Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[True Blue Moon]

Yo so how do you guys keep a woman's interest in between dates. Last night I had a really good date with a girl. We spent almost five hours together. We kissed twice at the end of the night. I got the "text me when you're home". This was Tuesday night.

I'm thinking of seeing her next Friday. Unfortunately between our schedules, me job hunting, and my father having to go into the hospital today which will push things back, obviously I won't see her for about 8-9 days now.

The good thing is that she is always smiling in her texts or emphasizing statements with !! or if I send her something funny it's hahaha. I can tell she is very interest. I just don't want to lose that until I see her again. Any ideas?

Use this time to get in her head. Be playfully inquisitive and keep it light and flirty. When she gets to talking about herself or revealing how her mind works, make sure that you frame your responses kind of in a way of being the one she seeks validation from, mixed in with talking a little shyt.

Example, when I was texting my lady back in the day, I told her that she had entered "Down Ass Chick 101" and that I'd be peeping what moves she makes that set her apart from basic chicks, so that she could be a chick that I can rock with. It was done in enough of a joking tone that she not only played along, but would ramp up that energy.

Honestly, 8 or 9 days of having to be apart and wanting to hang out again with a girl you kissed is plenty of time to build tension via text, to the point that y'all are sexting and teasing each other about how good it's going to be when you meet back up. Don't be on the phone all damn day, but definitely throw in some charm and intrigue to get her to bite, before going ghost to make her miss you, and delivering the goods with conversation that gets in her head and motivates her to catch your vibes whenever you do text her.

 

[ViShawn]

Use this time to get in her head. Be playfully inquisitive and keep it light and flirty. When she gets to talking about herself or revealing how her mind works, make sure that you frame your responses kind of in a way of being the one she seeks validation from, mixed in with talking a little shyt.

Example, when I was texting my lady back in the day, I told her that she had entered "Down Ass Chick 101" and that I'd be peeping what moves she makes that set her apart from basic chicks, so that she could be a chick that I can rock with. It was done in enough of a joking tone that she not only played along, but would ramp up that energy.

Honestly, 8 or 9 days of having to be apart and wanting to hang out again with a girl you kissed is plenty of time to build tension via sex, to the point that y'all are sexting and teasing each other about how good it's going to be when you meet back up. Don't be on the phone all damn day, but definitely throw in some charm and intrigue to get her to bite, before going ghost to make her miss you, and delivering the goods with conversation that gets in her head and motivates her to catch your vibes whenever you do text her.

Great thanks!

So far it's fun and flirty. Lot's of teasing. It isn't overtly sexual, but she definitely has sex appeal to me, but her qualities to me scream more relationship material. I don't want to barrel her with questions, but I want to be fun with her. I think that's what I offer. Plus the fact she's a 5'4'' little thing and I'm 6'1'' who's fit

It's just balancing her emotional energy. We were talking about food and she told me she doesn't like things too spicy and joked about it. I said "So you just like a little spice, just like you? ;)" (she's Latina) and she laughed about it.

I just can't be afraid to get sexual. I think that's the driving force. I could definitely talk about her lips or her eyes and build a little anticipation...

Also I've noticed that many women that are attracted to me don't give me as many compliments lol. They just assume I'm "the man" and let me do my thing, but I like to know why you like me, etc. She didn't really compliment me on our date BUT she was fully engaged in our conversations, funny, playful, actually paid for most of it (she was late unintentionally). There was closeness too so a good foundation so I think the sexual part is next but she said she definitely wants to do something again.

Just online dating you're competing with tons of men.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Great thanks!

So far it's fun and flirty. Lot's of teasing. It isn't overtly sexual, but she definitely has sex appeal to me, but her qualities to me scream more relationship material. I don't want to barrel her with questions, but I want to be fun with her. I think that's what I offer. Plus the fact she's a 5'4'' little thing and I'm 6'1'' who's fit

It's just balancing her emotional energy. We were talking about food and she told me she doesn't like things too spicy and joked about it. I said "So you just like a little spice, just like you? ;)" (she's Latina) and she laughed about it.

I just can't be afraid to get sexual. I think that's the driving force. I could definitely talk about her lips or her eyes and build a little anticipation...

Also I've noticed that many women that are attracted to me don't give me as many compliments lol. They just assume I'm "the man" and let me do my thing, but I like to know why you like me, etc. She didn't really compliment me on our date BUT she was fully engaged in our conversations, funny, playful, actually paid for most of it (she was late unintentionally). There was closeness too so a good foundation so I think the sexual part is next but she said she definitely wants to do something again.

Just online dating you're competing with tons of men.

Looks like you're already on the right track

Keep it fun above all and don't be needy and you're more than good. Go with your gut

 

[Deafheaven]

So talked with the girl I was dating and we came to a understanding. Apparently she felt the relationship was 80/20 on her effort and upon her examples I couldn't really disagree so I can see why she got frustrated after a while. Its shytty because my ex was the reverse so I know how it feels and I actually had to apologize for it. I'mma see if it works out better when we both on the same page

 

[Shadow King]

Fair enough breh. Whether it's with women or money, make sure that your validation and happiness comes within. That's a process in itself. Because once you do get out of your parents' crib and get your money super right, you'll need to make sure that you're bringing your happiness to that, as opposed to hoping that the money itself can do it.

Go after your goals relentlessly, but make sure you're also loving yourself. It makes getting the goals 100% more fulfilling and you'll take pride in the hard parts -- which there'll be plenty of any time you're working to better yourself.

As long as I'm learning and creating I'll be alright. The motto has to be chase dreams not feelings.

 

[ViShawn]

Not sure what to make of it. My date that I hit it off with got weird on me.

The day before it was enthusiasm, setting up the next date, etc. She even paid for most of the date because she was late.

She plays volleyball and I was teasing her about it:

Me: Don't tear a calf muscle tonight. I don't have any extra ice packs for you to use ;)
Her: I thoroughly stretched today!
Me: Well prevention is always the best approach. You can always borrow my foam roller.
Me (next day): I think I'm just going to skip the foam roller and massage your legs instead.
Her: I've gt one and use one, but um... Thanks for the offer...

WHOA. I kissed this girl the other night and shyt. I don't know if she's not touchy feely or what, but I clearly have romantic intentions with her.

I'm letting it cool off a sec. Maybe change the subject, what? I'm horrible at texting BTW.

 

[TRUEST]

Not sure what to make of it. My date that I hit it off with got weird on me.

The day before it was enthusiasm, setting up the next date, etc. She even paid for most of the date because she was late.

She plays volleyball and I was teasing her about it:

Me: Don't tear a calf muscle tonight. I don't have any extra ice packs for you to use ;)
Her: I thoroughly stretched today!
Me: Well prevention is always the best approach. You can always borrow my foam roller.
Me (next day): I think I'm just going to skip the foam roller and massage your legs instead.
Her: I've gt one and use one, but um... Thanks for the offer...

WHOA. I kissed this girl the other night and shyt. I don't know if she's not touchy feely or what, but I clearly have romantic intentions with her.

I'm letting it cool off a sec. Maybe change the subject, what? I'm horrible at texting BTW.

i dont know homie. u said u're 6'1 right. always use that to ur advantage and stop trying to treat these women like angels. after a good date, always, always escalate. invite her over to ur spot. the sooner u fucck a girl, the sooner u get to securing urself in her mind. without sex, ur just a passing memory to a lot of these women.

but after that long ass text, u didnt need to double text. i understand how it feels to want someone so bad that u end up talking urself into doing things u shouldnt have done..i.e. texting her when she didnt respond to your last text. if u cant control yourself, delete that entire text history between u and her so ur not tempted to double post again.

and stop making these lame ass "im trying so hard to impress you" jokes. sh1t like this is neon sign to girls that this guy is trying to win my affection...which is ironically a turn off.

 

[ViShawn]

i dont know homie. u said u're 6'1 right. always use that to ur advantage and stop trying to treat these women like angels. after a good date, always, always escalate. invite her over to ur spot. the sooner u fucck a girl, the sooner u get to securing urself in her mind. without sex, ur just a passing memory to a lot of these women.

but after that long ass text, u didnt need to double text. i understand how it feels to want someone so bad that u end up talking urself into doing things u shouldnt have done..i.e. texting her when she didnt respond to your last text. if u cant control yourself, delete that entire text history between u and her so ur not tempted to double post again.

and stop making these lame ass "im trying so hard to impress you" jokes. sh1t like this is neon sign to girls that this guy is trying to win my affection...which is ironically a turn off.

Makes sense. It comes off as try hard. But trying to recover from this breh

 

[Deafheaven]

Makes sense. It comes off as try hard. But trying to recover from this breh

Simply put you talking yourself out of the puss get her out again, have a good time, eacalate.

 

[ViShawn]

Simply put you talking yourself out of the puss get her out again, have a good time, eacalate.

Yeah I know I am lol. How do you think I should respond? Change the subject? We already agreed to a second date.

 

[True Blue Moon]

@AdvantageSouthpaw Just let the game come to you breh

 

[ViShawn]

@AdvantageSouthpaw Just let the game come to you breh

Use The Force. I got you

 

[Deafheaven]

Yeah I know I am lol. How do you think I should respond? Change the subject? We already agreed to a second date.

respond to what? you already set the date. get the fukk off the phone breh this seems to be the problem

 

[ViShawn]

respond to what? you already set the date. get the fukk off the phone breh this seems to be the problem

I just ignored it and told her I set our date plans and she replies"Yayy!!! I'm so excited!!"

 

[True Blue Moon]

@AdvantageSouthpaw Honestly, going too far and then backing off a little bit is part of the game anyway. Even when you're in person, you might start kissing her neck and even though she wants it, she might brush you off. It's not a rejection, just time to chill for a minute before escalating again.

Nine times out of ten when a chick that you know is feeling you backs away, it just means she's either not warmed up enough yet or wasn't feeling the particular move you made.

You did right by not getting all upset or making it a big deal. As you see, she was enthusiastic still when you set up the date.