Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[africngiant]

You gotta figure out how to like yourself

i do physically but i just think that im autistic or something idk or just too sheltered. my life is just boring. but things could always be worse

 

[DJSmooth]

thinking about hitting a boxing gym for lessons before my 24th. my friend who’s still in college just let me know he joined and was trying to convince me. i want to go soon, but not knowing what to expect is making me reluctant atm.

im currently still with my parents saving. i make my own money, have a paid off car, but no hobbies besides the gym. just on autopilot. i have an alex pereira build (pause).

i guess im living fine financially atm but i just feel like shyt and uneasy every time i have to interact about life and interests and then trying to be funny and relatable and shyt. women look but i just don’t bother to do anything because i know where it’s gonna go (nowhere). i don’t get happiness socializing or expect any good outcome from it from my many failed interactions and bad events imprinted in my life.

most of my convos are 95% of the other person talking all happy and witty about a wide range of things.

then im reminded of how boring and unsettled i am. i think “they’re so smart and experienced in life and here i am living but have nothing to talk about”.

usually leave disappointed that i can’t match the energy or eventually embarrass myself

My brother ain't nothing wrong with you, you just lack purpose. I don't care if you want to be the first black man on Mars. You need to wake up everyday striving for something.

Read this book it's like 10 dollars.

My other favorite book recently

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

You gotta figure out how to like yourself

Sadly nobody can help him with that

Maybe needs to spend couple hours at the hospital and see other struggle

 

[rabbid]

i'm at a point where i feel like a herb approaching women on that numbers game shyt

call it egotistical, but why give women who aint even on your level lookswise, financially, intellectually etc a chance to reject you, just in hopes of smashing? it doesnt make any sense. futhermore, while one might be perfectly fine and desensitized to rejection, over time that shyt can kill your spirit if its at a high volume even if you are still getting a decent amount of success.

its time to be a lot more selective

On the other hand, this is precisely why i feel no pressure approaching or sadness if i get rejected. At the end of the day, 99.99% of the time that girl turning you down would never have the courage to approach a guy she likes nor have enough interesting things to offer or say to him besides the p*ssy. So really, you've won the moment you said hello.

Getting her number aint shyt, fukking aint shyt after a certain point. So its like, the odds of her having something going on after you've smashed that keeps you around is very low regardless. Meanwhile, you're out here approaching and adding variety to every day. If you could put all her previous lovers in a lineup the shyt would look like the Usual Suspects. We literally not worried about these heauxs over here.

 

[DTXwavey_02]

Are you not black?

Yeah I am lol, I just like being specific my bad.

 

[Ohene]

congrats breh that’s amazing. is this financial services? personally i don’t have a personality and im sheltered.

i get a lot of stares since i got bigger 3 years ago (im 23, almost 24) but im one of those gym nikkas who that is the only thing i can talk about.

i have nothing to show for all these years. i don’t have a range of things to talk about or do in any given moment. i don’t have a large network. i meet people then they get creeped out that im so boring. while i still try to be nice it takes a toll on me. especially when i fukk up social interactions you start to see the changing faces. my personality is what it is.

i think my energy is just bad for what i look like on the outside. i don’t think im smart enough to make that much money though. not a good socializer and not smart enough. people say i am but i don’t know half the shyt people talk about on a given day about different topics

if you want the aformentioned things - more money, wom(e)n, etc. then you can get it
you just have to work on these skills tbh

i literally do not like people at all, so not being a good socializer is no excuse. these are skills i had to consciously build /improve in business school and out in the field. it has to come from within though. if you dont have the desire then itll never happen. nothing we tell you will work. it will take an internal epiphany

 

[Ohene]

You gotta figure out how to like yourself

real talk

 

[Ohene]

thinking about hitting a boxing gym for lessons before my 24th. my friend who’s still in college just let me know he joined and was trying to convince me. i want to go soon, but not knowing what to expect is making me reluctant atm.

im currently still with my parents saving. i make my own money, have a paid off car, but no hobbies besides the gym. just on autopilot. i have an alex pereira build (pause).

i guess im living fine financially atm but i just feel like shyt and uneasy every time i have to interact about life and interests and then trying to be funny and relatable and shyt. women look but i just don’t bother to do anything because i know where it’s gonna go (nowhere). i don’t get happiness socializing or expect any good outcome from it from my many failed interactions and bad events imprinted in my life.

most of my convos are 95% of the other person talking all happy and witty about a wide range of things.

then im reminded of how boring and unsettled i am. i think “they’re so smart and experienced in life and here i am living but have nothing to talk about”.

usually leave disappointed that i can’t match the energy or eventually embarrass myself

come on @ the bolded. average person is an idiot, boring, inexperienced and lacks substance. stop propping people up and downplaying yourself.
focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. What @The ADD says is right. You need to love yourself before you think about women at all. thats step one

 

[africngiant]

if you want the aformentioned things - more money, wom(e)n, etc. then you can get it
you just have to work on these skills tbh

i literally do not like people at all, so not being a good socializer is no excuse. these are skills i had to consciously build /improve in business school and out in the field. it has to come from within though. if you dont have the desire then itll never happen. nothing we tell you will work. it will take an internal epiphany

what type of things do/did you do? did your parents only speak twi in the house? was there always a social network of people present that you could mirror from?

 

[Ohene]

what type of things do/did you do? did your parents only speak twi in the house? was there always a social network of people present that you could mirror from?

i cant speak twi unfortunately. this guyanese-ghanaian chick from Philly showed me an app called pimsleur so i may use it to start learning a bit. her and I gonna do it together lol.

in terms of financial acumen, i used to spend a lot of my summer practicing financial modelling, building pitch decks/CIMs for M&A and equity research. i read this book called wiley investment banking and it came with a disk that had some excel templates. i used to look through the formulas in those templates to understand what was going on.

in terms of women and networking i used to work on campus serving ppl food. i started off talking to the students i was serving food on some small talk shyt. then i graduated to applying those same tactics while approaching women. met my first real girlfriend that way on the bus when i was doing a Toronto internship. sometimes my nikka and i would even go to the mall, walk around and talk to attractive women. it didnt work too much early on but it desensitized me to rejection somewhat.

in terms of my career i have simply always been ambitious and intelligent. if youre an accountant you have to be decent at math. if youre decent at math you are probably smarter than 75% of ppl out there.

i am an introverted person who doesnt like people...so the social stuff wasnt the easiest. however, i knew if i wanted a good job and to fukk some women that id have to tap into it.. once you start doing it and getting some success you will start to enjoy it.

rejection will come though so prepare for it . you may literally have to talk to 20 women, to get 8 numbers and then find 1 or 2 women are actually like you. since youre starting out it may even be 30 women. Keep at it and take mental notes of what works, what doesnt, what girls tend to be receptive, what cues are worth picking up on, etc. over time you will improve. trust me

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

lol nobody does. Female friends outside of some childhood she damn near your cousin shyt is a waste of time. "Associates" are cool but usually those from from working with someone (school/volunteer, work, religious institutions).

Female friends are great for fukking but terrible for anything serious

 

[Ahadi]

If you don’t know, it’s a no.

 

[International Playa]

@africngiant What type of women are you in to? Black, asian, white, mixed, Indian, african etc?

No matter how weird, quiet or nerdy you are, you can find a woman to match your personality. You got many nerdy, square, quiet women & interested in gym too. You just have to find a woman that matches your lifestyle or has similar interests to you.

This game is easy when you follow the rules, dress good, stay in shape, get a nice haircut & facial hair that matches your face.

Women are easy to talk to, just encourage them to talk about themselves by asking open ended questions, talk to them about their interests, talk to them about the current news or gossip events etc. Talk to them about their drama in their family, friend, work life etc.

Flirt with them in between, tell them they are beautiful, sexy in that dress, hairstyle etc throw a few sexual innuendos etc Buy her flowers or chocolates whatever she's in to (if that's your official girl)

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

man...

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

man that's crazy