Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

I love how mature this thread has become. Real dudes chopping up game & swapping experiences.

I remember there used to be a lot of lame posts like "how do I get my co-worker to like me" etc

Since most of us here are early thirties & our dating pool shrinks by the day. How do you feel about dating single mothers?

I don't rock with them at all. Wouldn't even smash to be real but that's just me. I want to keep my life as simple as possible. They're a headache to me.

 

[Lord Bison]

I love how mature this thread has become. Real dudes chopping up game & swapping experiences.

I remember there used to be a lot of lame posts like "how do I get my co-worker to like me" etc

Since most of us here are early thirties & our dating pool shrinks by the day. How do you feel about dating single mothers?

As a breh with no kids, I can only speak for me. But I absolutely will not pursue a serious relationship with any women with kids at all. Causal dating and sport fvcking is cool, but I won't ever consider investing my time, money and my DNA in a woman who has already chosen wrong when it comes to reproduction. If I can help it, I want me and the mother of my child to both go through the growing pains of parenting together.

If I did have kids though, I guess the equals rule would apply. If I had one kid and she had one kid, maybe that could work. Two kids and she had two kids, etc.

 

[MikelArteta]

Wouldn't do it, relationships are hard already with just a woman, now add a kid, her ex, his family .

I'm a spontaneous person, and I don't need some kid that ain't mine ruining that.

Plus every single mom ive ever been semi close wothz baby daddy has gotten in them guts again. And honestly I don't blame them, every mom would want their child to to have the happy family . Just can't do it.

One minute Lavar is a a$$hole next minute like for Jimmy's sake were going to try and be a family.

And just imagine getting close to the kid and it doesn't work out ouch.

I had a good son and his mom was straight toxic had to cut her out its been like 3 years and some days I still miss the little squirt.

Since most of us here are early thirties & our dating pool shrinks by the day. How do you feel about dating single mothers?

 

[Poitier]

I love how mature this thread has become. Real dudes chopping up game & swapping experiences.

I remember there used to be a lot of lame posts like "how do I get my co-worker to like me" etc

Since most of us here are early thirties & our dating pool shrinks by the day. How do you feel about dating single mothers?

I only have one experience with a single mother. She was down to earth, attractive, would make me meals, and even come over and clean my crib.....but the whole time I had this feeling like she had a face on in an attempt to make me a step daddy that I just couldn't shake lol. Plus she brought up her baby daddy in convos one time too many. Like Bison said, I'd only do that if I had kids myself.

 

[Shadow King]

I've been on a two month cold streak since I broke up with my girl. But its always good to take L'z because you learn from em. So this what I've been learning.

-Fellas. Don't hit women up on social media if you not gonna get straight to the business about kicking it. Like if you don't got a car, your own crib, if you not prepared to hang out with her somewhere or anything of that sort. Don't even fukking try. Unless you see her daily at work or at school there is really no point of trying to hold a conversation with her because more times than none its not gonna work. She got a FB where she got 1000 friends, she got a snapchat where she snapping 10 people by the hour, and then she gets a match every time she swipes right on tinder. You really not going to keep her attention when 100 dudes and also females tryna smash her.

- A female who has 1000 people hitting her up can cut you off for no god damn reason. Meanwhile dudes will let anything slide just to smash. Don't put your morals and values aside for the hopes of smashing a chick. Have the same attitude of that chick who has 1000 people hitting her up.

-There is a chance you can outgrow the women in your town. Especially if its a average size population where everyone knows everybody. The only women in my town are women who are good looking but have kids by 22, grown ass women who stay on FB talking about "Free this person free that person" or still in drama talking about fighting someone ass like we in high school, fat bytches, and etc. My last relationships have been with females who go to my college. Sometimes its really not you breh the females in your location could just be dumb af.

I had more but Stephen King's IT on.

Do you think this is possible if you were never on the scene like that in the first place?

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Do you think this is possible if you were never on the scene like that in the first place?

Probably never was on in my town but I ain't worried about that. These women some flops.

 

[Shadow King]

Probably never was on in my town but I ain't worried about that. These women some flops.

but I asked cause I feel that way sometimes but I definitely wasn't running through any or experiencing any. But I think that level of mediocrity out of women will be dominant in any city you travel. Just as much immature hoes in LA as there are in Baltimore or Atlanta, or Boston, Houston etc; and to get the elevated echelon of women anywhere you have to be on that same level or better.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

but I asked cause I feel that way sometimes but I definitely wasn't running through any or experiencing any. But I think that level of mediocrity out of women will be dominant in any city you travel. Just as much immature hoes in LA as there are in Baltimore or Atlanta, or Boston, Houston etc; and to get the elevated echelon of women anywhere you have to be on that same level or better.

The difference between places like LA or Houston compared to my small hood ass town is the sample size. The women my age in my town has a specific preference and i may have fit that in my middle school and high school days but I'm completely different now and also the women are a specific group around here so A. the women either won't fukk with me or B. I won't fukk with them because they do pet peeve shyt of mine like post shyt like "Free so and so" like we are 14 years old on myspace or C. she in drama like she got a crazy hood baby daddy or she always fighting or people throwing rocks at her kid windows. Like nah I'm good I got porn.

So then when I succeed in other areas with women who are no where close to that type it just opens my eyes to the fact that its no different then someone hanging out with a group of people and not fitting in but going somewhere else and everyone loves you and you are having the time of your life. Location matters sometimes.

 

[Shadow King]

The difference between places like LA or Houston compared to my small hood ass town is the sample size. The women my age in my town has a specific preference and i may have fit that in my middle school and high school days but I'm completely different now and also the women are a specific group around here so A. the women either won't fukk with me or B. I won't fukk with them because they do pet peeve shyt of mine like post shyt like "Free so and so" like we are 14 years old on myspace or C. she in drama like she got a crazy hood baby daddy or she always fighting or people throwing rocks at her kid windows. Like nah I'm good I got porn.

So then when I succeed in other areas with women who are no where close to that type it just opens my eyes to the fact that its no different then someone hanging out with a group of people and not fitting in but going somewhere else and everyone loves you and you are having the time of your life. Location matters sometimes.

For big ass cities like that yeah you're right about sample size. And I know what you mean cause I'm in small ass, densely populated ass North Jersey and women here fit that description you're talking about. I'm about 24 so you can imagine that high school stuff is still fresh. I definitely wish I could travel more but I don't think a dude is gonna go from ain't shyt birches in his hometown to every woman he meets in his vacation town will be on point physically, mentally, situationally, and cooperative/treating him right. But I'm a true cynic when it comes to dating and know I have TONS of self-work to do so my opinion is a grain of salt or less especially since you said you've succeeded with women elsewhere who are more in line with what you look for.

 

[True Blue Moon]

she was 14 years older than me. no kids. so that made it very easy to date. but i had to break it off cause she started thinking marriage and all that stuff and i knew i just wasnt ready for that.

like ive said in other posts, if im dating a girl and i know i have no serious intentions for her, i like to dead things fast. usually within days of fuccking or weeks, at the most. in my exes case it was over a year we dated. it was difficult extricating myself from someone i vibed with so much. someone i know for a fact would never entertain the idea of being with another guy (Yeah i know , but in her case, id bet money she aint thinking of no one but me lol).

Lurking the thread these past few days, I gotta play devil's advocate on this one breh. First off, I agree with everything you say and that a dude should seek out that type of woman.

But I think the push back you're getting from other dudes in the thread about going through the phones is because they've felt a way about their girl as you did about this one. Meaning that even though they'll know to get some evidence if something smells fishy, in the meantime, if they're vibing and she's playing her part correctly, they're going to hold off on searching the phones, just as you probably held off on checking this chick's phone because she's acting like a winner.

While one might say these chicks are rare, this is how a feminine woman naturally acts when sharing energy with a man who is on his G. So since the point of this thread is to get dudes on their G, we gotta assume that the natural byproduct is to know your worth, attract women in abundance and take your pick of one who is acting right. So a dude who is doing what he's supposed to do who has a chick who acts accordingly probably won't feel that itch to go for the phones, unless there's something toxic in the water or he elevated an unworthy chick.

 

[TRUEST]

Lurking the thread these past few days, I gotta play devil's advocate on this one breh. First off, I agree with everything you say and that a dude should seek out that type of woman.

But I think the push back you're getting from other dudes in the thread about going through the phones is because they've felt a way about their girl as you did about this one. Meaning that even though they'll know to get some evidence if something smells fishy, in the meantime, if they're vibing and she's playing her part correctly, they're going to hold off on searching the phones, just as you probably held off on checking this chick's phone because she's acting like a winner.

While one might say these chicks are rare, this is how a feminine woman naturally acts when sharing energy with a man who is on his G. So since the point of this thread is to get dudes on their G, we gotta assume that the natural byproduct is to know your worth, attract women in abundance and take your pick of one who is acting right. So a dude who is doing what he's supposed to do who has a chick who acts accordingly probably won't feel that itch to go for the phones, unless there's something toxic in the water or he elevated an unworthy chick.

I can't really argue with what u just said. But at the same time, her situation was the precise situation Ive always preached about. Remember I've always said u have to ensure ur girl likes u way more than you like her. That way, even if she does cheat, I'd be over her very, very fast. Women don't like u to get over them.

Snooping through a girls phone has specific benefits;

1. It allows you to know days, weeks, months and years in advance if ur being played for a fool

2. It can be the difference between u catching a curable disease and a incurable one.

3. It saves you from wasting precious resources on a worthless woman.

I did check her phone sporadically. What matters is, had she cheated or been caught talking to another guy, she knew my volatile nature well enough to understand I would have dumped her. She knew in her heart that given my "take it or leave it" attitude she had very little room for error.

And the main reason I checked her phone was she had a very high sex drive. If she's on her period she gets just as much pleasure performing oral. She loves d1ck. So a chick like that, if I'm gonna be rawdogging her, it's imperative i find out what she's capable of and that is usually found thru background checks (.i.e. Checking her phone aka 'snooping').

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Lately I find myself willing to listen to R&B music less and less. The more I alter my views of the world around me and put more stock in myself, the more that stuff just seems like simp music. Don't get me wrong, the playlist will still bump when I have a shorty over but other than that, nah I'm good.

 

[International Playa]

Lately I find myself willing to listen to R&B music less and less.

word its important to guard what you put in your mind, especially that 80s R&B, shyt was too simpish/worshipping women. Its cool to listen to but in doses.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I'm kinda with @Poitier

I've kinda accepted that everyone cheats so I'm not snooping through some bytches phone trying to stress myself out on what she's doing when she's not around me. Everyone has their free will and there's nothing I can do to stop it.

 

[MikelArteta]

I can't really argue with what u just said. But at the same time, her situation was the precise situation Ive always preached about. Remember I've always said u have to ensure ur girl likes u way more than you like her. That way, even if she does cheat, I'd be over her very, very fast. Women don't like u to get over them.

Snooping through a girls phone has specific benefits;

1. It allows you to know days, weeks, months and years in advance if ur being played for a fool

2. It can be the difference between u catching a curable disease and a incurable one.

3. It saves you from wasting precious resources on a worthless woman.

I did check her phone sporadically. What matters is, had she cheated or been caught talking to another guy, she knew my volatile nature well enough to understand I would have dumped her. She knew in her heart that given my "take it or leave it" attitude she had very little room for error.

And the main reason I checked her phone was she had a very high sex drive. If she's on her period she gets just as much pleasure performing oral. She loves d1ck. So a chick like that, if I'm gonna be rawdogging her, it's imperative i find out what she's capable of and that is usually found thru background checks (.i.e. Checking her phone aka 'snooping').

scenario a
imagine you checked through your girls phone and you see her msgn a dude (im pregnant and its yours), you find out and end the relationship

scenario b
your girl is pregnant you guys get married, 5 years down the road you decide to do a dna on little jr to see what hereditary diseases he might fall prey to in the future

the results shock you when you find out jr isn't yours

what scenario would you guys rather be in?