Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Number been deleted playboy. I know the game. I'm just shocked that I got caught up so hard... SMH Just strengthened my resolve. I wanted to share this story because I think it'll help the brehs.



PS. I agree with everything you said. She's the hottest girl I've had in a while so I know I simped. Won't happen again... Never

happens to us all man, meet a dime and you click, next thing you know it your in the fog. And just because she's hot you give leeway, or because at the moment you don't have any other options you just accept. Accept the flake, accept the reschedule, accept the 8 hours later omgosh im just seeing this now text. When in reality she's looking at her phone every 5-10 minutes like most people do nowadays

 

[George Gooney]

happens to us all man, meet a dime and you click, next thing you know it your in the fog. And just because she's hot you give leeway, or because at the moment you don't have any other options you just accept. Accept the flake, accept the reschedule, accept the 8 hours later omgosh im just seeing this now text. When in reality she's looking at her phone every 5-10 minutes like most people do nowadays

That rationalizing ain't no joke breh. Made me give a shyt ton of leeway when I should've just tossed her in the bushes after the first late response. It's like I knew all the games she was playing all the scenarios behind the sensescenes and how things would turn out eventually. But still stuck my arm in the shark pool. I disrespected the game and look what happened. The gems in this thread are real brehs. This shyt is real life.

 

[kevm3]

Man I'd love to hear some positive stories about women, because every day I look around, I'm seeing more and more degenerate behavior.

 

[MikelArteta]

That rationalizing ain't no joke breh. Made me give a shyt ton of leeway when I should've just tossed her in the bushes after the first late response. It's like I knew all the games she was playing all the scenarios behind the sensescenes and how things would turn out eventually. But still stuck my arm in the shark pool. I disrespected the game and look what happened. The gems in this thread are real brehs. This shyt is real life.

yeah man its kind of crazy. It's why its important to pick up the signs asap. the earlier you see the flags and make the exit the better off you'll be in the end .

A few weeks ago I was talking to this chick, everything seemed to be going well then it just stopped, I realized it was dead, instead of trying to raise lazarus from the dead i just deleted her number, hell even at this point in my life. Even through text I can pick up the sins of disinterest. So I just said meh deleted and got on with life, yeah a day later I was thinking maybe I should dig for her number somewhere and send a text :heh;< but then I was like nah and like the next da didnt even care anymore, a few weeks later I don't even remember her name , the earlier you make the cut the better.

Many times we just fight and cant give up not because of how we feel just what we invested.

 

[MikelArteta]

Man I'd love to hear some positive stories about women, because every day I look around, I'm seeing more and more degenerate behavior.

Shoutout to my sister, coming upon 8 years of marriage. Married her husband when he had no money and was just working overnight making 11 a hour, stuck by him as he lost two jobs, he stuck by her when the dr said before they got married that she couldn't have kids. They have 3 healthy kids now and my brother in law makes 125k. all her bum ass friends at the time told her not to marry him, he didnt make enough, he was this he was that, those same bum ass friends are single mothers or single.

God bless my sister

 

[CityGuy]

I find myself falling into line more with @Emperor_ReinScarf line of thinking. Several women i'm interested in and have in my phone. I have no problem being the text book Alpha male. setting things up and making the first move. I just can't find the energy or logic in pandering to these women who are leaving their prime years and are looking for some simp to cape. It goes the same way, you have to keep consistent contact, engage them on their day etc
More interested in working out and picking up extra shifts then entertaining some harlot who's body count is over 30

 

[CASHAPP]

Man I'd love to hear some positive stories about women, because every day I look around, I'm seeing more and more degenerate behavior.

Nojma Reflects
March 4 ·


I don't COMPETE with a man; instead I am a COMPLIMENT and a COMPLEMENT.

I don't NAG, I NURTURE.

I don't REBEL....I SUBMIT.

I don't Castrate...I SUPPORT.

I don't EMASCULATE...I EMPOWER.

I don't CONDEMN...I COMFORT.

I don't use my mouth to BREAK HIM DOWN him, instead I am mindful of my tone, and what I say to him in order to BUILD HIM UP.

Because I made it a requirement for him to SECURE me...he knows that his future and legacy (children) is SECURE WITH Me.

Because I know it's HELL on those streets....I make sure there is HEAVEN in his Home...

In a world of TURMOIL...I am his PEACE.

While he is dodging the bullets being thrown at his back...he knows that I HAVE his back....

Instead of being in an ALLIANCE with our common enemy, I have pledged my ALLEGIANCE to HIM

I think we spoke about this young woman's page hundreds of pages ago but just wanted to give a positive post by her. You can tell alot of women who look at her page probably hate her because of how hard she criticizes alot of Black women for lack of accountability.

She also had a post about a week ago where she talked about how her father just died and she made an entire post basically eulogizing him and thanking him for raising her well.



Nojma Reflects
July 18 · Edited ·



Yesterday, I received a call letting me know my Father had passed. Even though he was battling cancer, it was still a shock because I just recently spoke to him and I texted him the day before he passed.

We just started communicating again, and we started the process of forgiveness and atonement.

I do take solace in the fact that he left knowing that the children and I are in good hands, that we are protected, loved and secure.

Before joining the military, my father was a local boxer and he was known as "Cool Hand Luke." Lol I think it was from a movie or something lol. He was also an excellent cook.

I want to stress that forgiveness and the atonement process are vital when it comes to repairing relationships, of any kind. It's not enough to apologize, you(we)have to be willing to put in the necessary work that's required to repair relationships. Always be willing to listen to BOTH sides of the story. As I've said before whoever is telling the story TO you, decides HOW the story is told to you. They decide who's the victim, the villain and who's the hero.

One of the most defining relationships in a young girl's life is the relationship she has with her Father. I know women that have deliberately tampered with that relationship, either out of selfishness, bitterness, vindictiveness or because they don't want to deal with their own demons. This is why the truth bothers so many women, it's like an exorcism, because we have become so hideous, our state of mind has become unappealing, the quick way that we play the victim has become so grotesque that we have morphed into unrecognizable beings that have become unattractive in the spiritual eyes of many because of our refusal to be held accountable.

Back to my Father, I'm glad that towards the end it took a positive direction and I will always be thankful for the seed of life. Because if it wasn't for his seed, I wouldn't be here.

Time and life are very precious. Choose HOW you spend your time wisely, and also choose who you spend your time WITH wisely.

 

[PinotNoir]

You're moving way too fast, ie our spot first kiss. That'll run a woman off so fast. You're way more into her than she is you at the moment, hence her late replies etc. Take it easy and don't rush. Personally I don't think you should get your hopes up with her because she seems flighty and disinterested.

Damn i didn't think i'd share this story. It's kinda long and pathetic by my standards but i need to vent, so here it goes.

Spoiler

two weeks ago on wednesday the 15th I was off from work. What I normally do when i'm is chill at coffee spots with my sketchbook. So i'm at starbucks chilling and I notice this tall sexy caramel girl with dyed honey brown hair wearing a black blazer and a black skirt with a white button up shirt. Very classy and elegant. so she's walking around the coffee shop looking for something and I go back to my sketch. She walks over to my table and asks can she sit next to me to charge her phone. I realize thats what she was looking for when she was walking around. I'm like "sure, i don't mind". so she sits across from me and plugs her phone in the outlet near the table. So i'm drawing and she's on the phone with her friend and by the convo i could tell she wasn't from NYC because she didn't know where anything was and was pronouncing street names wrong. So she hangs up with her friend and I make a remark like "you're not a new yorker are you?" She laughs and says nah and we start chopping it up. Turns out she's from Minnesota and was here for job interviews and just left one hence the attire. So we chop it up some more and I make a remark about talking later and showing her around so we exchange numbers. Now this chick is a certified dime but I still kept it mackin' and went back to my business and she left to meet up with that friend from the phone and tells me text her so she can save my number in her phone. I text her "hey this is (my name)" She texts me back an hour later like "You didn't send me your last name". So i get a little weirded out and don't respond but then caved in and told her anyway. I text her the next day asking her if she wanted to link up and grab a drink. She doesn't respond to my text until sunday at 12:48 am saying how she's just now seeing my text and thats she's sorry(Red flag). I say no prob and we reschedule. so we agree to meet up on wednesday the 22nd. I text her that day at 12 noon asking if we were still on. Again no response(another red flag). so i call her and she sounds like she just woke up and we agree to meet around 6 that day at the restaurant. I get the spot at 6 then she texts me asking if we could postpone to 7. Now i'm heated but compose myself and say sure and lied about needing more time too. So she finally gets here and she's looking baaaaadddd. I'm fresh to death too of course so we walk over to the restaurant. so we eat and talk and I mention a bar around the corner I wanna go to and she's with it. We're having a good time i'm making her laugh alot. we get a drink and two shots so we're feeling nice but not drunk. we're walking out the bar and i joke around like "here let me be a gentlemen" and I stick out my arm and she wraps hers in mine and we start walking down the street. Then she stops me an is like "this feels weird" and grabs my hand with our fingers intertwined and we continue walking. The area we were at(near east village) is where I went to high school so I ask her if she wanted to see where my i went to high school an she's with it so we walk over and it's a nice nyc night. I was getting good signs so I decide to go for the kiss. I tell her some stories about high school while we stood across the street from it and say "we have to remember this day. it's very important to us" she's like "what do you mean 'us'?" I say "because this is where we had our first kiss" I grab her up against the gate and we make out for a good five minutes. She's like "wait wait wait, is this a date? I didn't even expect this" I say something like "I don't date, I just do" and we continue making out. Then we walk over to the park and we sit at the bench and talk(a little) and make out(a lot). We take a picture together on my cell phone and I'm like "what if i out this on instagram?" she's like "then you'd mess up my flow" I say "you got a man?" she's like "not a boyfriend just a guy i talk to" blah blah blah so we make out some more then we head to the train station i wait for her train with her and she tells me she's leaving monday night and we agree to meet up that weekend before she heads out. Her train comes so then I kiss her goodbye and she gets on and heads to her friends house she's staying with. So two days later on friday I text her to see if we were still gonna meet up...NO RESPONSE! so I call her the next day and the phone rings out. she texts me the next day like OMG I feel so bad i got your call while i was out with friends so she couldn't pick up then her battery died bullshyt. So she asks me if I had time to meet up monday earlier in the day before her flight and we set up a time. I hit her up monday afternoon and it's silence. Haven't heard from her since. What the fukk happened to my caramel dime brehs???

 

[PinotNoir]

I have a question for the men on here! What can a woman do to show you that she's interested? Because I dated a guy a while back and he told me that he was tired of one sided relationships, even though I answered my phone whenever he called, drove hours just to see him and brought food, birthday gifts, we even took turns paying for meals when going out, he was generous and said I was a good woman etc but in the end I wasn't good enough because according to him I wasn't putting in effort. I'll admit I didn't call as much because he called me all the time and no I didn't think he was simping our communication was great. I thought I'd finally found a guy I connected with mentally, emotionally and physically but apparently I didn't check some boxes for him. The reason I bring this up is because I'm one of those women who might not put the time into calling often like I'll send a quick text here and there, but I'll make time to spend with the guy I'm seeing. But what is it do you guys want women to do when it comes to showing interested? Do you like her calling you bae, being touchy feely, initiating texts/phone calls, talking about the future? I'm just wondering because I'm lost, last couple of times I haven't gotten past the talking stage because the guy lose interest. Oh and I've been accused of playing games and it's not my intention, my one sister says guys tell you that to mindfivk you. I don't know now. It's something I'm doing wrong. Sorry I veered off track.

I'm sorry for what some of you have been through it's not easy out there.

 

[kevm3]

Nojma Reflects
March 4 ·


I don't COMPETE with a man; instead I am a COMPLIMENT and a COMPLEMENT.

I don't NAG, I NURTURE.

I don't REBEL....I SUBMIT.

I don't Castrate...I SUPPORT.

I don't EMASCULATE...I EMPOWER.

I don't CONDEMN...I COMFORT.

I don't use my mouth to BREAK HIM DOWN him, instead I am mindful of my tone, and what I say to him in order to BUILD HIM UP.

Because I made it a requirement for him to SECURE me...he knows that his future and legacy (children) is SECURE WITH Me.

Because I know it's HELL on those streets....I make sure there is HEAVEN in his Home...

In a world of TURMOIL...I am his PEACE.

While he is dodging the bullets being thrown at his back...he knows that I HAVE his back....

Instead of being in an ALLIANCE with our common enemy, I have pledged my ALLEGIANCE to HIM

I think we spoke about this young woman's page hundreds of pages ago but just wanted to give a positive post by her. You can tell alot of women who look at her page probably hate her because of how hard she criticizes alot of Black women for lack of accountability.

She also had a post about a week ago where she talked about how her father just died and she made an entire post basically eulogizing him and thanking him for raising her well.



Nojma Reflects
July 18 · Edited ·



Yesterday, I received a call letting me know my Father had passed. Even though he was battling cancer, it was still a shock because I just recently spoke to him and I texted him the day before he passed.

We just started communicating again, and we started the process of forgiveness and atonement.

I do take solace in the fact that he left knowing that the children and I are in good hands, that we are protected, loved and secure.

Before joining the military, my father was a local boxer and he was known as "Cool Hand Luke." Lol I think it was from a movie or something lol. He was also an excellent cook.

I want to stress that forgiveness and the atonement process are vital when it comes to repairing relationships, of any kind. It's not enough to apologize, you(we)have to be willing to put in the necessary work that's required to repair relationships. Always be willing to listen to BOTH sides of the story. As I've said before whoever is telling the story TO you, decides HOW the story is told to you. They decide who's the victim, the villain and who's the hero.

One of the most defining relationships in a young girl's life is the relationship she has with her Father. I know women that have deliberately tampered with that relationship, either out of selfishness, bitterness, vindictiveness or because they don't want to deal with their own demons. This is why the truth bothers so many women, it's like an exorcism, because we have become so hideous, our state of mind has become unappealing, the quick way that we play the victim has become so grotesque that we have morphed into unrecognizable beings that have become unattractive in the spiritual eyes of many because of our refusal to be held accountable.

Back to my Father, I'm glad that towards the end it took a positive direction and I will always be thankful for the seed of life. Because if it wasn't for his seed, I wouldn't be here.

Time and life are very precious. Choose HOW you spend your time wisely, and also choose who you spend your time WITH wisely.

Sad to say is that the people she is battling with most on her pages are other women. She has a throwback oldschool attitude, and women who complement and don't compete with their man are usually the ones who end up keeping a man around.

 

[EQ.]

I have a question for the men on here! What can a woman do to show you that she's interested? Because I dated a guy a while back and he told me that he was tired of one sided relationships, even though I answered my phone whenever he called, drove hours just to see him and brought food, birthday gifts, we even took turns paying for meals when going out, he was generous and said I was a good woman etc but in the end I wasn't good enough because according to him I wasn't putting in effort. I'll admit I didn't call as much because he called me all the time and no I didn't think he was simping our communication was great. I thought I'd finally found a guy I connected with mentally, emotionally and physically but apparently I didn't check some boxes for him. The reason I bring this up is because I'm one of those women who might not put the time into calling often like I'll send a quick text here and there, but I'll make time to spend with the guy I'm seeing. But what is it do you guys want women to do when it comes to showing interested? Do you like her calling you bae, being touchy feely, initiating texts/phone calls, talking about the future? I'm just wondering because I'm lost, last couple of times I haven't gotten past the talking stage because the guy lose interest. Oh and I've been accused of playing games and it's not my intention, my one sister says guys tell you that to mindfivk you. I don't know now. It's something I'm doing wrong. Sorry I veered off track.

I'm sorry for what some of you have been through it's not easy out there.

Everybody is different but general things like initiating convo, trying to setup a date etc are some solid signs, the most obvious one being " Hey *insert name of person* i think you're cool, would you want to grab a coffee/watch a flick sometime..." really doesn't need to be complex. Most dudes cannot discern all these subtle signs that women use (and alot of times women just play coy or flirt for the heck of it ) and a good number of women are prolly mad at dudes for not being able to read those clues

 

[PinotNoir]

Everybody is different but general things like initiating convo, trying to setup a date etc are some solid signs, the most obvious one being " Hey *insert name of person* i think you're cool, would you want to grab a coffee/watch a flick sometime..." really doesn't need to be complex. Most dudes cannot discern all these subtle signs that women use (and alot of times women just play coy or flirt for the heck of it ) and a good number of women are prolly mad at dudes for not being able to read those clues

Wow thank you. I've seriously haven't thought about these things. I'll try them next time, I'll admit I've usually let the guys set up all the dates and that. Initiating is very important. Thank you so much!

 

[kevm3]

I have a question for the men on here! What can a woman do to show you that she's interested? Because I dated a guy a while back and he told me that he was tired of one sided relationships, even though I answered my phone whenever he called, drove hours just to see him and brought food, birthday gifts, we even took turns paying for meals when going out, he was generous and said I was a good woman etc but in the end I wasn't good enough because according to him I wasn't putting in effort. I'll admit I didn't call as much because he called me all the time and no I didn't think he was simping our communication was great. I thought I'd finally found a guy I connected with mentally, emotionally and physically but apparently I didn't check some boxes for him. The reason I bring this up is because I'm one of those women who might not put the time into calling often like I'll send a quick text here and there, but I'll make time to spend with the guy I'm seeing. But what is it do you guys want women to do when it comes to showing interested? Do you like her calling you bae, being touchy feely, initiating texts/phone calls, talking about the future? I'm just wondering because I'm lost, last couple of times I haven't gotten past the talking stage because the guy lose interest. Oh and I've been accused of playing games and it's not my intention, my one sister says guys tell you that to mindfivk you. I don't know now. It's something I'm doing wrong. Sorry I veered off track.

I'm sorry for what some of you have been through it's not easy out there.

Initiating contact is huge. If you never hit someone up, they will think you're not interested. He was probably sitting back like man, why doesn't she ever hit me up?

 

[George Gooney]

Guess who just texted me brehs... I don't know the name because the number isn't saved. @Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3 sounds like someone I used to know from the context. They're saying something about wanting to be with me when they get back to nyc. Poor soul must have the wrong number. This looks like a MN area code.

 

[PinotNoir]

Initiating contact is huge. If you never hit someone up, they will think you're not interested. He was probably sitting back like man, why doesn't she ever hit me up?

You're right. Initiating is very huge. Now I know. I didn't do enough because of fear of being rejected or looking clingy. He did say it felt one sided although I was adored him so much. Thank you I'll initiate in next relationship.