Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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As well as time goes on you read the signs they are always there. As times went on in life I was never caught off guard again.

I've told this story before I remember dating this pawg and she always had our photo by her bedside. One day I was by her place and the photo wasn't there anymore . I brought it up and she said oh I was cleaning :troll: . She then sucked me off fell asleep. A few days later she needed to talk she's not feeling it anymore . Found out soon after she went back to her ex :ehh:

Again the signs was there photo removed I was so in lust and so prideful that i thought it was nothing

Another girl we'd talk all the time suddenly she's "busy" I was on my way to see her one time and she messaged don't bother coming as something urgent came up :troll: again gor the you're a good guy but blah blah

Again the signs were there there went from being the star player to the ninth man on a tom Thibodeau team

Brehs we are 10,15,20 year pros in the game a seasoned qb whose seen all the exotic blitzes, we can't get to prideful gotta read the signs always.

Before I was married the last few relationships I had before I read the signs, I knew the script already and when it entered the last chapter I already knew and was like :ehh:

When this chick dropped dem thangs I was already in my underground bunker, and when it was done stepped out like nic cage in con air and said alright cool as long as your happy all the best. Never contacted her again and then she tried to come back to me but never said another word.
 

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Please expound bro, you have wisdom in this area and I need to hear it.
She’s 37, single, no kids, attractive per you. You are 4 years younger and not itching to bust her down. You got her on skates even though it’s not intentional.

The communication request is sketch if she’s not terribly quick to respond.
 

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She’s 37, single, no kids, attractive per you. You are 4 years younger and not itching to bust her down. You got her on skates even though it’s not intentional.

The communication request is sketch if she’s not terribly quick to respond.

Is the play from her end is that she wants me basically feeding out of the palm of her hand and give her the world so she has something locked down?

She wants to have kids......shes approaching the end of her shelf life for that decision
 

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Is the play from her end is that she wants me basically feeding out of the palm of her hand and give her the world so she has something locked down?

She wants to have kids......shes approaching the end of her shelf life for that decision
I’m trying to not spout off random advice so hard to say without knowing all of the details.

It’s reasonable that if yall have seen each other multiple times, get along well and have acknowledged attraction to each other then she’s wondering what’s going on. I think that’s a pretty basic reality with most earnest women. Are there additional levels to that, possibly.
 

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:francis: my ego might need a minute to accept this reality.

y'all aint meet at church, if you gotta pay for everything and aint even smash and then she talking about you don't text enough you literally her emotional energy drink. You provide her boyfriend energy while a nikka who isn't investing anything gets to smash or bytch is a porn addict but the free boyfriend energy is still there.

Im not going on multiple dates if a chick isn't going 50/50 and she taking initiative to invite me out too not just me thinking of everything.
 
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As well as time goes on you read the signs they are always there. As times went on in life I was never caught off guard again.

I've told this story before I remember dating this pawg and she always had our photo by her bedside. One day I was by her place and the photo wasn't there anymore . I brought it up and she said oh I was cleaning :troll: . She then sucked me off fell asleep. A few days later she needed to talk she's not feeling it anymore . Found out soon after she went back to her ex :ehh:

Again the signs was there photo removed I was so in lust and so prideful that i thought it was nothing

Another girl we'd talk all the time suddenly she's "busy" I was on my way to see her one time and she messaged don't bother coming as something urgent came up :troll: again gor the you're a good guy but blah blah

Again the signs were there there went from being the star player to the ninth man on a tom Thibodeau team

Brehs we are 10,15,20 year pros in the game a seasoned qb whose seen all the exotic blitzes, we can't get to prideful gotta read the signs always.

Before I was married the last few relationships I had before I read the signs, I knew the script already and when it entered the last chapter I already knew and was like :ehh:

When this chick dropped dem thangs I was already in my underground bunker, and when it was done stepped out like nic cage in con air and said alright cool as long as your happy all the best. Never contacted her again and then she tried to come back to me but never said another word.
Loving the QB metaphors..... got me feeling like Brady, Montana, Mahomes:mjpls: , and Cunningham.... :ahh:
 

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isn’t “dating with intention” and “not settling” The same thing?

Why is there so many labels for when you’re just being a logical person? lol
 

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lol randomly popped up on my feed


"in the United States it's like you need a manual [when it comes to dating]"
"in kenya, they either like you or they dont and it flows from there"
pretty much how i feel in Toronto versus when I went to South Africa. Some South Africans you can tell expect to be taken care of though.
even this thread...dudes are literally strategizing the most minute things when it comes to dating. It's actually ridiculous how much "work" or thought it takes just to find and date a woman you attracted to.
 
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isn’t “dating with intention” and “not settling” The same thing?

Why is there so many labels for when you’re just being a logical person? lol
I don’t think they are. My perception:

  • Dating with intention equals working towards finding out if there is a long term path with said person
  • Not settling equals not dipping below your standards
In theory not settling comes before dating with intention in some ways. For example if you won’t settle for a single mother :hubie: then it would never get to intentional dating.
 
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