Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

This is when you need discipline homie. Like Reincar says when you dont care,thats when you get the women.Right now you caring too much. Less communication with her the better.Make her miss you. Once you discipline yourself,you will be the man.Its like this.... lets take Albert Pujols. If he presses too much to hit a home run he is going to either strike out,or pop into a flyball. Now when he relaxes thats when he gets home runs.In other words let the game come to you. Dont force it. You dont need a woman as much as you think.Your in the slump-re building stage.This is YOUR test.

I hear you cause the bytches Ive had are always when I wasnt even tryna get it. I'ma keep doing what I do. Just focusing on my work, and stacking loot to pay off next years tuition and save for a whip.

Believe me though brehs...When I say drought I mean drought

The only reason I feel I can cope with this shyt is that since I started fukking I've never had a steady dosage of p*ssy. It's always been sporadic with months in between so I never really fiend.

Probably why I stay so level headed.

Not being defensive though but I wouldnt say I'm thirsty.

 

[Ohene]

You have nothing? Looks like to me you got all the options in the world and the ability to explore them. Dead that thirst though. It will ruin you.

also you should stop texting women. When you communicate with a chick force her to be fully engaged. Texting is a bullshyt form of communication. It requires little to no investment.

Agreed. I try to keep it to a minimum nowadays

 

[Ohene]

I think I said earlier. Something about how the more you text a girl the more you seem like every other nikka thats chasing her.

Cause its times I am in a girls presence and its like the girl is and cant get enough of you. but when you try and text em they all .
Too lazy to find the post

Only time I text is if I'm just beginning to get to know the girl or if i'm setting up something, confirming something or need something as small as directions or a time to meet at. Even then calling is more efficient.

 

[Ohene]

nfl season is almost here :ahhh: I can smell it in the airwaves

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

I think I said earlier. Something about how the more you text a girl the more you seem like every other nikka thats chasing her.

Cause its times I am in a girls presence and its like the girl is and cant get enough of you. but when you try and text em they all .
Too lazy to find the post

Only time I text is if I'm just beginning to get to know the girl or if i'm setting up something, confirming something or need something as small as directions or a time to meet at. Even then calling is more efficient.

That’s the thing breagham, you have to give off the idea that you are even too busy for HER ASS.

They naturally gravitate to a guy who seems to have his life in order (work, goals, aspirations, ample social circle, recreational activities in gear, food buff, music aficionado etc.).

Girl I’m talking to now, met her July 4th (I told y’all the story).

Any who, in July, I only got ONE day out of her and that was to watch Spiderman because her schedule was “soooo” hectic. Any who, she prefers phone calls (and that’s okay with me because she has a very soothing/unwinding monotone but sexy voice).

There’s a lot more to this story, which involves me not responding to her until the next day (which I doubt she’s accustomed to cuz she’s haught).

Long story short, she was testing my patience. I waited it out cuz my ex told me that dealing with sistas; you have to take it slow because too many unworthy dudes always tryna holla and she prolly thinks you a playa (she said I was charming and a bonafied “ladies man” – which isn’t true, so I had to tread carefully).

So, after a few weeks of messages and just as many phone calls, exactly one month to the day when I initially met her, I was tired of having to wait to see her cuz of her work load, soft ball tournaments so frequently and family/friend visiting throughout the summer… i actually professed my feelings (but not the way you’d presume).

I called her last Friday and said,

“Mariam, I think you’re a cool ass female. I enjoy hanging out with you, you’re cool peoples who’s passionate about the things she loves. And not to mention, the way you eat popcorn like a messy child is sexy to me. So with that said, i wanna see you tonight.”

She hesitated for a bit. Proceeded to tell me that she has to wake up early for another softball tournament and that her room was extremely hot and didn’t feel like carrying up the ac machine up herself (cuz afterall, she has a bum wrist).

So this is how I ended it.

“Baby, don’t even put yourself thru that kind of a stressful situation. I’ma swing by in a bit to help you with that air conditioning unit. We’ll set it up, watch some television, hang out for a couple hours. I really need to see that smile of yours.”

Then she replies,

“Do you remember where I live?

The rest is history.

You know what’s funny though? Even though she didn’t give me any true indicator, even went to the corner store to cop a pack of rubbers, something about this time felt so right.

So when I get to boo’s crib, I axed her if I could use the restroom.

And when I lifted up the toilet seat… lo and behold… FRESH NANI HAIR TRIMMINGS!

Haha.

Let’s just say I went in on that shiit like I knew it would get back to her teammates the next day.

*sighs*



Just be a little persistent, showing that you want them without coming off thirsty. The only thing that i had to do right... was be patient.


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[Smashley]

And when I lifted up the toilet seat… lo and behold… FRESH NANI HAIR TRIMMINGS!

 

[MikelArteta]

nfl season is almost here :ahhh: I can smell it in the airwaves

I was given the ultimatum before college football or her

Thursday friday and Saturday 10am to 2am is college football

 

[Shameonyou]

Dont be scared to fall in love man....I know we been talking about precautions and selecting the right woman....but really, when the right woman is for you, you will know...when that happens, what are you gonna do? Never let your pride get in the way of happiness.

 

[The Message]

I called her last Friday and said,

“Mariam, I think you’re a cool ass female. I enjoy hanging out with you, you’re cool peoples who’s passionate about the things she loves. And not to mention, the way you eat popcorn like a messy child is sexy to me. So with that said, i wanna see you tonight.”

She hesitated for a bit. Proceeded to tell me that she has to wake up early for another softball tournament and that her room was extremely hot and didn’t feel like carrying up the ac machine up herself (cuz afterall, she has a bum wrist).

It's funny when they get all intricate with the details on why they cant link up. "Oh I cant tonight, I have to work a double shift tomorrow and my car has been acting up. All Honda Civics manufactured after 2009 and with a VIN ending in an even number, have transmission problems and I dont want to drive it tonight to risk it." lol Just tell me you're busy. I wouldnt have texted her back after that. lol

 

[winb83]

Dont be scared to fall in love man....I know we been talking about precautions and selecting the right woman....but really, when the right woman is for you, you will know...when that happens, what are you gonna do? Never let your pride get in the way of happiness.

There is no right woman. What you call the right one today could be the bytch you can't stand tomorrow. We're people we change. You probably are mentally a different person than you were 5-10 years ago. Love is an emotion like happiness and anger. Emotions change and can fade. Don't place your hopes in emotions that can change at a moment's notice.

 

[MikelArteta]

Dont be scared to fall in love man....I know we been talking about precautions and selecting the right woman....but really, when the right woman is for you, you will know...when that happens, what are you gonna do? Never let your pride get in the way of happiness.

this is true

 

[Shameonyou]

There is no right woman. What you call the right one today could be the bytch you can't stand tomorrow. We're people we change. You probably are mentally a different person than you were 5-10 years ago. Love is an emotion like happiness and anger. Emotions change and can fade. Don't place your hopes in emotions that can change at a moment's notice.

you are thinking about right woman completely differently than the way im thinking of the "right woman". The right woman will not be perfect, because no one is. However, you aint either, and you should be able to accept flaws from others the same way you expect that woman to accept them from you. If you are fickle, then you dont deserve the right woman at that point and time...If you are ready to give your best for that one person, and she to you....let yourself be happy.Thats all im saying.

This aint about emotions, this is about teamwork.

 

[Sharp]

I think Kev mentioned something to this effect earlier in the thread, but I wanted to bring this point home.

Make sure you are built for the league you are trying to play in. If you know that all you want to do is have sex with chicks and you find yourself having to commit to them in order to do so, then you're not built for what you're trying to do. A man of integrity never has to mislead a woman to get what he expects from her. Don't wife her if all you want to do is sleep with her. If you don't want to be monogamous, then don't get into a relationship. Allow yourself to be single and free to date, so there's no guilt or accusations of cheating when you meet a new female and something develops there.

A man who cheats is either weak in the fact that he can't be alone or he lacks self discipline. I would not enter a relationship if I am not ready to be monogamous. There's too many women out there providing sex without a promise of commitment for me to feel like I need to be in a relationship to achieve that. As a man, if I am unsatisfied with the woman I am with, I will voice my displeasure. If no changes are made, I will leave her and move on. I don't need to string any woman along while I dog her out on the side. If I feel the need to cheat on her to compensate for something missing in my current relationship (sex, affection, attention, etc.), she must not be of value to me, and therefore it makes no sense to keep her in my life. She's just taking up space and time that I can give to a woman that makes me happy.

 

[twan83]

I think Kev mentioned something to this effect earlier in the thread, but I wanted to bring this point home.

Make sure you are built for the league you are trying to play in. If you know that all you want to do is have sex with chicks and you find yourself having to commit to them in order to do so, then you're not built for what you're trying to do. A man of integrity never has to mislead a woman to get what he expects from her. Don't wife her if all you want to do is sleep with her. If you don't want to be monogamous, then don't get into a relationship. Allow yourself to be single and free to date, so there's no guilt or accusations of cheating when you meet a new female and something develops there.

A man who cheats is either weak in the fact that he can't be alone or he lacks self discipline. I would not enter a relationship if I am not ready to be monogamous. There's too many women out there providing sex without a promise of commitment for me to feel like I need to be in a relationship to achieve that. As a man, if I am unsatisfied with the woman I am with, I will voice my displeasure. If no changes are made, I will leave her and move on. I don't need to string any woman along while I dog her out on the side. If I feel the need to cheat on her to compensate for something missing in my current relationship (sex, affection, attention, etc.), she must not be of value to me, and therefore it makes no sense to keep her in my life. She's just taking up space and time that I can give to a woman that makes me happy.

you are right about that. Thats y i stress that you should enjoy yourself as much as possible till u wont want to do it no more. You will know for the most part.

Example
For me i was always sleeping around and i knew i wasn't ready so i would stay single but then one day a girl i had over that i slept with i was laying next to her and she was sexy

But i felt lonely and felt like it was becoming a waste to be sleeping around. i felt this way with a sexy female with a sexy body lying next to me who gave me great sex. Thats when i knew i was ready for a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.
i was bored and tired and felt EMPTY on the inside.

I wanted to lay next to someone i can have fun with do things with
not with a different female every time

 

[twan83]

Got a question

This happened to me like in 2002 just was thinking bout this situation and wanted to hear you guys opinion on it.


I was out one day with my boy headed to the club in tokyo and i saw this female from a distance she was beautiful to me but i had been with better. i say bout a 8 on a scale of 10

anyways i was like i need to holler at her but couldn't she went a different direction

later that night at the club she comes in and i see her and she see's me and we stare at each other

Ask me why the fukk when that happen it was literally like this




its like i needed her in my life and i couldn't help myself it felt like LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT kinda shyt no joke. I fell so hard on that damn look and stare

wondering
Felt like some damn movie


So somebody explain to me why in the hell did i felt that way. It wasn't looks cuz ive had better, it wasn't cuz i wanted sex either.

IMO not saying im right but i think it was one of the times where i let my guard down completely. it was just a night for me and my boy to have some drinks and chill not to meet females and bang em out.