Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I'm having a conflict of conscious. For the first time ever, I had sex with a girl that I have no intention of dating & it's eating me up for some strange reason and I feel like I'm gonna become one of "those guys". I'm trying to justify it in my head by acknowledging the fact that I was upfront with the girl about it before and after but I feel conflicted 'cause she keeps talking about how much she wants to see me now.

Can someone please tell me that I'm just being a sucker and I should keep it moving, please?
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just because you had sex with her and have no intention of making it/taking it further doesn't mean you are a a$$hole or trash or whatever. YOu were upfront which is key you owe her noting. It's like a company hiring you on a month contract, your not guaranteed anything further beyond that commitment they made it clear :manny:

i always say one of the worst things people can do is not be upfront and waste someones time instead of being honest.
 
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Emperor_ReinScarf said:
just because you had sex with her and have no intention of making it/taking it further doesn't mean you are a a$$hole or trash or whatever. YOu were upfront which is key you owe her noting. It's like a company hiring you on a month contract, your not guaranteed anything further beyond that commitment they made it clear :manny:

i always say one of the worst things people can do is not be upfront and waste someones time instead of being honest.
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Yeah, you're right. I'm just afraid of turning into one of those guys that never has a girlfriend but is sexually active despite coming from an honest place.
 
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75% that's crazy,starter marriages are a trend.Now there are some good ones like Tia Mowry but coming into contact with them as you get older is rare
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chick reaches 27/28 gets scared biological clock ticks, first guy who offers security pops up
voila

5-6 years later .
 
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It never pays to waste your time and play foolish games - such as trying to get back what has already been defunct. Even God can't make people love Him, love is a choice and everyone has free will, if someone demonstrates they don't love you/care about you believe them.

The way I view life is that I don't want to persuade/sell myself to any individual to feel any sort of feelings towards me. I'm not going to attempt to influence how an individual feels towards/about me other than by being myself. I'd rather that inclination to develop from within them naturally, not because I constructed a marvellous resume that eulogized all my sensational characteristics, but because wholly this is what they want.
 
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EA said:
Yeah, you're right. I'm just afraid of turning into one of those guys that never has a girlfriend but is sexually active despite coming from an honest place.
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I don't have a real high body count compared to a lot of dudes I know. When I was in my teens I didn't know how to talk to girls, I wasn't in a great mindset, had a lot of shyt going on and so on. Most females I got with pretty much fell into my lap. Once I got my mind straight and started living how I wanted to live I was a lot more active but at the same time I became a lot more selective in the types of females I dealt with.

I have always been honest though. As long as you are honest, it's on them. Don't fall for the guilt trip shyt. Women will fukk and then be like "oh shyt, I don't want to look like a hoe" and so they try to date you because of that. It's not worth it. You know you don't want to date her so don't even bother traveling that path.
 
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saysumthinfunnymike said:
I don't have a real high body count compared to a lot of dudes I know. When I was in my teens I didn't know how to talk to girls, I wasn't in a great mindset, had a lot of shyt going on and so on. Most females I got with pretty much fell into my lap. Once I got my mind straight and started living how I wanted to live I was a lot more active but at the same time I became a lot more selective in the types of females I dealt with.

I have always been honest though. As long as you are honest, it's on them. Don't fall for the guilt trip shyt. Women will fukk and then be like "oh shyt, I don't want to look like a hoe" and so they try to date you because of that. It's not worth it. You know you don't want to date her so don't even bother traveling that path.
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life is to short to waste time.

I'd rather a woman tell me honestly that she doesnt want to be with me, or shes not interested than to string me along trying not to be mean or hurtful or whatever
 
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saysumthinfunnymike said:
I don't have a real high body count compared to a lot of dudes I know. When I was in my teens I didn't know how to talk to girls, I wasn't in a great mindset, had a lot of shyt going on and so on. Most females I got with pretty much fell into my lap. Once I got my mind straight and started living how I wanted to live I was a lot more active but at the same time I became a lot more selective in the types of females I dealt with.

I have always been honest though. As long as you are honest, it's on them. Don't fall for the guilt trip shyt. Women will fukk and then be like "oh shyt, I don't want to look like a hoe" and so they try to date you because of that. It's not worth it. You know you don't want to date her so don't even bother traveling that path.
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The girl said the exact same thing to me and in my head I was like "Oh shyt, here we go :snoop:". She's even saying how I'm gonna be the only guy that she "sees" even though we're not dating. So now I was thinking that I have to exit soon before it gets messy.

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What's wrong with thAt?
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I have a low body count and I've never had sex outside of a relationship before so I guess I'm just overthinking things. Also, all my friends that do the same thing are low key scumbags when it comes to how they treat and deal with girls and I just don't want do start acting like them. One of my saving graces is the kind of girls that I prefer to deal with but I know that can go out of the window of I'm become strictly casual.
 
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