The reason men have trouble dating in 2017 is because they don't know their lane

[DjBhaled]

see this the problem...more and more doesnt exist...its a figment of your imagination....their is no top...its in your mind...youre going to keep chasing that carrot on a string

even if u do get money and attract dimes...all theyre going to do is plot on u to take it...look at Rob dumbass....he got money and "dimes" but hes on the verge of self destruction

Exactly money doesn't give you peace of mind peace of mind gives you the detachment away from materialistic thinning which will lead to more money

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Also I'll add, be honest about what u really want and the reality of what that means.

If u literally just trying to fukk a bunch of chicks there is nothing wrong with that, but a lot of women just ain't gon be down with that. I got a friend now talking about how he hate Twitter chicks b/c they be the freakiest online, sending all kinds of filth in his DMs but when he's in their city, they ghost.

Usually taking ur time and getting to know someone and being genuine is easier.

 

[DrX]

It just depends. This is common sense but sometimes u never know what's gonna happen. I do think some blks are less willing to settle b/c they are trying to fukk/date their way to higher self-esteem.

I would say go for what u know. Date not necessarily in ur lane b/c that seems condescending, but date who gives a damn about u. I see some people giving their all to people who don't give a damn about them. But they with em for the wrong reasons. This doesn't mean ur soulmate has to be a bougawuff b/c I hate the idea that only unattractive people are "good" people. But if u find urself alone or constantly getting played it might be time to date closer to who u or what u are.

yup....

 

[DrX]

Also I'll add, be honest about what u really want and the reality of what that means.

If u literally just trying to fukk a bunch of chicks there is nothing wrong with that, but a lot of women just ain't gon be down with that. I got a friend now talking about how he hate Twitter chicks b/c they be the freakiest online, sending all kinds of filth in his DMs but when he's in their city, they ghost.

Usually taking ur time and getting to know someone and being genuine is easier.

something is wrong with that tho....std's, unwanted pregnancies, and these women that get ran thru become mentally unstable and never wifeable

 

[Larry Lambo]

You're an idiot. Chicks in a certain "lane" don't want dudes in that lane.

Fat bytches don't want fat nikkas.

Broke bytches don't (and shouldn't) want broke nikkas

Ugly bytches don't want ugly nikkas. #UglyTeam

Short bytches wanting short nikkas? Short bytches have the most ridiculous height requirements.

THIS!!!!!!!!

You think a female 5 is gonna see a male 5 and be like "Damn, I want to slurp his nut", when it's male 8's and 9's that's are down to smash, and probably a male 7 that is selling the dream as well?

You take the average corporate breh at a decent weight, and the strong majority of "options" he has are overweight women. You take a good looking corporate breh, and the majority of his "options" are average looking women.

The system is designed for men to use women beneath them for sex. In the old days you could go above and beyond, to show that you were in for the long haul, and could make a stronger bid, but now that is considered simping.

There's ways to crack the code to get a girl in "your lane", but it's basically convincing the woman that you are "above" her via money, status, mouthpiece, or perceived other options. If you can't do that, you will have to settle for a chick that's not on par with you.

 

[BrehWyatt]

If more women knew their lane then there would be less men trying to stunt and be something they're not. A lot of dudes tried being themselves and got turned down or overlooked by attractive/cute women that are around their level looks wise.

True, but if a busted/nothing woman don't have shyt to bring to the table sans A-1 box/sex, there is a breh out there doing alright for himself that she can snatch. Same goes for an "ain't shyt" nikka masquerading as a flashy cat that's piping down a woman that -- sans her taste in men -- brings enough to the table to where she'd be a solid catch.

Women want who they want. A dude, IMO, is more likely to settle if a woman checks the most important boxes. Every female acquaintance/friend I have that's in a relationship deep down want to feel like they leveled up or are, for lack of a better term, the inferior partner from a looks/status perspective.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

something is wrong with that tho....std's, unwanted pregnancies, and these women that get ran thru become mentally unstable and never wifeable

Yeah but they not ready for a relationship so shaming them into one won't really work either right?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

yup....

But u know what ur fighting against right? It's society. It's the same reason why a little cottage isn't good enough for most people these days. Why chicks wanna be a real housewife of (insert ur town). Why people risk their lives for quick money then waste on people who don't give a damn about them.

We are in a very shallow age and dating is an accessory. If people were truly more genuine about wanting love and affection marriages would last longer, people would overlook imperfections and try those that care about them lovingly.

As it stands some people don't really want anything real. They want the OPPORTUNITY to play or mess over attractive people to prove their self-worth.

That's why I don't feel sorry anybody who complains about being alone b/c most of the time they have overlooked or ignored genuinely good people who cared about them in pursuit for something more. But they wanna be butt hurt when something more doesn't want them.

 

[DrX]

But u know what ur fighting against right? It's society. It's the same reason why a little cottage isn't good enough for most people these days. Why chicks wanna be a real housewife of (insert ur town). Why people risk their lives for quick money then waste on people who don't give a damn about them.

We are in a very shallow age and dating is an accessory. If people were truly more genuine about wanting love and affection marriages would last longer, people would overlook imperfections and try those that care about them lovingly.

As it stands some people don't really want anything real. They want the OPPORTUNITY to play or mess over attractive people to prove their self-worth.

That's why I don't feel sorry anybody who complains about being alone b/c most of the time they have overlooked or ignored genuinely good people who cared about them in pursuit for something more. But they wanna be butt hurt when something more doesn't want them.

i was once that person

 

[Swirv]

All the women I know just hope for a good Breh who doesn't cheat, likes to have fun and has a decent job. They are having a hard time finding that let alone someone similar to a fictional character.

I think brehs try to emulate characters they see who are successful at achieving their objective and forget that character isn't real.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

All the women I know just hope for a good Breh who doesn't cheat, likes to have fun and has a decent job. They are having a hard time finding that let alone someone similar to a fictional character.

I think brehs try to emulate characters they see who are successful at achieving their objective and forget that character isn't real.

At this point I think the men want to be these fictional characters more than the women wants the fictional character.

Nail on the head with the bolded.
If a man is doing all that extra shyt for attention he brought it on himself.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

i was once that person

But at least ur being honest with urself about it b/c that's the first step.
EVERYBODY unless u got married when u were in middle school has been that person to some degree.

Because a person can be a good person, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are good for u or u might not have been good for them.

That's just life. The important thing is that u learn and try not to repeat those mistakes.

However whereas u and I can admit to our flaws, there is somebody RIGHT now unable to do so and is stuck pointing their finger at the world when they spent their entire lives overlooking perfectly normal people b/c they weren't "special" enuff.
Gotta a homeboy in the Navy right now who married some white chick straight outta high school. She divorced him and took all his shyt and now he complains about how blk chicks won't give him play. Also got a blk female friend who works at Marshall Fields and curves dudes for not making over 70k but she always at my crib eating off me or "leaving her wallet" when she hangs out with us.

I don't feel sorry for these types b/c u try and hook them up with people and u get nothing but excuses and foolishness. I hate to be harsh but maybe they deserve that "metime" or to be "single by choice" until they re-prioritize their lives.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

All the women I know just hope for a good Breh who doesn't cheat, likes to have fun and has a decent job. They are having a hard time finding that let alone someone similar to a fictional character.

I think brehs try to emulate characters they see who are successful at achieving their objective and forget that character isn't real.

This but I do know some goofy ass chicks with stupid expectations too.
Make me wear the face every time they go into their complaints.

 

[DrX]

At this point I think the men want to be these fictional characters more than the women wants the fictional character.

Nail on the head with the bolded.
If a man is doing all that extra shyt for attention he brought it on himself.

it goes both ways imo....both men and women have unrealistic standards....

tv and media made people believe that were more than we actually are....

 

[DrX]

But at least ur being honest with urself about it b/c that's the first step.
EVERYBODY unless u got married when u were in middle school has been that person to some degree.

Because a person can be a good person, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are good for u or u might not have been good for them.

That's just life. The important thing is that u learn and try not to repeat those mistakes.

However whereas u and I can admit to our flaws, there is somebody RIGHT now unable to do so and is stuck pointing their finger at the world when they spent their entire lives overlooking perfectly normal people b/c they weren't "special" enuff.
Gotta a homeboy in the Navy right now who married some white chick straight outta high school. She divorced him and took all his shyt and now he complains about how blk chicks won't give him play. Also got a blk female friend who works at Marshall Fields and curves dudes for not making over 70k but she always at my crib eating off me or "leaving her wallet" when she hangs out with us.

I don't feel sorry for these types b/c u try and hook them up with people and u get nothing but excuses and foolishness. I hate to be harsh but maybe they deserve that "metime" or to be "single by choice" until they re-prioritize their lives.

they do deserve it....but my problem is...this game that black people are playing is is very genocidal and its not as innocent as it seem on the surface...because where does it really ends? what is the end game for this?

those are the long term consequences...we need each other at the very least economically...forget about the emotions....for our survival we need 2 parent black households with resources.....

I have a 26 year old female cousin thats stuck at a dead end job still with dreams of marrying rich...its crazy....and i can already tell shes going to eventually lose her mind because im the type to accept harsh realities....its sad and alot of us are going to be walking around aimlessly losing our minds

thats why im trying to accept reality...because i was once super delusional and idealistic