Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I had to put things off with this new girl. I'm not ready to really start another relationship. For my brehs that been cheated on, how long do it take for you to want to attempt to trust again and move forward with someone new?

I feel like I might need some time just by myself.

I dont trust WOMEN to do the right thing ...when i got cheated on i made every girl earn my trust. Nowdays a women has to grow on me. Equate how they fell about their vignas as how you should fell about your time and space.
 

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most women don't love you, just your status or what you can offer.

Men love hard, women love often.

I've only loved two women in my life, yet I've had like ten women utter that phrase to me and they probably meant it at that time. And both of those women I loved, even if they gained 200lbs, were broke, lost their job / homeless (happened twice) I still loved them.
 

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I had to put things off with this new girl. I'm not ready to really start another relationship. For my brehs that been cheated on, how long do it take for you to want to attempt to trust again and move forward with someone new?

I feel like I might need some time just by myself.

It takes a time, the scars will remain like old battle wounds. It's not easy, when you see your girl texting you'll be wondering which nikka she texting, sometimes the triggers come back, i'm not equating the two but it's like somoene who was raped how sometimes the memories hit you hard.

you'll never fully have that innocent trust you had one time
 

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Not used to breaking up with girls usually it's the other way around:mjcry:

In a long distance relationship..caught up with her for nYe and confirmed we not compatible. Never too soon to end it right?
 
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So you have been single for a while, it seems everyone you know is in a relationship, getting married or having kids. Oh my everyone is passing me by, and to boot they look so happy nibbles on fingernails; you have your checkpoints what you desire in a partner but thoughts of loneliness are starting to creep in. I’m too picky, maybe oh maybe I should just compromise and settle who knows maybe I will be happy. To make it worse the constant pressure from society and others – Why aren’t you married yet? As if there is something wrong with you that you haven’t achieved this act before a certain age.

Firstly, emotions can trick your mind by creating false realizations. One should never envy the life of another, or their relationship status and look at it as some sort of accomplishment. It’s so easy to be in a relationship but hard to be in and maintain a great one.

Secondly, it’s so easy to buy into the happy illusion that is sold. Everybody looks happy and living a blissful life from afar especially on social media, as it shows the best of someone as they can filter what is seen which may not match up to the reality. I remember being in disastrous relationships and a photo smiling was posted on Facebook and the awws, wow you guys are perfect for each other, when it was a living nightmare. In essence focus on what you have, embrace it, don’t compare your life with others and learn to be content with what you have, because not everything that looks glittery to you is gold.

Thirdly you cannot put a deadline on yourself or more than likely you will end up with the wrong person. Patience Patience Patience and I stress patience….nothing in life is guaranteed or anything mandatory to live a life of fulfillment.

I know first-hand the risks of settling aka being with someone knowing they were not the best for me and I was not the best for them, but just trudging along because meh it was better than being alone. I compromised my values and basic requirements and all it did was depress and stress me out. So I put a stake in the ground and decided that I refuse to settle - I’m either going to find someone that meets my checkpoints or I’m going to stay single.

And I’m totally fine with any outcome, I know I could casually date, I could hop into a relationship, I could appease to others looking in like there is something wrong with me, validate any perception of status/desirability easily but substance and quality is something I will not compromise, so I have no problem :kony: and just living life as I’ve come to the point of locating happiness in feeling 100% in charge of my life and my emotions. So I stress the point to forget the pressures of society and how others may judge you, no one else is living your life nor paying your bills. If you rely on other people for anything, happiness, love, to fill a void more than likely you will end up unhappy after a devastating string of constant disappointments.

Lastly, life regardless of circumstances is breathtaking and filled with unexpected surprises. Cherish it daily, regardless if you are single continue to grow in terms of your character, appreciate your freedom and time alone; remember that loneliness is just a state of mind. Cultivate a stronger relationship with your parents and close friends, volunteer, travel, invest in yourself no one knows what the future holds but having a positive outlook and holding fast to your morals will make the trip on life’s journey so much more easier!
 

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it is but most women with 2 kids would be loyal to whoever :cape: for them if daddy isn't around

dudes don't know the game.
go to her crib, don't try to fukk the first time, be a lil playful with the kids (since they not used to it cuz daddy not round), go home and she'll be in awe cuz u didn't do what the other dudes did (try to fukk and ignored her kids) and she gone think she found the perfect one.
 

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dudes don't know the game.
go to her crib, don't try to fukk the first time, be a lil playful with the kids (since they not used to it cuz daddy not round), go home and she'll be in awe cuz u didn't do what the other dudes did (try to fukk and ignored her kids) and she gone think she found the perfect one.

pretty much
 
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