all types of crazy and in disorder. she hasnt even said a word and we're ready to get with that. shyt, her body might even be polluted too, word to tony montana. its easy to rush in and make a choice when you dont know a lot, and thats where most mistakes happen.
 

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dog... my homeboy got engaged and put the video of the proposal in our group chat. i was happy for him but then I felt bitter because it reminded me of my failures.

then i had a moment of clarity like, "damn, I can't even be happy for folks. I'm fukked up." and i decided to do something about it.

I'm all for the lessons we preach in here but i dont want to be a bitter person. i dont want my feelings and views to come from a place of negativity.

@Easy-E yeah I'm serious bruh.​
thats good that you can acknowledge your bitterness
 

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Bish done went Ice cold on a nikka, everything was all good, than the phone calls and text stop, and no returning of phone calls.
Not even going to try and figure out why, on to the next. :camby:

let her wonder the same when she hits u up. Don't EVER respond to her.

The length, emotions and other shyt that are built from friendships, relationships and anything else doesn't matter once someone disrespects you or me, especially when we haven't done anything wrong.

As far as i'm concerned, that person dug their grave and buried themselves in it.
 

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let her wonder the same when she hits u up. Don't EVER respond to her.

The length, emotions and other shyt that are built from friendships, relationships and anything else doesn't matter once someone disrespects you or me, especially when we haven't done anything wrong.

As far as i'm concerned, that person dug their grave and buried themselves in it.

Same case with shorty.
Absolutely, and I know the old me would probably be blowing up her phone with text messages like "Hello", "Are you ok??", "I've been trying to call", "I see your still on facebook posting things" :laugh:

fukk That though, I don't chase them.
 

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Absolutely, and I know the old me would probably be blowing up her phone with text messages like "Hello", "Are you ok??", "I've been trying to call", "I see your still on facebook posting things" :laugh:

fukk That though, I don't chase them.

Women got to be the dumbest human beings on this earth. What exactly does doing this accomplish? If she found another dude, cool. But we all kno she gonna come back to you, most likely for attention or an ego boost, since u showed interest in her and she thinks you are her fallback guy. However, any sensible and level-headed man will see this and hopefully won't ever communicate to her or one similar to her again (or if he does, doesn't show any interest whatsoever).

Now, what if that dude she thought she was playing was the most suitable nikka for her? She lost him for no reason whatsoever. None.

That's why when girls play games, i kinda thank them for it, cuz they just decided to hang themselves.
 

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how long do yall wait to initiate the second date with a chic? (assuming first one went very well)

depends a lot but try to hang out with her in a week or so, 7 days plus/minus 3 days

oh wait, to initiate it the actual hang out .. yea depends but usually the next or second time at most time you talk to her after that
 
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Bish done went Ice cold on a nikka, everything was all good, than the phone calls and text stop, and no returning of phone calls.
Not even going to try and figure out why, on to the next. :camby:

That's why I will advise men not to put much energy into these women and why I advised them to not cater to women. The simped out dude would have immediately looked at himself and said, "What did I do wrong? Maybe I need to hit her up and give her more attention! Maybe I need to try harder." A lot of these women think they are too hot or don't have to put in any kind of effort. I could be wrong, but the woman you are talking to probably found some other guy she likes, and when that guy doesn't pay her any attention, she'll pop up like, "Heyyy, how u doing? I missed you?'

The thing with women is that everything is contingent on emotion with them, so you NEVER know what they are going to do next. That's why I would never make a woman the centerpiece of my life. She could be all smiling in your face today, acting like she loves you all the while dealing with some other guy in the background, and when she feels safe to move to him , she's gone without a word... without telling you anything... when it doesn't pan out with him, all of a sudden she comes back like, "Heyyy I've been so busy! i missed u, how are u?"
 

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That's why I will advise men not to put much energy into these women and why I advised them to not cater to women. The simped out dude would have immediately looked at himself and said, "What did I do wrong? Maybe I need to hit her up and give her more attention! Maybe I need to try harder." A lot of these women think they are too hot or don't have to put in any kind of effort. I could be wrong, but the woman you are talking to probably found some other guy she likes, and when that guy doesn't pay her any attention, she'll pop up like, "Heyyy, how u doing? I missed you?'

The thing with women is that everything is contingent on emotion with them, so you NEVER know what they are going to do next. That's why I would never make a woman the centerpiece of my life. She could be all smiling in your face today, acting like she loves you all the while dealing with some other guy in the background, and when she feels safe to move to him , she's gone without a word... without telling you anything... when it doesn't pan out with him, all of a sudden she comes back like, "Heyyy I've been so busy! i missed u, how are u?"

You're absolutely right, but there's no way to know in advance if a chick is just going to cut you off cold turkey..shyt can be going great (as it was in my case) than things just change without notice. The best thing I (and any other breh who find themselves in this situation) can do is to not reward her behavior with another chance or conversation. She's instant bush status right now. She will have to literally move heaven and earth for me to give her another moment of my time :win:
 

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Women got to be the dumbest human beings on this earth. What exactly does doing this accomplish? If she found another dude, cool. But we all kno she gonna come back to you, most likely for attention or an ego boost, since u showed interest in her and she thinks you are her fallback guy. However, any sensible and level-headed man will see this and hopefully won't ever communicate to her or one similar to her again (or if he does, doesn't show any interest whatsoever).

Now, what if that dude she thought she was playing was the most suitable nikka for her? She lost him for no reason whatsoever. None.

That's why when girls play games, i kinda thank them for it, cuz they just decided to hang themselves.

I think the average woman acts the way they do because simps have built them up mentally to where they think their actions have no repercussions. They feel they can talk to one guy, take his best, go to another guy and get the best from him, get bored with him and go back to the other guy. Women act this way because men make themselves expendable by constantly accepting that behavior and giving in to them. She'll come back a week later and he'll smile and be like, "Hey ma, where u been? I missed you.'

It's like if you were a dude and you had 10 women rushing to sleep with you and take you out to dinner, unless you were highly principled, you'd take one out one day, go out with the other another day while putting the first one on hold, then go out with another one and then come back to the first one whenever you felt... if one of them busted bad, you wouldn't care because you feel like you have a lot of other women to take her place. That's the abundance mentality. when you get things easily and you have an abundance of it, it's rarely appreciated. Males flood women with attention and accept their bad behavior, so these women act accordingly and treat them like something that is common.

So I can respect when a man cuts a woman off when she pulls these magic disappearing acts. more times than not when a woman disappeared out of nowhere for a week or more, she's dealing with another guy. Here, we're not fallback guys to be hit up when a woman is bored and isn't getting attention from some other guy.

The MAIN problem in this day and age is guys think they are some kind of players by rushing to dive into and doing anything for a whiff of some sex. They are vagina vultures hovering overhead, accepting all kinds of nasty and bad behavior from women just as long as it gives them a chance at sex. Men should make their time way more exclusive and demand RESPECT as opposed to that mindset where they rush in and accept any kind of behavior hoping for a morsel of her time. Only way as a man to get respect from these women is to stand on it. You can't be prompt, then I'm moving on.
 

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You're absolutely right, but there's no way to know in advance if a chick is just going to cut you off cold turkey..shyt can be going great (as it was in my case) than things just change without notice. The best thing I (and any other breh who find themselves in this situation) can do is to not reward her behavior with another chance or conversation. She's instant bush status right now. She will have to literally move heaven and earth for me to give her another moment of my time :win:

Yeah, you're right. you n ever know when they will peel off or why. It's a bit sad, but you have to minimize how much these women affect your day to day routine... you almost have to be nonchalant about their coming and goings, but they did to to themselves. Why tie myself up emotionally into someone who has no concern for me and could leave tomorrow or do all kinds of things behind my back because she is 'bored'? She didn't pan out? Life goes on... hanging with friends, reading the Bible, working out or doing whatever you do and that roster spot opened right back up for the next woman when she comes through. She doesn't want to show up to work regularly during her probationary period? Someone else gets the job, and business will go on as usual.

When it's said and done, men have to focus on behavior and rewarding loyalty as opposed to trying to get a woman to be in their company by any means necessary. The woman I will take to a nice dinner is the one that doesn't give me no problems and shows up regularly and knows how to answer her phone, respond promptly, etc.
 

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That's why I will advise men not to put much energy into these women and why I advised them to not cater to women. The simped out dude would have immediately looked at himself and said, "What did I do wrong? Maybe I need to hit her up and give her more attention! Maybe I need to try harder." A lot of these women think they are too hot or don't have to put in any kind of effort. I could be wrong, but the woman you are talking to probably found some other guy she likes, and when that guy doesn't pay her any attention, she'll pop up like, "Heyyy, how u doing? I missed you?'

The thing with women is that everything is contingent on emotion with them, so you NEVER know what they are going to do next. That's why I would never make a woman the centerpiece of my life. She could be all smiling in your face today, acting like she loves you all the while dealing with some other guy in the background, and when she feels safe to move to him , she's gone without a word... without telling you anything... when it doesn't pan out with him, all of a sudden she comes back like, "Heyyy I've been so busy! i missed u, how are u?"

the naivety of women is what pisses me off the most about em. Like, if you gonne stop talkin to me or cheat on me with another dude..cool, that's on you. But then, you wanna try and get at me after the fact? :why:

to me its saying subconsciously, shorty thinks your weak otherwise she wouldn't dare try to play you from the jump or wouldn't bother trying to talk to you again (meaning she was never interested in you in the first place).
 

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being naive is not equal to playing dumb...woman love to play dumb...dont fall for it...its a TRAP
 
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