Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Matched a chick, get her number, she flakes … . I make one last attempt before moving on. Set up a meet…. got her IG and I see she got a kid

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The audacity. Chicks with kids never fill out the kid part on aops they always leave it blank :aicmon: They know why they doin. They like how nggas treat them when they don’t know. And she right. I was all chasin this broad now I’m like man whatever:unimpressed:
 

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Wanted to ask you Brehs too, how much is your budget per month for dating these women?

Just got out of a 18 month relationship, I want some draws but not tryna break the bank to do it
Tell them what you want upfront and save the $

What happened with the relationship?
 

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when i first got back onto the scene it was probably like $150-200 a week

i've been winding it down now though. got those bullshyt dinner /drinks/contrived activity type of dates outta the way

now its just movies, walks/hikes, ice cream, and coming over to the crib for the most part unless its a new chick
Would you say you still go on the same amount of dates after winding down?

I’ve never been a fan of spending much money on dates.
 

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Context matters. I could say 40 dollars a month, or 800, it depends on how you want to run your "sales funnel".

What's your age bracket - College Young Gun, Young Professional, Manager, Senior Exec? Cause if you young, you can be cheap. If you're old, they're expecting to be shown a good time.

How old are the chicks? The older they are, the more they want you to shell out. Is it worth it? The young ones smell better, the old ones know more tricks (c) Lil Tyty Lannister.

In general, I do well enough money wise that I'm not pocket watching, but let that chick's eyes linger on something that says market price, or she asks for the wine list...

How are you meeting these chicks?
  • In person - the opportunity cost of going out. Assuming that you're trying to smang after the bar/club. That's the cheapest way to do this, and the best way imo. If you're just getting #';s....->
  • Online - the time you spend finding chicks, matching chicks, chatting chicks, and getting them out, and then paying for whatever date you want. Some younger chicks will be cool with low cost stuff, but the closer the chick is to (her) marrying age, the higher the expectations are.
How often are you trying to go out with new chicks? If you're just hollering at broads at the bars and clubs, 4 drinks * 4 nights...

If you get a roster, how often are you going out with them? Even if it's just Netflix and Uber Eats, that adds up if you see them regularly, and increases the chance of feelings be caught (on your side or her side)

In general, I actually find hitting up new chicks to be cheaper (time and money wise) than "old" faithfuls. But the general trend is cats are lazy, and they want to keep hitting up the same broads....
What’s old? Lol

So spend more money for older women? It sounds horrible getting older then.

Idk what it is, but I’ve never been the type to spend money like that. I just don’t like spending money on women.

No red pill shyt, but I’ve always been like that without any reason, while others seem like to enjoy spending money on women and taking them out on fancy dates.
 

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Would you say you still go on the same amount of dates after winding down?

I’ve never been a fan of spending much money on dates.
nah. i kinda tell girls early on that im not the type to go out on dates and say that if they really wanna get to know me they gonna have to just come over and kick it rather than doing all that contrived shyt - especially in the winter

i try to set the tone early to prevent disillusionment. the first two or three dates are just courtesy so they can get a sense of whether or not theyre comfortable around me.

that being said, if the girl is the type to pay for dates at times and plan shyt then I am more open to it.
 

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What’s old? Lol

So spend more money for older women? It sounds horrible getting older then.

Idk what it is, but I’ve never been the type to spend money like that. I just don’t like spending money on women.

No red pill shyt, but I’ve always been like that without any reason, while others seem like to enjoy spending money on women and taking them out on fancy dates.
Older women require less money to be spent unless theyre broke/jaded.

Theyve already been to most restaurants, done most activities etc. As a result they are fine with some good company a lot of the time. Its the young women who are very attractive and want to see what the world has to offer that have the most expectations
 

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Older women require less money to be spent unless theyre broke/jaded.

Theyve already been to most restaurants, done most activities etc. As a result they are fine with some good company a lot of the time. Its the young women who are very attractive and want to see what the world has to offer that have the most expectations
What counts as older and younger to you
 

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This dude coach Greg on YouTube super miserable ..I get it that you hate marriage

But damn every video he’s shytting on relationships

Just cause he got fleeced :mjlol:
I think he just knows his lane and doesnt deviate from it because it pays the bills and got him right..

He is the proverbial "defensive coordinator" of that mens space so he just super consistent with his message.. You hear it once you really dont need to watch again because it just get repetitive but new people find his channel everyday and its new to them..
 

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Idk what it is, but I’ve never been the type to spend money like that. I just don’t like spending money on women.

This is a 3rd rail topic, probably bigger than To PAWG or Not to PAWG.

I'd say 80% of Black Dudes are on some "bytch can't get a dolla out of me".
And 80% of Black Females are on some "Bills, Bills, Bills"/"Broke ninjas don't deserve no 🐱"

The topic got so many factors, history, implications, that I just don't even deal with it anymore.

There's an explicit and implicit "paying for the P" mentality that both sides have - and given Black people's dire economic straits - both think that they're trying to get over on the other....

And somehow neither side sees this as problematic...
 

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I don't post in here much but I was just laughing. A chick I used to fukk with maybe 3-4 years ago now, out of nowhere randomly sends me a pic of her, azz stickin out and is like... this is still yours. shyt caught me off guard. i don't like to circle back around usually but it got me thinkin :ehh:
no take backs
 

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I don't post in here much but I was just laughing. A chick I used to fukk with maybe 3-4 years ago now, out of nowhere randomly sends me a pic of her, azz stickin out and is like... this is still yours. shyt caught me off guard. i don't like to circle back around usually but it got me thinkin :ehh:
Dew it
 

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Older women require less money to be spent unless theyre broke/jaded.

Theyve already been to most restaurants, done most activities etc. As a result they are fine with some good company a lot of the time. Its the young women who are very attractive and want to see what the world has to offer that have the most expectations

I actually think young joints require less money. They just need a “vibe”

Older are cheaper because they’ve marked themselves down to 75% off.
 
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