Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Nope, I haven't had "friends" since 08 and they weren't even my friends. I found out when I wasn't around they would talk about me behind my back and this had been going on since middle school. fukk that

you should always have a few people you can count in
not to get all bibilical on you but in the bible there is a story where a man was paralyzed for years and years and Jesus healed him, but how did Jesus heal him? his friends carried him to where Jesus was and lowered him in from the roof.

What I mean is sometimes situations in life occurs where you may need someone to "carry" you, maybe your paralyzed from the neck down, maybe you lose your job and need to borrow money, maybe you just need someone who cares to listen

I don't have alot of friends because I have a strong definition of what I friend is but I have a few,and I can count on these people.

I don't associate with many people, id rather relax and read a book than go out, id rather travel by myself than with people, i dont talk to my friends every day but if I need them they are there.
 

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you should always have a few people you can count in
not to get all bibilical on you but in the bible there is a story where a man was paralyzed for years and years and Jesus healed him, but how did Jesus heal him? his friends carried him to where Jesus was and lowered him in from the roof.

What I mean is sometimes situations in life occurs where you may need someone to "carry" you, maybe your paralyzed from the neck down, maybe you lose your job and need to borrow money, maybe you just need someone who cares to listen

I don't have alot of friends because I have a strong definition of what I friend is but I have a few,and I can count on these people.

I don't associate with many people, id rather relax and read a book than go out, id rather travel by myself than with people, i dont talk to my friends every day but if I need them they are there.

I see what you're saying but i've been managing without :manny:
 

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It's so hard to picture a woman being attracted to me even though I've witnessed it.

It's cost me so much over the years. And now, I'm at a point in life wher damn near everyone else I know had graduated from college and I didn't so it's even harder now because I feel like such a loser.

Then there's the fact that I haven't had any sort of real relationship with a woman and it just adds up to a vicious cycle of doubt and low self-esteem.

I think it has a lot to do with my parents even though they meant well. My dad always taught me to do this, and have that, to have women, but nothing about self-love. He was only 19 when I was born so he was growing up too, but now he sees what he's done wrong.

The positive thing about this is that now I've actually identified what my issues are


your already selling yourself short, there are over 3 billion women in the world not all will think your ugly

the mistake and danger is comparing yourself to others, everyone lives their own life breh, secondly if you want to graduate from college go whats stopping you?


your issues are confidenc and looking for some women to vaidate who you are.

Am I ugly? well ive never been in a relationship so I guess I'm ugly have to kill that mindset,

am I a loser? well everyone has a college education and I don't I guess I am
hav eto kill that mindset
 

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your already selling yourself short, there are over 3 billion women in the world not all will think your ugly

the mistake and danger is comparing yourself to others, everyone lives their own life breh, secondly if you want to graduate from college go whats stopping you?


your issues are confidenc and looking for some women to vaidate who you are.

Am I ugly? well ive never been in a relationship so I guess I'm ugly have to kill that mindset,

am I a loser? well everyone has a college education and I don't I guess I am
hav eto kill that mindset
you are doing the lords work in here breh :wow:
cant beleave that guy you quoted feels that way,keep fighting the good fight
just reading what he posted makes me feel better about myself
 

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you are doing the lords work in here breh :wow:
cant beleave that guy you quoted feels that way,keep fighting the good fight

ive been there man so I know what it feels like, minus some little kissing and groping at 15 with some plain ol girl. Thought the same many do that I was ugly and ish. Then I started getting alot of attention from women but I looked the same, and with that more attention my thought process changed to where my ish never stank. I remember having like 100 plus phone contacts of just women in my pay as you go phone, every weekend taking the bus hanging out with a new chick. Chicks calling me all the time, calling me sexy and all that and I thought I was da ish.

Got older two long term relationships, and learned alot along the way.

Thing is what we see in the mirror is NOT what everyone else sees, we see every fault, every nook every cranny. Things we may hate about ourselves makes us unique and can be attracted.

I remember I hated my nose it was just so big to me, and when I was with my ex fiance she didn't even know my insecurity about my nose :heh:, but she just mentioned how she likes the unique shape of my nose. Sme when I was a young kewn and hated how dark I was and this chick I was messing with saying how she wish she had the color texture of my skin.

It's all in the mind, the more I learn the more I never EVER sell myself short anymore.
 

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Brehs whats your thoughts on theory vs experience in regards to women?

Im not sure if im making sense, but today where blessed to converse like this and exchange ideas. Tbh my game wouldnt have sharply increased if it wasnt for a number of sources, i was on the road to simpdom but these theories saved my life..literally. It aint about getting 300 women but dealing with them.

But im not totally were i want be, and think this is where actively gaining experience comes in which is essential, and its my thing against totally cutting women out and 'focusing on yourself'. I just want brehs to know theres a balance.
 

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Yup its like a lawyer you go to law school but you also article after. A Dr pre med, med school residency.

A qb can know all the plays in the playbook, but until he practices it...

you need both theory and experience.
Without experience, theory has zero practical purpose, and without proper theory, you'll be setting yourself up to be taken advantage of.
 

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How did u find out? What were they saying

We went to some girl's party around the college my friend went to. There were 4 of us and these broads pulled up yelling at us to come to them. I think there were five of them but they were drunk talking about they wanna fukk, give somebody head and what not. The 3 dudes were all up on the car trying to spit game while I stayed in the background on my phone playing a game. One of them got mad about it later and told somebody else that I was a loser and shyt. Also one of my friends girlfriend let her coworkers prank me by taking her phone and sending me love texts and shyt, talking about she wanted "a secret relationship". I fell for it and looked like a dumb ass after
 
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