Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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My current girl is acting up, finding anything and every lil thing to argue about. She now denys me sex . Its gone down to once every 2 weeks from whenever I wanted to.

It's done, usually when it gets to this part. I wouldn't be shocked if she has her eye on someone else, or soeone is giving her the thngles and making her feel "alive" something she hasn't felt in a long while. So she withholds sex not to sexually bond, and argues about every little thing kind of hoping you dump her so she doesn't look like the bad person. Or to you to say or do something so she can be like SEE and feel no guilt breaking up with you

Its beginning of the end for this relationship, it was a fun 2 years. I wont lie i done a lot of tricking to get her but I since stopped last year. I think she getting bored and expects me to spoil her like before.

Yup writing is on the wall, I always say if a relationship goes past 3 years your in good company, its usually around the 2-3 year mark that women get this do I really want to spend more time on this nukka. Most men after awhile get comfortable and don't see it coming. But the signs are always there

However I been hunting nd got a potential but she disappears and pops back up every now & then. I think she got a man. She wants to come out to my place whenever Im ready. We havent done anything yet, but Im assuming when she comes through my spot something could happen.

I need advice brehs.

:kony:, gotta be calm brehs, before you hunt gotta sever the ties or be of a clear mind. Because then you'll just be doing what many women do and thats just tree branch so you never have to deal with the pain/withdrawal of losing the familiar. Even right now this new chick is already flaky and showing signs she has anther man as a priority over you.
 

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My current girl is acting up, finding anything and every lil thing to argue about. She now denys me sex . Its gone down to once every 2 weeks from whenever I wanted to.

Its beginning of the end for this relationship, it was a fun 2 years. I wont lie i done a lot of tricking to get her but I since stopped last year. I think she getting bored and expects me to spoil her like before.

However I been hunting nd got a potential but she disappears and pops back up every now & then. I think she got a man. She wants to come out to my place whenever Im ready. We havent done anything yet, but Im assuming when she comes through my spot something could happen.

I need advice brehs.
@Emperor_ReinScarf stories like this always remind me. happens too often
 

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@Emperor_ReinScarf stories like this always remind me. happens too often

been there man to many times, everything going well did nothing but chick gets "bored", or the routine doesn't excite her anymore and she gets cold or distant

if you text its one word answers. If you call you'll hear that ice cold voice on the phone and I gotta go shortly, shorty used to text you good morning and good night now days go by without anything. You bring it up shorty attacks you she been busy. Then boom, its over. You check her Facebook, Instagram or whatever and she's out with the girls clubbing, you check a month later she got a new man.

I've seen it happen way to many and times and it used to happen to me, now I smell it coming and get out before I can be discarded.
 

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been there man to many times, everything going well did nothing but chick gets "bored", or the routine doesn't excite her anymore and she gets cold or distant

if you text its one word answers. If you call you'll hear that ice cold voice on the phone and I gotta go shortly, shorty used to text you good morning and good night now days go by without anything. You bring it up shorty attacks you she been busy. Then boom, its over. You check her Facebook, Instagram or whatever and she's out with the girls clubbing, you check a month later she got a new man.

I've seen it happen way to many and times and it used to happen to me, now I smell it coming and get out before I can be discarded.
i'm just too cheap, laid back and introverted to keep most of these girls entertained without using the dikk game. When I feel like it I can but I dont have the time/energy/desire to be going out with girls to events/functions/activities that i honestly wont enjoy just for the sake of it; so that she doesnt complain or get bored. Thats really all the dating game is for males who arent rich/famous.

I don't want to go to Cineplex to watch a trash movie and a restaurant having to tip a suss waiter. I'd rather hit up primewire.org and hit up the jerk spot for some fried chicken, rice and peas (at more than half the price).

i dont feel like hitting up a basketball game with a chick...i'd much rather go with my homies who actually enjoy the sport an would revel the experience

I dont feel like going to an amusement park or zoo that I've already been to 4,5 times.

I dont feel like going to your friends birthday party/dinner or some shyt. I dont know her or care too much to know her. I'd much rather go for wings with the homies and catch up with them if thats the case.

I know it sounds boring but right now I'm just too focused on trying to get my life,career and money right for all the exciting shyt. I just cant be bothered man :yeshrug:. I'm becoming that dude kevm3 spoke of even...just getting tired of these girls not because of the p*ssy or other women but because the constant obligation is something I do NOT want to feel right now. We can kick it and all...but dont expect too much from a nikka smh
 
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My current girl is acting up, finding anything and every lil thing to argue about. She now denys me sex . Its gone down to once every 2 weeks from whenever I wanted to.

Its beginning of the end for this relationship, it was a fun 2 years. I wont lie i done a lot of tricking to get her but I since stopped last year. I think she getting bored and expects me to spoil her like before.

However I been hunting nd got a potential but she disappears and pops back up every now & then. I think she got a man. She wants to come out to my place whenever Im ready. We havent done anything yet, but Im assuming when she comes through my spot something could happen.

I need advice brehs.


Read what you posted.
 

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i'm just too cheap, laid back and introverted to keep most of these girls entertained without using the dikk game. When I feel like it I can but I dont have the time/energy/desire to be going out with girls to events/functions/activities that i honestly wont enjoy just for the sake of it; so that she doesnt complain or get bored. Thats really all the dating game is for males who arent rich/famous.

I don't want to go to Cineplex to watch a trash movie and a restaurant having to tip a suss waiter. I'd rather hit up primewire.org and hit up the jerk spot for some fried chicken, rice and peas (at more than half the price).

i dont feel like hitting up a basketball game with a chick...i'd much rather go with my homies who actually enjoy the sport an would revel the experience

I dont feel like going to an amusement park or zoo that I've already been to 4,5 times.

I dont feel like going to your friends birthday party/dinner or some shyt. I dont know her or care too much to know her. I'd much rather go for wings with the homies and catch up with them if thats the case.

I know it sounds boring but right now I'm just too focused on trying to get my life,career and money right for all the exciting shyt. I just cant be bothered man :yeshrug:. I'm becoming that dude kevm3 spoke of even...just getting tired of these girls not because of the p*ssy or other women but because the constant obligation is something I do NOT want to feel right now. We can kick it and all...but dont expect too much from a nikka smh


i'm the same man,I don't have it within me to text all day about stuff I don't care about, gossip about people, drive up and down meet up. Due to the same things go to eat, talk, travel etc., its the same with every chick. Literally they are replaceable. It's like going to any mcdonalds the fries and burgers taste the same,
 

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i'm the same man,I don't have it within me to text all day about stuff I don't care about, gossip about people, drive up and down meet up. Due to the same things go to eat, talk, travel etc., its the same with every chick. Literally they are replaceable. It's like going to any mcdonalds the fries and burgers taste the same,

I can do some of these things some of the time, but I see what some of my friends are getting pressed into and I'm :whoa: because I can't see myself there at all :scust: Homies that live 5-15 minutes away from me that I see once every couple months because she'll guilt him for his time

Like I said, I can do some of the things above some of the time, but I need some time to myself too (especially early on). Don't be surprised when you're getting one word answers while I'm working out. Nothing's wrong, I'm just working out. Don't be surprised if I'm out of town with my boys if I'm not responding quite as frequently. You know what I'm up to - it's why I don't make it too far with some of these women. I expect to change in future relationships but I see some friends becoming unrecognizable and that's too real for me.
 

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Every time I read thread i feel down.

We got one life to live part of it we spend growing up. The next we spend trying to find somebody to have kids with, while finding financial resources to protect the kids and women.

And all it take is for the lady to get mad and leave you for all that to be over with. (Kids gone)/(wife/gf gone)/(house gone)

After all that you in ya late 40s , can barley see ya kids every other weekend. Or your wife stay with you and just cheats behind ya back.

What the point?

Would you not rather ,try and chases your dreams, become what you feel make you wanted by masses. Live the life of somebody who the world feel is important....

Then once your 40 and tired of the party , the big shows, the different women you find somebody young late 20s-mid30s to get with have kids. While still having the money/power/fame to live it up whenever you want..


Just

Not like life one way or another but why not try you only got a few years on earth why live it in pain?


Just few word for my Dreamers if you out there. This is not for everybody tho:ufdup:
 

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i'm just too cheap, laid back and introverted to keep most of these girls entertained without using the dikk game. When I feel like it I can but I dont have the time/energy/desire to be going out with girls to events/functions/activities that i honestly wont enjoy just for the sake of it; so that she doesnt complain or get bored. Thats really all the dating game is for males who arent rich/famous.

I don't want to go to Cineplex to watch a trash movie and a restaurant having to tip a suss waiter. I'd rather hit up primewire.org and hit up the jerk spot for some fried chicken, rice and peas (at more than half the price).

i dont feel like hitting up a basketball game with a chick...i'd much rather go with my homies who actually enjoy the sport an would revel the experience

I dont feel like going to an amusement park or zoo that I've already been to 4,5 times.

I dont feel like going to your friends birthday party/dinner or some shyt. I dont know her or care too much to know her. I'd much rather go for wings with the homies and catch up with them if thats the case.

I know it sounds boring but right now I'm just too focused on trying to get my life,career and money right for all the exciting shyt. I just cant be bothered man :yeshrug:. I'm becoming that dude kevm3 spoke of even...just getting tired of these girls not because of the p*ssy or other women but because the constant obligation is something I do NOT want to feel right now. We can kick it and all...but dont expect too much from a nikka smh

Ultimately, I think most of us sit back and come to the conclusion, "How am I benefiting from this in any way?" Not in a selfish way, but more along the lines of, if I'm putting in all of this effort, I better at least get loyalty in return and someone who I can enjoy conversations and spending time with.

The mistake I find a lot of men, me included, have made is thinking we can earn our way into loyalty. If I impress this girl with enough dinner, with a great enough body, with this amazing conversation, I'll get loyalty and something amazing. Many times, it's a no-go.

I'd rather just be by myself or spend time with my boys hanging out than give myself a headache in order to think of things to entertain some woman who still probably won't give me loyalty. If I can't be myself around her, then I don't want her.

The disappearing act is the most difficult part about things. Everything seems cool for a long time and they just end up disappearing. I think as men, we WANT to find a woman that we can put an investment in.. that is actually worthy of you taking her to dinner and all of that.

Most women are just looking for 'experiences'. It's the rare one that wants to experience life WITH YOU, and guys that find those kind of women are very blessed.
 
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Ultimately, I think most of us sit back and come to the conclusion, "How am I benefiting from this in any way?" Not in a selfish way, but more along the lines of, if I'm putting in all of this effort, I better at least get loyalty in return and someone who I can enjoy conversations and spending time with.

The mistake I find a lot of men, me included, have made is thinking we can earn our way into loyalty. If I impress this girl with enough dinner, with a great enough body, with this amazing conversation, I'll get loyalty and something amazing. Many times, it's a no-go.

I'd rather just be by myself or spend time with my boys hanging out than give myself a headache in order to think of things to entertain some woman who still probably won't give me loyalty. If I can't be myself around her, then I don't want her.

The disappearing act is the most difficult part about things. Everything seems cool for a long time and they just end up disappearing. I think as men, we WANT to find a woman that we can put an investment in.. that is actually worthy of you taking her to dinner and all of that.

Most women are just looking for 'experiences'. It's the rare one that wants to experience life WITH YOU, and guys that find those kind of women are very blessed.
Exactly. And even when you find a girl you think is loyal and that you could spend a lifetime with... It's like what's to stop ge

her from disappearng like the rest do in 3, 5 , 10 years?

This is why I tell people I ain't even bent up on finding a long term wife or partner anymore and having kids. If it happens it happens I'm chilling man
 
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In my opinion as a man with his shyt together , in this day n age you aint meant to be dating a girl with the goal of the long term.

You let them bring up 'what are we' and you make your decision based on what your looking for in that next contract.

Cant be up in your feelings with these freelancers in your company.
 

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Exactly. And even when you find a girl you think is loyal and that you could spend a lifetime with... It's like what's to stop ge

her from disappearng like the rest do in 3, 5 , 10 years?

This is why I tell people I ain't even bent up on finding a long term wife or partner anymore. I'm chilling man


just remember who files for divorce 75% of the time, its not the male.

Even in relationships. Women end them far and wide more than males. I will always remember a girl telling me she loves me every day we were together and then one day just stopped and the next day its like I never ever existed.

I love women but I love myself more
 
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