Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I'e broken no contact a few times in the past and I never got what I wanted until I realized to stay no contact not to get someone back but for me to heal and get on with my life. Everytime you break no contact your telling yourself is im just going out swinging, im not going out without a fight, I know her man, i know what we have, you just don't understand. I'll just say a friendly hi, but deep down your hoping she misses you dearly and wants you back, deep down you have a ulterior motive.

More than likely when you break No contact this occurs

you call

a) as the phone is ringing you feel a little lump in your stomach. She answers and you hear that familiar voice that used to say I love you and call you pet names.

a(1) you hear the coldness in her voice and realize this isnt going anywhere

a(2) she seems so enthusiastic to hear from you, long time no talk, how are you what's new, you chat for awhile then she has to go but make sure to keep in touch. YOu start to decipher the convo ala the breadcrumbs but if you really think about it nothing has changed. I call this going no fap for like a month then ah it feels so good, then after you bust a nut your like :snoop: all that progress

you text
a) as you send the text your palms are sweaty, its finally gone through, you take a look at your phone for a reply, you keep looking, and looking. Maybe she's busy, did it go through? you send yourself a text and receive it instantly, you keep looking at your phone nothing. You broke all your progress for nothing


b) she replies right away and you text back and forth then it dies down


what i'm just saying is majority of everyone when they do no contact there is a ulterior motive to get my ex to miss me, to have them running back to me, and when they break no contact they break it because they think their ex will forget about them, they need their fix etc.

All your doing by breaking no contact is reattaching back to that emotional connection. Next you'll be checking her facebook, checking her instagram, and destroy all progress you have made.

of course every situation is different but more than likely you won't get what you want by breaking, you;ll just kick yourself for doing it.
 

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I'e broken no contact a few times in the past and I never got what I wanted until I realized to stay no contact not to get someone back but for me to heal and get on with my life. Everytime you break no contact your telling yourself is im just going out swinging, im not going out without a fight, I know her man, i know what we have, you just don't understand. I'll just say a friendly hi, but deep down your hoping she misses you dearly and wants you back, deep down you have a ulterior motive.

More than likely when you break No contact this occurs

you call

a) as the phone is ringing you feel a little lump in your stomach. She answers and you hear that familiar voice that used to say I love you and call you pet names.

a(1) you hear the coldness in her voice and realize this isnt going anywhere

a(2) she seems so enthusiastic to hear from you, long time no talk, how are you what's new, you chat for awhile then she has to go but make sure to keep in touch. YOu start to decipher the convo ala the breadcrumbs but if you really think about it nothing has changed. I call this going no fap for like a month then ah it feels so good, then after you bust a nut your like :snoop: all that progress

you text
a) as you send the text your palms are sweaty, its finally gone through, you take a look at your phone for a reply, you keep looking, and looking. Maybe she's busy, did it go through? you send yourself a text and receive it instantly, you keep looking at your phone nothing. You broke all your progress for nothing


b) she replies right away and you text back and forth then it dies down


what i'm just saying is majority of everyone when they do no contact there is a ulterior motive to get my ex to miss me, to have them running back to me, and when they break no contact they break it because they think their ex will forget about them, they need their fix etc.

All your doing by breaking no contact is reattaching back to that emotional connection. Next you'll be checking her facebook, checking her instagram, and destroy all progress you have made.

of course every situation is different but more than likely you won't get what you want by breaking, you;ll just kick yourself for doing it.


fukk man Smfh I fukking fold ...

Facetimed her. No answer. Then she texts me like "did you mean to ft me"

I go "yes"

She facetimes me right away. Soon as she a answered we both smile and kinda just stay silent for like 30 secs. I go "so how you been" she goes "good what about you"

Blah blah blah

She talks about how the last few times I saw her I was acting ignorant and I was just like nah you already know what it is.

Then I go "you miss me?"

She goes "a tiny bit" (fronting...I know she's fronting)

The whole time I didn't feel a cold vibe. We were genuinely both in good spirits. So then I tell her I love her and she says "I love you too" so me being thirsty I go "say it again" and she's like "no but when I say I love you I'm not just saying it" ....hmmmmm

So then she goes "hey I might come by to see Rayna for a few"

I'm like cool .. Then I go "well I wanna see you without kids in the equation"

She laughs and says "maybe"

So we say our goodbyes and hang up.

I text her with "I love you...I really do you got my heart"

She replies with "I love you too...I do"


I'm mad I folded but this actually seemed good she wasn't her usual cold self.

Ima hit her tonight and see what's up. I'll fill Yall in. I let the brehs down but ride with me on this one.
 

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fukk man Smfh I fukking fold ...

Facetimed her. No answer. Then she texts me like "did you mean to ft me"

I go "yes"

She facetimes me right away. Soon as she a answered we both smile and kinda just stay silent for like 30 secs. I go "so how you been" she goes "good what about you"

Blah blah blah

She talks about how the last few times I saw her I was acting ignorant and I was just like nah you already know what it is.

Then I go "you miss me?"

She goes "a tiny bit" (fronting...I know she's fronting)

The whole time I didn't feel a cold vibe. We were genuinely both in good spirits. So then I tell her I love her and she says "I love you too" so me being thirsty I go "say it again" and she's like "no but when I say I love you I'm not just saying it" ....hmmmmm

So then she goes "hey I might come by to see Rayna for a few"

I'm like cool .. Then I go "well I wanna see you without kids in the equation"

She laughs and says "maybe"

So we say our goodbyes and hang up.

I text her with "I love you...I really do you got my heart"

She replies with "I love you too...I do"


I'm mad I folded but this actually seemed good she wasn't her usual cold self.

Ima hit her tonight and see what's up. I'll fill Yall in. I let the brehs down but ride with me on this one.


and after all that your still in the exact same spot you were before, ala shes not with you, words mean nothing.

Women will tell yu whatever you want to hear to calm your fears, she can tell you that she loves you but where are the actions? you stroked her ego and gave her the modern currency of attention, she gets what she wants to see your daughter, to get her ego inflated to know she still has you in her back pocket and to continue to string you along.

What do you get out of it? A Maybe? reaffirmation of your fears that she still "loves" you and thats it.
 

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and after all that your still in the exact same spot you were before, ala shes not with you, words mean nothing.

Women will tell yu whatever you want to hear to calm your fears, she can tell you that she loves you but where are the actions? you stroked her ego and gave her the modern currency of attention, she gets what she wants to see your daughter, to get her ego inflated to know she still has you in her back pocket and to continue to string you along.

What do you get out of it? A Maybe? reaffirmation of your fears that she still "loves" you and thats it.

Lol I honestly wasn't expecting much.

I got my secret weapon coming tonight brehs. After that it's over. Wish me luck. I'll be back tonight with an update.
 

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I hear what you sayin but truth is you cant make every mistake out there and sometimes its better to learn from someone elses mistakes. Alot dudes in this thread are passing on what they've been thru in the hopes that other dudes can learn or atleast be aware of what can happen.
I said experience is key. Advice is great too. I said I talk to OGs that o known from years. I've seen them handle themselves in real life. The guys passing on stuff in here are suspect. Never seen the guys in real life. So I don't know them from a can of paint. You've heard the idiom "the blind leading the blind". Some of the guys taking the advice are:yeshrug:, yeah on Kanye status; wifin women known to be promiscuous anyway. Wonder why you have problems, stop going for the baddest chicks and evaluate them as whole before you get into some messed up relationship.

If you follow some of this stuff:francis:
 

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Experience has to come into play. You have to trust your instincts. I'm not saying advice is bad. What I said is the advice on this site is:yeshrug:. A lot of the guys on here are immature. Some are attracted to women that require lies and manipulation in order for the relationship to work. I talk to my uncles that are 40/50 plus years old. Not some guy on a computer screen. Even in real life guys will pass you some bullshyt. Yea you need algebra teachers and math tutors. But if you wanna master math you gotta buy the book and practices by yourself. Your gonna get problems wrong but it shows your weak spots so you can fix them. Experience is key.

I agree with experience 100%, but I'm not just gonna be out here with no theory or philosophy acting a fool, when this computer screen your talking about is the greatest invention in human history with the world at your fingertips.

Old heads come from another era, I'm not dismissing there advice but they wouldn't last two seconds today.

Which advice here specifically is bad? You ain't hurting no one's feelings calling them out.
 

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I have the reputation as the good looking playboy who will forever be single because I'm so "harsh" to females. I swear most of my homeboy's and cousin's girls hate me. At the get together we had the other night...the women diagnosed me as having commitment issues because of my standards and how I refuse to get married until I'm in my 30s. I'm the only single guy of the group. Out of respect for my boys...I let the females cook. Didn't want to hurt no feelings. :mjpls:

And they were not respecting your views? Or were they just busting your balls?
 

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Stayed over last night. We had a good time. Laughed and shyt. Joked about each other's little flings lol. No sex.

Then when I left I gave her the letter. shyt was like 15 pages front and back lmao smh


Said she loved me but I hurt her a lot during the 7 years we were together. Said she can't just fall back into that. Said she just wants to work on herself and she's been enjoying the time to herself.

Honestly I can respect all of that.
 
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