Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

pretty much done with online dating its near impossible for me to get a response these days.
i know im gonna have to start going out to meet women but shyt is gonna be extra tough as i dont have the social life for it,what am i to do brehs?

Get out the house and explore the city

 

[MikelArteta]

Called my girl (won't even say ex lol) today about something regarding where her sisters boyfriend works and she didn't sound happy on the phone. I sensed it. Wondered what was the deal with that. Told her I would hit her up and maybe we could see each other tonight. Told her I loved her and she said it back.

women will tell you whatever you want to har, i know it calmed your fears and made you feel good. But she can love you but not be in love with you. But I hope it allw orks out in your favour

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't see why you would want a relationship with a woman if you don't even have a life. You would only end up suffocating her with your dependency. Either she leaves because you're always up under her or she bleeds you until you have nothing left, then leaves. Get yourself in order.

In my opinion key is just to live life, you'll never have it "together" in every facet so to speak to be ready. I've said it before you shouldn't want a relationship until you meet a woman that's worthy of you being in a relationship with.

It's like dudes going to the nba, yeah if they stayed 4 years they would be ready but screw that they leave early, what I mean is that "putting" off anything you want to do until you become so and so is risky because you never know what can happen. Yeah we may be in our 20s and early thirties here, but we can be snuffed out any day or situations can change.

 

[EQ.]

pretty much done with online dating its near impossible for me to get a response these days.
i know im gonna have to start going out to meet women but shyt is gonna be extra tough as i dont have the social life for it,what am i to do brehs?

Join a social sports club breh. Especially now in the summer, alot of people are playing sports etc fun way to link up with people and stay healthy.

 

[TeFLoNBoMBz]

I feel everything you brehs saying ... @kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf ....

But I gotta get my girl back. I won't be on no psycho shyt but i'm def doing what I can to get her back....but i'm prepared any day to get a bomb dropped on me and i'm bettering myself regardless just in case she moves on. I believe if something is worth fighting for you have to fight for it.

Sent her a good morning text this morning and told her I loved her...

I know i'm looking like a sucker but hey.....It is what it is.

I'll keep yall updated and I def welcome daily feedback. It helps me get through this.

I know how it is fam. I'm going through something myself..

Back in October me and my ex split over me losing my cool over a nikka that jugged me over craigslist. Things were getting bad before then but was the last straw. I left and she changed
the locks on the door the next day. I was sick and determined to get her back. I did the same things you did, texting her mushy shyt and telling her how I felt because I really did love her. She has a son (I've been in his life since he was 4) and my son really thought they were brothers. For 2 months I worked on changing the things about myself I knew I needed to change, I even went to see a therapist and took a class for anger management. I really wanted my family back so I did everything I had to do show her I was serious. During this time my mom was diagnosed with cancer and her health deteriorated fast. So I'm trying to get my ex back, taking care of my moms and kids..I got a promotion at my job that required me travel so I was in and out of town. We reconnect back in January..talking on the phone everyday, going out with the kids, spending time. She knew how I felt about her and I made it known but it never got back to the way it was. I couldn't shake the feeling that she was trying to friend zone me. I wasn't having that. I've done to much and fought to hard to save our relationship for her to basically accept a demotion in her life. I also couldn't afford to invest any more time and emotion in her because my mother needed me more than ever. I cut all communication with her in the beginning of June and haven't talked to her since. She text me asking about my mom but I didn't respond. I still love her, I think about her constantly but at the same time I want her to live her life and find happiness. My life got to real and I really needed to focus and handle my business as a man. I said all of that to say this: sometimes it can be your ego that don't want to take the L, especially if you were the one that fukked up. But that's a question you have ask yourself. I hope everything works out, either way you'll come out stronger.

 

[b_priest9mm]

Pretty sure I got played.

-Girl I work with.
-Never really talked with her before.
-Out of the blue starts with playful behavior towards me.
-I oblige because why not, see if it goes anywhere.
-I figure right about now is the time where I make my move.
-Before I can ompletely changes her tune after a week of talking/flirting.
-Suddenly I don't exist anymore.
-Catch wind of her crushing for real on another co-worker.
-It's as if we're strangers again. Haven't spoken in a few months.


This ALWAYS happens to me.

 

[MikelArteta]

Cancer sucks hope your mom beats it

But yeah man I've been there before, a woman may still have feelings for you, may say she loves you. Talks to you every day and all that but the romanyic emotions she has for you are gone.

And when that happens it doesn't matter what you do.you could be the last man on earth and she'd fall in love with a horse before you.

When its gone its gone, its like a guy in the NBA who was averaging 25 a game suddenly his skil is gone and he's a bench warmee impossible to get it back. He looks the same no homo but the skills are just gone.

I know how it is fam. I'm going through something myself..

Back in October me and my ex split over me losing my cool over a nikka that jugged me over craigslist. Things were getting bad before then but was the last straw. I left and she changed
the locks on the door the next day. I was sick and determined to get her back. I did the same things you did, texting her mushy shyt and telling her how I felt because I really did love her. She has a son (I've been in his life since he was 4) and my son really thought they were brothers. For 2 months I worked on changing the things about myself I knew I needed to change, I even went to see a therapist and took a class for anger management. I really wanted my family back so I did everything I had to do show her I was serious. During this time my mom was diagnosed with cancer and her health deteriorated fast. So I'm trying to get my ex back, taking care of my moms and kids..I got a promotion at my job that required me travel so I was in and out of town. We reconnect back in January..talking on the phone everyday, going out with the kids, spending time. She knew how I felt about her and I made it known but it never got back to the way it was. I couldn't shake the feeling that she was trying to friend zone me. I wasn't having that. I've done to much and fought to hard to save our relationship for her to basically accept a demotion in her life. I also couldn't afford to invest any more time and emotion in her because my mother needed me more than ever. I cut all communication with her in the beginning of June and haven't talked to her since. She text me asking about my mom but I didn't respond. I still love her, I think about her constantly but at the same time I want her to live her life and find happiness. My life got to real and I really needed to focus and handle my business as a man. I said all of that to say this: sometimes it can be your ego that don't want to take the L, especially if you were the one that fukked up. But that's a question you have ask yourself. I hope everything works out, either way you'll come out stronger.

 

[Quiet Magician]

Pretty sure I got played.

-Girl I work with.
-Never really talked with her before.
-Out of the blue starts with playful behavior towards me.
-I oblige because why not, see if it goes anywhere.
-I figure right about now is the time where I make my move.
-Before I can ompletely changes her tune after a week of talking/flirting.
-Suddenly I don't exist anymore.
-Catch wind of her crushing for real on another co-worker.
-It's as if we're strangers again. Haven't spoken in a few months.


This ALWAYS happens to me.

This is why you never in under any circumstance try to smash your coworkers. Doesn't matter how hot she is, shyt will always fukk you up.

 

[EQ.]

Pretty sure I got played.

-Girl I work with.
-Never really talked with her before.
-Out of the blue starts with playful behavior towards me.
-I oblige because why not, see if it goes anywhere.
-I figure right about now is the time where I make my move.
-Before I can ompletely changes her tune after a week of talking/flirting.
-Suddenly I don't exist anymore.
-Catch wind of her crushing for real on another co-worker.
-It's as if we're strangers again. Haven't spoken in a few months.


This ALWAYS happens to me.

Learn from this shyt breh, hopefully in the future these experiences will help you recognize what kind of games females play. Girls at work especially like the attention from male co-workers, it drives their confidence up and 9/10 will switch up soon as you try and approach. I suggest never "talk" to your female co-workers but if you must always inquire about any of their female friends.

 

[b_priest9mm]

Ah, I fell for the old bait and switch for attention. No question what this was about.

I duped myself back into being naive about women and gameplay. I forgot that women like the attention sometimes. It's on me to determine real interest or if I'm ego boost fodder. I think I'll play it safe and treat every girl as an attention whore until otherwise noted.

Won't happen again.

 

[b_priest9mm]

That begs the question though, how can you tell the real interest apart from the attention whores?

I don't need to tell you all how much wasting time on an attention whore is draining.

 

[Sovereign]

 

[Sovereign]

 

[EQ.]

That begs the question though, how can you tell the real interest apart from the attention whores?

I don't need to tell you all how much wasting time on an attention whore is draining.

Girl will flat out ask for your number or offer hers and or try and set something up (we should go workout together/we should watch a movie/ etc).

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Never get down on yourselves young brothers. Take control of the world around you and you will flourish. I just let my Kenyan shorty go not too long ago and I think I have something else brewing. A woman I've known since my teenage years. She's a lawyer now, working for the board of education. This woman is beautiful.

She reached out to me recently, after seeing a bunch of pictures I posted from Qatar. Been having some good conversation and we're linking up when I get back to NY. I'm not overthinking anything, I'm just being myself and letting things materialize on their own. Stay up.