Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

What does it mean if you get the whole desperation vibe from a woman?

Ya'll ever felt that vibe from a chick?. Had someone I've known for about ten years hit me up after a year since we last talked. Well I wouldn't say we are great friends, closer to acquaintances but we've always been on good terms. Thing is her and me have never had sex before so I'm like because she wants to meet up bad and it's definitely ain't on some just friends shyt either.

She's pretty and has no kids either so I'm just wondering what's the play here? Red flag? Or just a booty call? Just curious what the experienced brehs think

why are you overthinking shyt? just meet up with her and play it cool.
come on fam.

 

[Ohene]

I'm in a no man's land breh...

Even had my homie girl check my profile and she said nothing was wrong with it though she could be lying

Even had my homie send some shyt to 3 chicks I matched up with,and I ain't get shyt back. These chicks be on some "Don't just say Hey" bullshyt, so I go different. Don't even put much effort into it..it has to be my pictures or something.

I honestly think I just give off friend vibes or some shyt...like last option available shyt. I need to fall back but at the sametime..i'm 25,in shape and getting more in shape by the day and I wanna fukk

It's like damn, I take advice what more do I need to do?

talk to girls in broad daylight, everyday public stuations

 

[Swing]

What does it mean if you get the whole desperation vibe from a woman?

Ya'll ever felt that vibe from a chick?. Had someone I've known for about ten years hit me up after a year since we last talked. Well I wouldn't say we are great friends, closer to acquaintances but we've always been on good terms. Thing is her and me have never had sex before so I'm like because she wants to meet up bad and it's definitely ain't on some just friends shyt either.

She's pretty and has no kids either so I'm just wondering what's the play here? Red flag? Or just a booty call? Just curious what the experienced brehs think

If ur gut tells u something isnt right then treat it as such. But go hang out, you'll be able to feel her out better.

How old is she? Maybe she broke up with her dude and shes feeling lonely?

 

[DarkHorse23]

If you're a man who is introverted/reserved , shy,or somewhat socially awkward at times, is there a way you can use your personality to your advantage. I know that if i'm around people that i don't feel comfortable around that how i'll carry myself, so how can a man make work that work for him?

 

[Swing]

If you're a man who is introverted/reserved , shy,or somewhat socially awkward at times, is there a way you can use your personality to your advantage. I know that if i'm around people that i don't feel comfortable around that how i'll carry myself, so how can a man make work that work for him?

Just do you bruh...make sure youre living the life you want to live. And some bish bout to find your introverted style mysterious and exciting, not like these other dudes.

But you better put her ass to sleep when she gives you the puss and keep the mystique afterwards.

 

[Turbulent]

What does it mean if you get the whole desperation vibe from a woman?

Ya'll ever felt that vibe from a chick?. Had someone I've known for about ten years hit me up after a year since we last talked. Well I wouldn't say we are great friends, closer to acquaintances but we've always been on good terms. Thing is her and me have never had sex before so I'm like because she wants to meet up bad and it's definitely ain't on some just friends shyt either.

She's pretty and has no kids either so I'm just wondering what's the play here? Red flag? Or just a booty call? Just curious what the experienced brehs think

how old is she?

also, if you're game is tight and you're in the right mindframe, 9 times out of 10 your gut will be right.

 

[NeilCartwright]

So i just got to an HBCU last fall, im a junior. Its very small, about 2500-3000 people.


Im plotting on 2 volleyball players (who are friends/teammates) and another girl who is in one of my major classes.

Im wondering how can i feel all three out when we all have random classes together, and write for the school newspaper. So we all see each other at the meetings on Wednesdays, along with me having class with two of the three girls. I just dont want this to get messy



Basically how can i get to know all three without one of them getting salty? The 2 volleyball girls are thick as hell but at this stage im just seeing who i vibe with...You know how that goes. If a woman is talking to you, and finds out you're also entertaining her friend(s) then it can get messy

 

[360dagod]

If you're a man who is introverted/reserved , shy,or somewhat socially awkward at times, is there a way you can use your personality to your advantage. I know that if i'm around people that i don't feel comfortable around that how i'll carry myself, so how can a man make work that work for him?

Women tend to give you "signals"..And the key is to catch them 1 on 1..

you'd be surprised at what a simple hug or convo will do...just about feeling out the situation

 

[EA]

Man, I haven't been here in long time. I'm glad to see y'all are still dropping gems and sharing knowledge with each other. Had I been still coming into this thread over that last 9 months, I probably wouldn't have the dark cloud swirling over my head that I do now.

 

[Droopy]

this whole thread could be summed up with this

need this in mp3 form

 

[Ohene]

Man, I haven't been here in long time. I'm glad to see y'all are still dropping gems and sharing knowledge with each other. Had I been still coming into this thread over that last 9 months, I probably wouldn't have the dark cloud swirling over my head that I do now.

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[EA]

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Apologies if this is a long read.

I messed up and started speaking to ex again about a year ago. One thing led to another and we started having sex again. I was getting caught up and messed around unprotected...then she decided that she doesn't want to take the pill.

(For context) She has a condition where her ovaries don't produce the amount of eggs that it's supposed to so her window to have children could potentially be smaller than the average woman. This is what caused us to break up in the first place because she was afraid that she wouldn't get the chance to have kids when we were older and I didn't wanna try for kid at the time (I was 20).

Because of this, she outright told me that she wasn't gonna take the pill since she wants to see if she can conceive and because "she loves me", if she can only have a limited amount of kids, she wants to make sure that they're mine.

Since she had just recently had her period and she's irregular, I had to wait damn near 6 weeks before her next period came (Thank God it did). Those 6 weeks were hell for me because I was balancing my new job and dealing with her taking me through a mental roller coaster. She was doing stuff like guilting me, saying I'm not supportive, just making me feel like a generally shytty person.

After she had the period, I fell back from dealing with her but since then, I'm subject to heavy phone conversations and having to listen to her cry on the phone and talk in a very borderline suicidal manner (this shyt eats me up because I'm genuinely concerned for her). It's draining.

So now, I'm trying to move on. I've got a new role within the company that I'm starting tomorrow and I'm trying to actually start dating again (haven't even spoken to another girl romantically for 4 years) but I've got this cloud of guilt swirling over me and I feel like I need to stay connected to my ex to a certain degree because I fear that if I cut her off properly, I'll get a phone call from her mum one day, saying that's she's killed herself.

I just dunno man

 

[Ohene]

Apologies if this is a long read.

I messed up and started speaking to ex again about a year ago. One thing led to another and we started having sex again. I was getting caught up and messed around unprotected...then she decided that she doesn't want to take the pill.

(For context) She has a condition where her ovaries don't produce the amount of eggs that it's supposed to so her window to have children could potentially be smaller than the average woman. This is what caused us to break up in the first place because she was afraid that she wouldn't get the chance to have kids when we were older and I didn't wanna try for kid at the time (I was 20).

Because of this, she outright told me that she wasn't gonna take the pill since she wants to see if she can conceive and because "she loves me", if she can only have a limited amount of kids, she wants to make sure that they're mine.

Since she had just recently had her period and she's irregular, I had to wait damn near 6 weeks before her next period came (Thank God it did). Those 6 weeks were hell for me because I was balancing my new job and dealing with her taking me through a mental roller coaster. She was doing stuff like guilting me, saying I'm not supportive, just making me feel like a generally shytty person.

After she had the period, I fell back from dealing with her but since then, I'm subject to heavy phone conversations and having to listen to her cry on the phone and talk in a very borderline suicidal manner (this shyt eats me up because I'm genuinely concerned for her). It's draining.

So now, I'm trying to move on. I've got a new role within the company that I'm starting tomorrow and I'm trying to actually start dating again (haven't even spoken to another girl romantically for 4 years) but I've got this cloud of guilt swirling over me and I feel like I need to stay connected to my ex to a certain degree because I fear that if I cut her off properly, I'll get a phone call from her mum one day, saying that's she's killed herself.

I just dunno man

time flies. seems like it wasnt even a year ago that you were starting your job...or is it a rotational program?
i actually was in a similar situation with a depressive girl that was on birth control yet somehow almost got pregnant once we stopped talking

I went from scaling back to full on refraining from talking to as well. That's a Long ass story though...we gotta count our blessings breh

 

[EA]

time flies. seems like it wasnt even a year ago that you were starting your job...or is it a rotational program?
i actually was in a similar situation with a depressive girl that was on birth control yet somehow almost got pregnant once we stopped talking

I went from scaling back to full on refraining from talking to as well. That's a Long ass story though...we gotta count our blessings breh

The last 12 months have been a blur. My initial job was an analyst role in the Global Markets department and I applied for a project management role in the IT Transformation department a couple months ago and got it this month. I've got a certification (No Coli breh) in project management so this is ideal for me.

I have no idea how to deal with an emotionally unstable girl like this. Once they latch on, the smallest thing from them literally fukks your whole weekend up. It's hard as hell to try and stay positive when you've got them bringing their depressive energy around you.

 

[Ohene]

The last 12 months have been a blur. My initial job was an analyst role in the Global Markets department and I applied for a project management role in the IT Transformation department a couple months ago and got it this month. I've got a certification (No Coli breh) in project management so this is ideal for me.

I have no idea how to deal with an emotionally unstable girl like this. Once they latch on, the smallest thing from them literally fukks your whole weekend up. It's hard as hell to try and stay positive when you've got them bringing their depressive energy around you.

Honestly... It's going to sound bad but you don't owe her anything and for that reason you just shouldn't care enough to feel obligated to tend to her emotionally. It's really that simple fam.

I'm like you, I'm nice... But you got to worry about yourself first. Truth is that no matter how much you're there for her she can flip and say "fukk you" at a moment's notice and forget all you've done for her.

I one offered to go to therapy sessions with that chick so she could resolve her issues from the past that led to get depression... Let us get into an argument though and it was nothing but disrespect/obscenities. Don't let these girls guilt you.