Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

I agree with whoever said every man needs his heart broken by a woman. Imo, that's when you become a man because a devastating breakup is what tunes you in to your emotions. I used to hate a certain ex of mine but now I'm forever thankful. Our breakup changed me in almost every single way and for the better. I know exactly what I want out of a relationship and what I like/dislike in a female because of her. Breaking up with her forced me to enjoy being alone and now I don't need to be with anybody. I'd never tell her but she made me into the person I am today. My life would be totally different if I never met her.

thats the beauty of breakups man, at the moment your , , but as time goes on its truly a blessing in disguise. Once the fog is removed and you can loook back and see hte person for who they are faults and all you will realize you dodged a bullet. You'll realize what no to put up with, when to walk away, how to recover,you become stronger in so many ways not just dealing in relationships but as a man.

I used to have no confidence at all. I used to hate the way I talk, look, my height (5'7''), my hair, my complexion, my name...damn near everything until I started really thinking about things and paying attention to certain situations, like where/why/when/how women talk to me and treat me. I would stare at myself in the mirror, forcing myself to pick out things I liked about my face and shyt. Corny but it worked. I don't know why I never had confidence, I've never had issues getting girls. It was just hard for me to believe someone actually had feelings for me, I suppose.

everyone has insecurities, staring at yourself in the mirror will make you look at every little thing your nose, structure of your face etc., this is the wy you were made regardless of how you think you look others dont see you,the way you see yourself. Everyone has feelings of doubt its how you eradicate them or push them to the back of your mind what helps. I used to think I was ugly or no one would want me growing up, had no success with women then like a flood it overran. One woman can find yu hideous the next can find you the hottest man to ever walk the world. I'm 5'11 155 A xxl shirt looks on me, but a xxl shirt will fit someone else, get in where you fit in, just like with women one may think your , one might be the medium that fits.

I spend a lot of time alone. I have tons of friends but people are busy. If I'm not working or some shyt, I'm thinking about what I can do to improve myself. This has nothing to do with money or material things. It's more of a mental and soul development thing. I'm more worried about what happens after you die (intrigued would be the better word) than the next girl I'm going to fukk. A lot of people don't get that, though. So many dudes ask me, "BRO...HOW CAN YOU NOT NEED p*ssy BRO? I SWEAR MAN I NEED IT EVERYDAY BRO I NEED ME SOME p*ssy" - that is weak af to me. You shouldn't NEED anything from anyone other than their respect. My own damn cousin thinks I'm gay because I won't sit there with him and discuss sexual shyt or because I'm never trying to get laid. I've never understood why a bunch of nikkaz would want to sit around and talk about what they like having done to them and all that shyt. You really have nothing else better to talk about? C'mon bro...

life is what you make it, everyone has a different level of sex drive, or morals, or rules and standards. Some dudes cant function without a woman in thier life at all. Break up with suzy on monday, by friday they are in a relationship with nancy because they just can't be alone. It's when people try and shame you especially in this generation if your not some sexual vagina hound dog. In ife there will always always be women, if thats one ting ive learned throughout the years there will always be women especially now whne relationships are so transient, so why stress it. Enjoy your situation rebuild, recover, when your ready there will be a chick.

 

[MikelArteta]

The key is to work on yourself for you, not for anyone else. A woman or a relationship will not bring you happiness, and even if you trick your mind to thinking it will, when it ends you'll be at a darker place than beforehand.

Stop comparing your life to others, who cares if your boys are sleeping with every chick on the block while you jerking off at night, everyone again has their own life and their own standards, find yours. Comparison will never lead to fulfillment.

The mindset that develops if you want a woman so bad you'll settle for the first one regardless of her standards. It's like when your unemployed for awhile even if you have a masters degree you'll lower your pride if time goes on and accept that min wage dishwasher job because its a job, thast the danger zone in terms of dealing with women when you reac that point where you will accept anything even though your a man of value you'll accept some ratchet with two kids with a high body count because at least shes something.

What are your hobbies, your passions engage in those, volunteer, travel. The best women I ever met in my life is when I was satisfied with the life I was living and just came across them, what I mean I was out there doing what I love, living life and out paths just crossed.

 

[DAlbert]

Registered for this thread. I had a lot I wanted to say but it took like two weeks for my registration to be approved.

I'm 22 and I had to teach myself everything I know about women. My dad is cool but he pretty much only told me "don't put the p*ssy on a pedastal". He probably would have told me more but I like to keep my emotions and shyt to myself, so he most likely figured I didn't need any help and I didn't care about love and all that.

Getting to the point: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted legitimate advice. I read about 90 pages but most of the posts started to become the same stuff but worded differently. A lot of it is indeed situational but there's still tons of things a lot of dudes should read over.

This thread definitely changed my view on women and made light of what my dad told me. I didn't understand what he meant until I read this thread. Luckily, I was only a simp with two girls but now I know what to look out for.
A lot of this stuff I already knew, though...which is good to know that I had put myself on the right track all these years.

After soaking up all the information I gathered in this thread, I really don't even know what to do as far as women go. Like, I really couldn't care less if I were to stay single for the rest of my life and it's honestly liberating af to not care about shyt like that anymore. I still enjoy looking at women and shyt but that's about it.

I agree with whoever said every man needs his heart broken by a woman. Imo, that's when you become a man because a devastating breakup is what tunes you in to your emotions. I used to hate a certain ex of mine but now I'm forever thankful. Our breakup changed me in almost every single way and for the better. I know exactly what I want out of a relationship and what I like/dislike in a female because of her. Breaking up with her forced me to enjoy being alone and now I don't need to be with anybody. I'd never tell her but she made me into the person I am today. My life would be totally different if I never met her.

I used to have no confidence at all. I used to hate the way I talk, look, my height (5'7''), my hair, my complexion, my name...damn near everything until I started really thinking about things and paying attention to certain situations, like where/why/when/how women talk to me and treat me. I would stare at myself in the mirror, forcing myself to pick out things I liked about my face and shyt. Corny but it worked. I don't know why I never had confidence, I've never had issues getting girls. It was just hard for me to believe someone actually had feelings for me, I suppose.

I spend a lot of time alone. I have tons of friends but people are busy. If I'm not working or some shyt, I'm thinking about what I can do to improve myself. This has nothing to do with money or material things. It's more of a mental and soul development thing. I'm more worried about what happens after you die (intrigued would be the better word) than the next girl I'm going to fukk. A lot of people don't get that, though. So many dudes ask me, "BRO...HOW CAN YOU NOT NEED p*ssy BRO? I SWEAR MAN I NEED IT EVERYDAY BRO I NEED ME SOME p*ssy" - that is weak af to me. You shouldn't NEED anything from anyone other than their respect. My own damn cousin thinks I'm gay because I won't sit there with him and discuss sexual shyt or because I'm never trying to get laid. I've never understood why a bunch of nikkaz would want to sit around and talk about what they like having done to them and all that shyt. You really have nothing else better to talk about? C'mon bro...

There are so many things to have your mind stapled to other than p*ssy. Don't attach your self-worth to sex.

damn fam , this is literally me like word for word

 

[OGBobbyJohnson]

only do it to women that wronged u though. dont do it to women who did right by u but u ended things cause u weren't into them.

i did it once to one of my ex. i think i told the story a couple of years ago in this thread. it was epic.

What Happened Breh

It doesn' t matter what you decide to do in life, if your woman is not your biggest supporter or biggest fan, she shouldn't be your woman. It would be too easy for another woman who shows more interest than she does to get between yall, and that shouldn't happen. Your woman should be gone so that the woman that appreciates you can get your full and undivided attention.

This

....WTF is wrong with me?????

So today I'm shopping, and I see one of the chicks I was actually fairly attracted to (I used to work the store I was shopping in, I'm a vendor). I don't know why, but I have quite a strong attraction to her, though I've only briefly spoke her twice. I really wanted to try and start a convo, but all I could really get out was a half-assed "how are you" or some shyt like that. I felt so damn awkward....It's like everytime I try and start convo with someone I'm attracted to or whatever, shyt never works. I can't get it to flow naturally like others. I talk to any other person it's fine....It's like I get this BLOCK that gives me this "fukk it, it ain't gonna work anyway" feeling. I don't know how other people think, but I know that shyt ain't natural AT ALL....

I don't know how much longer I can take this by myself shyt. I guess it's true what they say about people being lonely for too long; it fukks with your mental well-being. It's sort of like I notice myself growing number and number...I just don't want to get pushed over the edge. I can go on and on about what lead up to these thoughts, but I'll just say this: Of all My 31 and a half years on this planet, I've been alone for about 30....and the year I wasn't wasn't even worth remembering....

Man...

 

[TheArchitect]

The key is to work on yourself for you, not for anyone else. A woman or a relationship will not bring you happiness, and even if you trick your mind to thinking it will, when it ends you'll be at a darker place than beforehand.

Stop comparing your life to others, who cares if your boys are sleeping with every chick on the block while you jerking off at night, everyone again has their own life and their own standards, find yours. Comparison will never lead to fulfillment.

The mindset that develops if you want a woman so bad you'll settle for the first one regardless of her standards. It's like when your unemployed for awhile even if you have a masters degree you'll lower your pride if time goes on and accept that min wage dishwasher job because its a job, thast the danger zone in terms of dealing with women when you reac that point where you will accept anything even though your a man of value you'll accept some ratchet with two kids with a high body count because at least shes something.

What are your hobbies, your passions engage in those, volunteer, travel. The best women I ever met in my life is when I was satisfied with the life I was living and just came across them, what I mean I was out there doing what I love, living life and out paths just crossed.

This is another of my issues. The only long "relationshyt" I was in was about a year, and I didn't even really like her like that. I suppose I just wanted to be with somebody for once. shyt was terrible. Sex was HORRIBLE, she was annoying, dumb, disrespectful, and just not worthwhile in any form. I've pretty much never been with anyone I was ever attracted to. IDK, I guess I'm just sick of disappointment after disappointment while everyone else gets to eat.....

 

[Bless't]

As a person who used to be in my own head, I can say being straight forward with a chick when you first meet her is the way to go. Most guys are too scared to do this. It took me awhile to get to that level, but I realized it saved being frustrated and TIME. You don't have to tell her straight out you want to fukk her (though this is possible), but you tell her you're not interested in just being friends with her off rip. More than 50% of the time, you will notice the chicks eyes start to light up as you have "shaken" her out of her auto guy response routine. Chicks will only do what we let them get away with. They're constantly testing us with shyt tests to see how we respond. Be the leader and state your intention from the jump.

thats the beauty of breakups man, at the moment your , , but as time goes on its truly a blessing in disguise. Once the fog is removed and you can loook back and see hte person for who they are faults and all you will realize you dodged a bullet. You'll realize what no to put up with, when to walk away, how to recover,you become stronger in so many ways not just dealing in relationships but as a man.




everyone has insecurities, staring at yourself in the mirror will make you look at every little thing your nose, structure of your face etc., this is the wy you were made regardless of how you think you look others dont see you,the way you see yourself. Everyone has feelings of doubt its how you eradicate them or push them to the back of your mind what helps. I used to think I was ugly or no one would want me growing up, had no success with women then like a flood it overran. One woman can find yu hideous the next can find you the hottest man to ever walk the world. I'm 5'11 155 A xxl shirt looks on me, but a xxl shirt will fit someone else, get in where you fit in, just like with women one may think your , one might be the medium that fits.



life is what you make it, everyone has a different level of sex drive, or morals, or rules and standards. Some dudes cant function without a woman in thier life at all. Break up with suzy on monday, by friday they are in a relationship with nancy because they just can't be alone. It's when people try and shame you especially in this generation if your not some sexual vagina hound dog. In ife there will always always be women, if thats one ting ive learned throughout the years there will always be women especially now whne relationships are so transient, so why stress it. Enjoy your situation rebuild, recover, when your ready there will be a chick.

But it can also help you develop as a person as well. Take what you did wrong in said relationship and work on those things to better yourself as friend/lover/companion.

 

[MikelArteta]

Not everyone gets to eat many people are starving and have never even received a kiss.


My last relationship I was with a dime, but she drained me and almost ruined me life in every capacity. What I mean is this, you can be unhappy and lonely in a relationship just as if your single .

Disappointment only has a spark when there is expectations.

Your expectations are I need a girl I'm attracted to, to want me and be with me if not I'm sad. And once that's not met in a timeframe you feel sad

Have to turn that around and say regardless this is my life and I'm going to enjoy it whether alone or with someone.

Look I've been there on the 1 yard line first down and couldn't punch it in,fumbling throwing ints being stopped on fourth and short. Settling for field goals. Sometimes you just have to settle it all down and be focus and see what's around you and punch it in

This is another of my issues. The only long "relationshyt" I was in was about a year, and I didn't even really like her like that. I suppose I just wanted to be with somebody for once. shyt was terrible. Sex was HORRIBLE, she was annoying, dumb, disrespectful, and just not worthwhile in any form. I've pretty much never been with anyone I was ever attracted to. IDK, I guess I'm just sick of disappointment after disappointment while everyone else gets to eat.....

 

[MikelArteta]

Even the worst relationships are the equivalent of some call center outbound job you had before. Or working at McDonalds or retail, you learn customer service experience and working with a bunch of people in a fast pace environment.

It's like rotting in jail you can sit and do nothing and do your time, or you can read books work out and come out a stronger wiser man.

In every situation you can learn, and either be positive or negative its up to you.

But it can also help you develop as a person as well. Take what you did wrong in said relationship and work on those things to better yourself as friend/lover/companion.

 

[fkthisgaysite]

thats the beauty of breakups man, at the moment your , , but as time goes on its truly a blessing in disguise. Once the fog is removed and you can loook back and see hte person for who they are faults and all you will realize you dodged a bullet. You'll realize what no to put up with, when to walk away, how to recover,you become stronger in so many ways not just dealing in relationships but as a man.

I fully agree with this. That relationship showed me how soft I was in general. Not only will I not chase or require someone else for happiness, I will never let another person have that much control (or any at all) over me again. I mean, I wasn't simping too hard as in buying her shyt and taking orders from her but I let her get away with some shyt because of my feelings. Gonna adopt that 1 chance rule of yours, it's a good one.

everyone has insecurities, staring at yourself in the mirror will make you look at every little thing your nose, structure of your face etc., this is the wy you were made regardless of how you think you look others dont see you,the way you see yourself. Everyone has feelings of doubt its how you eradicate them or push them to the back of your mind what helps. I used to think I was ugly or no one would want me growing up, had no success with women then like a flood it overran. One woman can find yu hideous the next can find you the hottest man to ever walk the world. I'm 5'11 155 A xxl shirt looks on me, but a xxl shirt will fit someone else, get in where you fit in, just like with women one may think your , one might be the medium that fits.

I learned to accept my insecurities (or flaws) instead of fighting them. Staring at myself helped a lot with that because I eventually began to like what I was looking at (). I never thought I was ugly, just nothing special. But like I said, I started to notice how much attention I get from females and the way I'm treated by the majority of them which led to my confidence. I suppose that's more of a blessing, though. Women really don't care too much about your looks if your personality is magnetic. shyt, I'm 5'7'' 122-24lbs and I do just fine. Lil nikka no body guard.

life is what you make it, everyone has a different level of sex drive, or morals, or rules and standards. Some dudes cant function without a woman in thier life at all. Break up with suzy on monday, by friday they are in a relationship with nancy because they just can't be alone. It's when people try and shame you especially in this generation if your not some sexual vagina hound dog. In ife there will always always be women, if thats one ting ive learned throughout the years there will always be women especially now whne relationships are so transient, so why stress it. Enjoy your situation rebuild, recover, when your ready there will be a chick.

I've noticed the dudes who are most adamant about "not needing a bytch and jus wanna fuqqqq" are the same ones who are constantly talking about chicks, talking to them, etc. The idea of a girlfriend is slowly starting to sound like more of a nuisance than anything else...
It's another person you're obligated to talk to and all that shyt. At least that's the way I'm personally starting to look at it. Why do that when you can stay single and go anywhere/do anything you want without having to consult someone or "make sure it's ok". Nah b...

 

[MikelArteta]

I fully agree with this. That relationship showed me how soft I was in general. Not only will I not chase or require someone else for happiness, I will never let another person have that much control (or any at all) over me again. I mean, I wasn't simping too hard as in buying her shyt and taking orders from her but I let her get away with some shyt because of my feelings. Gonna adopt that 1 chance rule of yours, it's a good one.

Yep looking back I was a simp, the signs were there I knew she wasnt good for me but I was a simp. Now im totally stronger, not afraid to walk away from anyone regardless of how they look or what they offer if necessary. I keep saying if a woman wants to be wit you, you will know and she will make herself known. YOu never have to fight to be in somoenes life and you never have to "impress" or sell yourself for a woman whose into you

I learned to accept my insecurities (or flaws) instead of fighting them. Staring at myself helped a lot with that because I eventually began to like what I was looking at (). I never thought I was ugly, just nothing special. But like I said, I started to notice how much attention I get from females and the way I'm treated by the majority of them which led to my confidence. I suppose that's more of a blessing, though. Women really don't care too much about your looks if your personality is magnetic. shyt, I'm 5'7'' 122-24lbs and I do just fine. Lil nikka no body guard.

we all have flaws, im 5'11 154lbs on a good day, skinny, bald, few grey specks, but ive never had a problem attracting beautiful women. The thing with women is that everone is different which is the good thing. its like i always say you can think a woman is a 10m she can think she is a 5 and think you are a 10, you can think a woman is a 1 she thinks shes a 10 and thinks your a 1.

Women do care about looks its just that many men underestimate their looks, a woman basis if shes attractive by how many guys hoot their horn at her etc., a man basis his on the type of woman he can attract.

I've noticed the dudes who are most adamant about "not needing a bytch and jus wanna fuqqqq" are the same ones who are constantly talking about chicks, talking to them, etc. The idea of a girlfriend is slowly starting to sound like more of a nuisance than anything else...
It's another person you're obligated to talk to and all that shyt. At least that's the way I'm personally starting to look at it. Why do that when you can stay single and go anywhere/do anything you want without having to consult someone or "make sure it's ok". Nah b...

I remember being in relationships and wanted to be single and vice versa, now i take the mindset just enjoy what I have for however it last, if im single till i die enjoy my life, i fi get in a relationship enjoy it till it ends, no need to stress

all i know ill never be in a relationship again where im stressed out, checking a facebook and instagram, wondering who this and that is NAH if it aint smooth and effortless im not interested

 

[T-K-G]

just from alot of personal experience in the past few years, if you got a strong enough personality and you don't take any shyt (crushing their bs mind games, calling em out on their bullshyt, pushing them to better themselves) alot of these women tighten up real quick and turn out to be good people

alot of their problems and flaws come from the fukkboys who came before you who didn't have backbone most of the time that or their parents filled their heads with some bullshyt fantasy, pull em back to reality and you won't have half the problems most dudes have

obviously it's common sense but some of you nikkas might wanna try being blunt and upfront with the women the same way you would ya homeboys, shyt been working for me to the point where even if we break up i still have girls tellin me how much an impact i had on their lives and all i do is just treat them like equal human beings



edit: get off the He-man woman hater shyt too yall nikkas aint perfect either, makes yall look like immature lil boys when yall do that

 

[IceDragon]

Well a few pages back i made a few post about my ex that popped back into my life and whether i should take her offer to hang out over the weekend. Well i chose not to and when she asked why i told her that maybe it's best that we not even try to rebuild what we had and keep it moving. I was expecting her to accept that but nope she starts asking me questions, leads to an argument and afterwards talking about she's sorry for leaving like she did and all of that. Told her it's okay i forgive you but that's it.

As you may have already guessed she's blowing my phone up now. Calling me the a$$hole and saying i'm unfair, i'm playing mind games, "why can't we" and other stuff I'm guessing i should just stop answering and let it cool down and she'll give up?

 

[MikelArteta]

Well a few pages back i made a few post about my ex that popped back into my life and whether i should take her offer to hang out over the weekend. Well i chose not to and when she asked why i told her that maybe it's best that we not even try to rebuild what we had and keep it moving. I was expecting her to accept that but nope she starts asking me questions, leads to an argument and afterwards talking about she's sorry for leaving like she did and all of that. Told her it's okay i forgive you but that's it.

As you may have already guessed she's blowing my phone up now. Calling me the a$$hole and saying i'm unfair, i'm playing mind games, "why can't we" and other stuff I'm guessing i should just stop answering and let it cool down and she'll give up?

women cant handle rejection for the most part. LIke I said I don't associate with exes or allow them to even contact me in any capacity. I did say go why not but im happy you didn't, know your value!! amazing how she tosses you to teh trash and discard you and you werent a priority and good enough back in the day now .

now the rejection ah it just turns on her emotions the opposite of hate and angry is love, you could prob say sure this friday and beat if you wanted to but why go back when you can go forward. She had her chance

More than likely she wont give up till you say something ive been there, posted texts here somewhere in this thread a chick i was messing with lied to me and i cut her off for like 8 months on and off she would message me over and over and over and over again even when I wouldn't reply,

 

[MikelArteta]

 

[Da King]