Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

Thats the spirit man. Just be yourself.

The other day i was at a chick from high school's party and saw a chick standing alone. I spat to her gave her my number and said eff it if she calls she calls if she doesn't it's cool because I dont know her from a can of paint anyways.

Cant be bothered gathering numbers and chasing. I'm too old and distinguished for it so the onus is on them now. 2 days later she texted me saying "hey its ___ heres my number." Went to another party the next day and shorty from my HS was there (it was her cousins party). Turned out she spoke to the girl I gave my number after she asked about me. Homegirl girl gave me the no look assist and put in a good word because she's always known me to be a decent dude. If you truly believe you're a good catch just be honorable, be yourself and treat people well. That way you always have your self-respect and nobody can hate on you.

Now I know if and when I holla it wont be no bullshyt because if she wasnt even remotely interested she wouldn't have hit me up. I had to scoop a bystander who saw me giving my number to her about the same shyt.

If a girl is remotely interested theyll do the knowledge and meet you half way. If they dont its not worth it even bothering whether or not theyre interested because ends must justify the means.

real spit fam.

Yeah i wanted shorty, but at the same time, there are girls out there that are better than her that i have yet to meet. So the only part that stings is that i ain't gonna slide up in her. Other than that, i feel like i said what i wanted to say and she ain't dumb or naive enough to not see that i'm tryna make something happen..so i ain't analyzing shyt or giving her the benefit of doubt.

It starts now brehs.

 

[Ohene]

I cant lie though there's one chick from my school that I'm really feeling who appears to be feeling me too. I'm making sure to not catch what yall are calling oneitis for her though. I think i mentioned her before. Big basketball fan, real easy to talk to, chemistry student, seems introverted and nerdy, no social media presence. She seems like my type from what I've gathered thus far and it's funny/lucky that I even met her recently because I graduated last year and thought id never see her again. But on the flipside I dont know her like that so

It's reading week and she know where I'm at. If she doesnt hit me up for a coffee date like she said she would I aint hittin her up either. Tryna rebuild the roster in time for next season.

 

[DeuceZ]

if this thread was an existence when I was in college

 

[jadillac]

what do you suggest to do, moving forward?

if you care about her and THINK she feels the same way, then you could wait and see what happens. This way you don't make a hasty move or read teh situation wrong and mess something up that may not have been(as bad as) what you thought it was

But at the same time, don't play yourself either.

Or you could just sit down w/ her and totally get everything out in the open in plain English. None of this coded talk like, "we need to be making mistakes, etc"

Get you a chick who's not insecure. They exist.

You know what tho.

I kinda want a chick who's a little insecure. At least they're honest about it, it shows they haven't been ruined by this (simp) age we live in. A llittle insecurity keeps them humble.

Nothing worse than a supremely over-confident woman who constantly talks about how "bad" she is or is way too into herself. Mainly b/c most of that is fake/superficial and is based on temporal circumstances. Once their looks fade or they gain a little weight, or their money gets funny, they become headcases.

 

[kevm3]

Yep, you probably have a solid investment in her and you don't want to feel you 'ruined it' by making a hasty move, so you can sit and wait. Most likely, what you will find is something will start being 'different' that you can't quite put your finger on... meaning she's more and more busy, isn't as affectionate as she used to be, etc. You can try to make maneuvers to get it right, but how I feel is that you can't rationalize with women when it comes to issues like this, especially when you have them saying 'we need to make mistakes'. What do women in their 30s call the dudes that ran through them and never committed? That's right, 'oh he was a mistake. I made my mistakes when I was younger." In other words, in her mind, she is emotionally committed to 'finding herself', aka having fun with no repercussions. If you keep her around, you'll find that she MIGHT stick around, but you'll start noticing that things have changed as said earlier.

 

[kevm3]

Man, this is 100% true. They're supremely nice one day/one min, then will cut you off w/o reason. And usually because they have so many options online, they consider you expendable.

2 weeks ago my parents celebrated their 37th anniversary. The over whelming majority of women these days are simply not like our mothers.

That's what's so bothersome to me. It's hard to enjoy a woman's company or even want to expend any effort when you know that she may just up and leave in a week for NO reason and with NO warning. She'll just stop hitting you back. Then maybe when she's bored and the other options she was dealing with disappeared, she'll hit you up on some, "Hey, missed you stranger."

Like you'll have a great conversation, everything seems cool and you'd like to think that everything was smooth enough for another encounter, but she never hits you back up or just starts ignoring your texts and messages/calls.

That's why I always emphasize focusing on other things and not getting emotionally distraught, because these situations CAN and WILL come up, and you never know when. I found they usually come when things are smooth sailing and everything is looking lovely. It's like women simply cannot handle times of peace. If you're not fighting with her and giving her an emotional roller coaster, she gets bored. I simply refuse to add drama to my life just to keep some broad entertained, so I'm perfectly fine with them walking at any time. I feel it all comes down to setting expectations. When you know what to expect and you already realize most women already have one foot out of the door as soon as they come in, things stop bothering you so much.

 

[kevm3]

When a woman is into you, there is no such thing as 'make a change, we need to explore.' I'm sure you all know of a woman tethered to some loser who treats her like trash, but for some reason, she can never let go of him. The guys who usually get the make a change speech are the calm, laid-back ones who try to avoid drama and live a relatively trouble-free life. What ends up happening is the average woman gets bored, sees Sex and the City or some other brainwashing show like Housewives and feels like she needs that drama to get in her 'feelings'. Therefore, she wants to explore, but she also wants to leave the door open in case it doesn't work out as planned, so she can come back into her stable situation she threw to the side, hence giving her nice, stable guy a softball about how 'I just have some exploring to do. I need to find myself'. Has anyone ever genuinely met a woman who is talking that find herself jive and actually did something that was productive like read several volumes of philosophy or learn painting? And why does 'finding yourself' involve taking a break? You can't change and grow while still being in a relationship? 98% of the time when you hear that finding myself gahhhbage, she'll be with a new dude within a week.

 

[OGBobbyJohnson]

if this thread was an existence when I was in High School

Fixed

 

[OGBobbyJohnson]

It's Rough Out Here Brehs...

 

[MikelArteta]

if this thread was an existence when I was in college

 

[MikelArteta]

Man, this is 100% true. They're supremely nice one day/one min, then will cut you off w/o reason. And usually because they have so many options online, they consider you expendable.

2 weeks ago my parents celebrated their 37th anniversary. The over whelming majority of women these days are simply not like our mothers.

just think about your parents marriage, im sure there were fights and disagreements and your pops didnt back down, nowadays women are already on tinder networking

the overwhelming majority of women won't build with you like years past, won't demonstrate the loyalty or go through the thick and thin yes there are good women out there but fewer than ever.

with so many women its the same song and dance you talk to them, everything going well then they fall off the face off the earth or whatever, then a fwe weeks or a month later they message you like there hasnt been a long time.

I remember late last year not talking to a chick for 3 months and she picks up right where i sent the last message 3 months ago.

I was like she talking about until i checked my old whatsapp history

so 3 months went by with my message just sitting there till one day she trade and reconnected

 

[kevm3]

All of the I love you talk doesn't mean a doggone thing. It's just a fun thing to say 'in the moment' to a lot of women. The same woman telling you she loves you more than anything in the whole wide world could easily be talking to some options as soon as she leaves your presence. That same woman will up and disappear on some, "Oh, well school just made me busy," KNOWING she was chilling with some other dude.

That girl not hitting you back in 3 months but continuing off from the last message you sent just shows how little you meant. In other words, she felt so little for you that not one day in 3 months did she feel the urge to see how you were doing.or to follow up on you. I know when a woman really cares for you, you not hitting her up after 1 or 2 days will have her asking where you've been at.

What the majority of these women are doing is exploring a ton of options and telling each one just enough to leave the door open so they can potentially come back to the one they have on the backburner. The gameplan a lot of these women have is be a career woman and wild out, and then in her 30s, find some dude to marry, have kids and check out of work, aka 'be a housewife'. This simp won't even get to really enjoy 'having a wife' either. What will likely end up happening is the simp will end up doing the housekeeping as well as working and paying all the bills... she'll be chilling at home, probably hitting up dudes on tinder or some other app and then make plans to divorce him in 3 or 4 years and get that alimony and child support. Then she goes back to the 'mistakes', aka bad boys who knock her down and discard her. I really wish dudes would stop falling for this game. It's hard to break out of that gray zone where things are never really clear, but realistically, we are in the age of unprecedented communication. NO ONE is too busy to text and contact someone if they really want to. They simply don't want to. Are you telling me this girl didn't watch any television shows, couldn't grab her phone while she was on the toilet, or didn't have a single iota of free time? However, the average dude is so afraid of being alone and places such high value on a particular woman, that he's perfectly fine being a male sidepiece in which the woman can hit up and discard at any time.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Knowing "the game" and playing "the game" is so awkward. Its so different when the ball is in your hands and you have to go against everything as a "good" man that you've been taught because you know the person won't respond the same way.

It all comes down to finding someone that would do what you'd do for them for you. Anything less is unacceptable, and that's hard to for me. Because I damn near do anything for the people I really care about and then turn around and get mad when the same "love" isn't shown. I do alot for people I don't even know, but I dont expect them to show anything but common courtesy.


This isn't with just with women but friends too.

 

[MikelArteta]

Knowing "the game" and playing "the game" is so awkward. Is so different when the ball is in your hands and you have to go against everything as a "good" man that you've been taught because you know the person won't respond the same way.

It all comes down to finding someone that would do what you'd do for them for you. Anything less is unacceptable, and that's hard to for me. Because I damn near do anything for the people I really care about and then turn around and get mad when the same "love" isn't shown. I do alot for people I don't even know, but I dont expect them to show anything but common courtesy.


This isn't with just with women but friends too.

 

[MikelArteta]

The daily battle.

If I become this aloof, emotionally distant shape shifter. If I just lowered my standards and had no boundaries. If I just became that "problem", That negro who just thinks with his dikk and is selfish at the core I'd be the " man" SL to speak

"Do not grow weary in doing good"

Knowing "the game" and playing "the game" is so awkward. Is so different when the ball is in your hands and you have to go against everything as a "good" man that you've been taught because you know the person won't respond the same way.

It all comes down to finding someone that would do what you'd do for them for you. Anything less is unacceptable, and that's hard to for me. Because I damn near do anything for the people I really care about and then turn around and get mad when the same "love" isn't shown. I do alot for people I don't even know, but I dont expect them to show anything but common courtesy.


This isn't with just with women but friends too.