Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Bigblackted4]

Real talk. One woman like that is worth at least 10 of these random thots that just get pumped and dumped.

Yeah not even close

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I find myself wanting to do nice stuff for her because she's so sweet and actually does nice stuff for me. I haven't want to do that for a chick in a while! I also, strangely enough, feel 'safe' around her if that makes sense. Not in a protective manner but if I'm with her I feel everything is going to be okay.

That’s “peace” brother.

 

[Max.]

Well im back brehs after 10days of fukkn raw...shorty was supposed to come over n kick it but didmt...i had this gut feeling sumthn was up...so i used my fake pof page to check n saw she made a new profile that day(mind u we met on bumble)
The next day her texts were lil slow so i called her up n confronted her about it...

Thing is we both told each other we wanted each other(not talk to other people)...we had deleted our bumble together...but i caught the bytch in a lie...she started actn mad funny that i caught her havent spoken to her in 2 days

 

[semicko82]

Don’t settle you will be wishing you didn’t for a long time did that with an ex and it was cool for the first year but I got so bored and had to let her go.

Yep, pretty similar story. I got in a relationship with a chick I wasn’t attracted to, and ironically she ended up cheating

 

[DaRealness]

This post was originally going to be longer.
- Going out with a chick tomorrow. Last time I saw her, we flirted heavily at a party; she left with another guy. I felt some type of way about this.
- Her (shared with a gay friend) birthday party is this weekend, I don't really want to go
- My last post, I deleted the dating apps, but I still have the number of a girl I was supposed to go out with. Should I hit her up?

I was a late bloomer in terms of dating (and career success). I feel like I'm just looking for fun and sex and if I make a deeper connection along the way then... cool.

The reason why I mention career success is because some of the women I've dated are super successful. It's weird when they're at such high levels in their careers and I'm the IT guy. I'm a well paid IT guy, but not at their level.

Look, a lot of these professional women will fukk a dude living on his mother's couch and doesn't have two pennies to rub together if she's feeling him. Likewise, men who have millions in the bank get cheated on by the women all the time. Didn't Cassie cheat on Puff and he's worth more than any of us will ever make.

There's always gonna be women who are higher up the professional ladder than you are, so what? fukk everything else, it all boils down to sexual charisma/confidence. Rom Wills goes into great detail on that. All this bullshyt about being a nice, clean cut stable guy is for the birds. Women don't give a fukk about all that in all honesty. Stability is good, but if a woman ain't feeling you it doesn't matter what you have - even if you're part of the six certs, six figures, six series, six feet gang like the long running coli joke indicates - and they know it. If that's the case, why pass over a lot of good guys for bummy dudes?

I'm in IT too and work all over the city, especially in financial districts so I see successful and wealthy people all the time. I drive a nice car, keep a roof over my head and can afford to travel twice a year (one long haul and one short haul destination) because I know how to manage my finances, so I'm good. Even then I'm still studying to get my qualifications up so I can earn more and move to a better place and be able to send money to family in need, but I do that for ME.

You have to be confident in who you are. Professional women don't faze me, plus I stay in my lane anyway. I don't need them. They ain't paying my bills.

 

[Solano707]

REPPED

Another reason why brehs need to get on they grind and get they own spot, and not have it messy.

I missed out on tons of p*ssy not having a spot, and then when I did I never wanted to take bytches back there unless they were wild young hoes because the spot had bed bugs

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[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Yes man when you finally find a woman that wants to prove herself to you and cares about your happinesss that shyt is amazing. My girls still does this and we been talking since 2014.

When a man finds a woman like that then he can truly have that abundance mindset and not waste time on bytches because you when a chick truly values you.

It also shows you that is how most women want to be around men...they want someone to cater and prove themselves too.

This new generation/brehs without game think it's the other away around...and that's why they're losing.

 

[PewPew]

I wrote a long post of "rules" several pages back, and i damn near broke every single one.

Stopped working out
Started investing more in her, emotionally and financial, than she did me
Was always available to her and her needs

Got shot down again, but this time, I think im truly done. Im reading a book called "No more mr nice guy" and i exhibit a lot of the symptoms of a "nice guy," mainly always looking to please her and her needs instead of mine.

Dont do that brehs. Always put yourself first in every situation until they show, with their actions not words, that they value you too

 

[PewPew]

Taking my self to a movie, going to see creed 2. Then i going to hit the gym. Ive lost 10 pounds so far. learning to enjoy being alone

 

[DaRealness]

I wrote a long post of "rules" several pages back, and i damn near broke every single one.

Stopped working out
Started investing more in her, emotionally and financial, than she did me
Was always available to her and her needs

Got shot down again, but this time, I think im truly done. Im reading a book called "No more mr nice guy" and i exhibit a lot of the symptoms of a "nice guy," mainly always looking to please her and her needs instead of mine.

Dont do that brehs. Always put yourself first in every situation until they show, with their actions not words, that they value you too

Yup, ultimately your best friend will always be the person looking in the mirror. I saw a quote once that said something along the lines of "go all out to please and look after yourself just like you did those who didn't care about you" and that's what you need to live by.

People come and go. The only person who is with you from the cradle to the grave is YOU.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Taking my self to a movie, going to see creed 2. Then i going to hit the gym. Ive lost 10 pounds so far. learning to enjoy being alone

This is the perfect mindset until you can enjoy your own company and thoughts you'll be in thrall to people. And chasing company.

I stopped having to need company and now ironically I get even more attention from these chicks. No more chasing if they don't text. I don't care.

 

[PewPew]

Yup, ultimately your best friend will always be the person looking in the mirror. I saw a quote once that said something along the lines of "go all out to please and look after yourself just like you did those who didn't care about you" and that's what you need to live by.

People come and go. The only person who is with you from the cradle to the grave is YOU.

Completely agreed breh. The crazy part is that with other chicks, im HOH for life. But with the chick I’m feeling, I’m putty. And I think that’s because I tie so much of my value into how she views me or our interactions. But no longer

 

[DaRealness]

Completely agreed breh. The crazy part is that with other chicks, im HOH for life. But with the chick I’m feeling, I’m putty. And I think that’s because I tie so much of my value into how she views me or our interactions. But no longer

Yeah cos they change their minds quicker than they change shoes. You go all out to please them then you never see them again. I don't take them nearly as seriously like I used to. I just came back form a late dinner with work colleagues and some chick I used to mess with who pissed me off tried ringing me then sent me a text saying it's been a long time can we "catch up one day". Mind you she was the one who went all funny. The old me would have returned her phone call now I ain't returning shyt. I've learned to move on and do me.

 

[PewPew]

Yeah cos they change their minds quicker than they change shoes. You go all out to please them then you never see them again. I don't take them nearly as seriously like I used to. I just came back form a late dinner with work colleagues and some chick I used to mess with who pissed me off tried ringing me then sent me a text saying it's been a long time can we "catch up one day". Mind you she was the one who went all funny. The old me would have returned her phone call now I ain't returning shyt. I've learned to move on and do me.

Man hell yea!! I’m realizing, as a guy, as long as you focus on improving yourself, they always come back around.

By the way, In the book “no more mr nice guy,” it talks about making sure that you have other men in your life to vent to. Men that won’t judge and will instead try to help.

I didn’t have any brother growing up so it’s dope to read y’all responses and no I’m not the only one out here going through shyt. Even though we don’t know each other personal, your stories teach me everyday.

Just want to say thank you to everyone for sharing.

 

[Max.]

Taking my self to a movie, going to see creed 2. Then i going to hit the gym. Ive lost 10 pounds so far. learning to enjoy being alone

Ive cut down on soda(maybe one/ day) n added another day or cardio n saw a big difference..my shirt felt lil looser