Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Why do you ask? Usually it just comes down to am I attracted to her or not. Most times that involves a pretty face too. There's no percentage it's either she is attractive to me and got what I'm looking for personality wise or she doesn't . But I only approach women i find attractive so idk I guess I put a lot of percentage on looks but it's only the first criteria I'm looking for.

I’m the same way you are

As long as the girl can get my dikk hard and i would feel comfortable walking around with her in public she’s attractive enough

What really matters is her personality. She could be a dime but if her attitude and mindset stink I’ll treat her as nothing more than a fukkting

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I keep thinking if I had just proposed earlier everything would be smooth right now. Idk what took me so long to be ready but damn i fukked up..that damn ring talks to me like the green goblin mask.

How long were you two together? Did she express wanting to be married before you felt like you were ready?

I know it’s difficult but you have to stop ruminating on the past. Things played out because that’s the way it was supposed to play out. There was no other way in this timeline. Trust me I know how you feel. I was about to propose to my ex as well.

 

[Water]

How long were you two together? Did she express wanting to be married before you felt like you were ready?

I know it’s difficult but you have to stop ruminating on the past. Things played out because that’s the way it was supposed to play out. There was no other way in this timeline. Trust me I know how you feel. I was about to propose to my ex as well.

Together 5 years. I went out to get the ring made in January.. she checked out atleast 10-12months before that. Looking back the signs are obvious. She wanted to get married 3 years in but this was my first long term gf (longest one before her was 6 months ) and I just wanted to be sure. All this was happening at the same time as me being burnt out at work (software engineering) and I just didn't have the capacity to give her what she needed. When I found a new role with better work life balance I saw things clearly but she was gone mentally already. Damn

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Lmfao relax nikka you just facing scarcity panic.

You nikkas ruthless

 

[cyndaquil]

You nikkas ruthless

That dude is kinda an a$$hole in general

@Apollo Creed is the homie from back in the day that would always be like "where the bytches at?" then 10 minutes after the hoes get to the house and everybody just chilling on the couch vibin stand up and be like "aight so yall bytches fukkin or not?" and then call you a p*ssy for not taking one for the team with the fat one knowing damn well he never does it himself

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

That dude is kinda an a$$hole in general

@Apollo Creed is the homie from back in the day that would always be like "where the bytches at?" then 10 minutes after the hoes get to the house and everybody just chilling on the couch vibin stand up and be like "aight so yall bytches fukkin or not?" and then call you a p*ssy for not taking one for the team with the fat one knowing damn well he never does it himself

@Water was letting his emotions out (which is what you should do to heal) and this nikka was straight “fukk your heart break nikka”

Heartbreak ain’t nothing to play wit tho

To keep it real tho that’s why women so easily move on emotionally cause they don’t get that kick back during a tough situation. As men you’re expected to navigate through life unmoved and things just don’t work like that. So we get stuck on something for months to years after.

 

[Apollo Creed]

@Water was letting his emotions out (which is what you should do to heal) and this nikka was straight “fukk your heart break nikka”

Heartbreak ain’t nothing to play wit tho

To keep it real tho that’s why women so easily move on emotionally cause they don’t get that kick back during a tough situation. As men you’re expected to navigate through life unmoved and things just don’t work like that. So we get stuck on something for months to years after.

I assume y'all young lol, he'll be ok and look back and feel blessed. Usually men feel that way in their first real relationship because they are shook of being alone whether sexually not having something lined up and when it comes to companionship. That cycle they are used to is over and never coming back and it causes panic.

I can see being fukked up from divorce/kids being involved because the stakes are high on that, but with a relationship with no kids and shyt man lol. If she was worth it you would have married her lol something in your heart either said she wasn't worth wifing or you don't care about marriage so that means you will be ok lol

hit the gym, pick up a skin care routine and vanish for the next 6 months and find yourself. Do Not ENTER another relationship. Spend the next 6 months minimum by yourself and improve, at the end of the 6 months take a Solo trip somewhere, and then from there decide if you ready for the game.

 

[MikelArteta]

I’m 2 months post breakup experiencing the same thing so I know what you going through. Spend this time taking care of yourself breh. Sit with your feelings and don’t run from it. Don’t drink. Don’t smoke. Don’t use new chicks to distract you. Just feel it. You’ll come out better on the other side. Healing isn’t linear. Some days you’ll be on your “forget that chick” mentality and some days you’ll be in your feelings.

And whatever you do DONT REACH OUT. They made their decision let them feel it. I’ve wanted to reach out everyday but I won’t.

Breakups suck. Trying to fill the gap with another girl or hookups only helps for a minute, then you feel even worse. I remember signing up for a dating app, scrolling through, and boom there’s my ex. Smiling, living life in every photo like nothing happened. Meanwhile I’m sitting at home, feeling like garbage, struggling to eat and knowing that now every guy out there has a better shot with her than I do.

But you’ve got to push forward. Find something to lose yourself in. A series, the gym, work, the coli anything. Time’s the only real cure.

And yeah, don’t reach out. That just resets the clock. Don’t accept being “just friends” either. That’s not healing, that’s self-torture.

Women start dropping dem thangs while they’re still with you. They cry to their friends, talk it out with their mom, make peace with leaving while you’re still in it thinking it can be fixed. So when they finally say it’s over, they’ve already grieved it. That’s why they don’t look back.

What really pulled me out was this thought if today was my last day, or I only had a few weeks left, would I want to spend it sulking over someone who doesn’t want me and is out with other dudes? Hell no. I wouldn’t waste another second. So I stopped.

Not saying it’s easy. But it starts there. With not giving your time, your peace, your worth, to someone who already let it go.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Water was letting his emotions out (which is what you should do to heal) and this nikka was straight “fukk your heart break nikka”

Heartbreak ain’t nothing to play wit tho

To keep it real tho that’s why women so easily move on emotionally cause they don’t get that kick back during a tough situation. As men you’re expected to navigate through life unmoved and things just don’t work like that. So we get stuck on something for months to years after.

The thing is women plot in advance they are already mourning the end while they are with you. You ask what's ok and a big smile everything is fine. Their friends know everything, their mom
You're the villian she's relieved to finally end it.

Most men are caught off guard but she said she loved me yesterday, we just had sex, we just went on a vacation bla blah. Where did I go wrong.

As I got older I read the signs . That's why the last few women who "dumped me" I was already checked out and knew it was coming. Those are also the women who tried to still msg me and ish about their lives till they saw my engagement photos

 

[MikelArteta]

Together 5 years. I went out to get the ring made in January.. she checked out atleast 10-12months before that. Looking back the signs are obvious. She wanted to get married 3 years in but this was my first long term gf (longest one before her was 6 months ) and I just wanted to be sure. All this was happening at the same time as me being burnt out at work (software engineering) and I just didn't have the capacity to give her what she needed. When I found a new role with better work life balance I saw things clearly but she was gone mentally already. Damn

Just have to remember if she really wanted to be with you she would.

Doesn't matter what you do. If you got married three years in you'd be divorced by now prob.

A chick can tell you we broke up because you're making 15 a hour you go back to school and now making 50 a hour and then now it's something else.

A woman who wants to be with you will be with you.

 

[Apollo Creed]

The thing is women plot in advance they are already mourning the end while they are with you. You ask what's ok and a big smile everything is fine. Their friends know everything, their mom
You're the villian she's relieved to finally end it.

Most men are caught off guard but she said she loved me yesterday, we just had sex, we just went on a vacation bla blah. Where did I go wrong.

As I got older I read the signs . That's why the last few women who "dumped me" I was already checked out and knew it was coming. Those are also the women who tried to still msg me and ish about their lives till they saw my engagement photos

The moment the energy shifts is when she is struggling lol then once she becomes disconnected its over and she just waiting for the replacement to seem strong enough so she can jump to that side

 

[Water]

The thing is women plot in advance they are already mourning the end while they are with you. You ask what's ok and a big smile everything is fine. Their friends know everything, their mom
You're the villian she's relieved to finally end it.

Most men are caught off guard but she said she loved me yesterday, we just had sex, we just went on a vacation bla blah. Where did I go wrong.

As I got older I read the signs . That's why the last few women who "dumped me" I was already checked out and knew it was coming. Those are also the women who tried to still msg me and ish about their lives till they saw my engagement photos

Man the game is so cold . I really had no idea fam. Women are terrifying how can a man get married?? Feelings change so quickly

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

The moment the energy shifts is when she is struggling lol then once she becomes disconnected its over and she just waiting for the replacement to seem strong enough so she can jump to that side

Yeah a lot of guys be like “it came outta nowhere” but if you truly separate your emotions to stop and think you can usually pin point the shift. Problem is men are programmed to stick it out and give the benefit of the doubt by making excuses for why she acting sus.

Like when my ex initiated the breakup I thought I was “blindsided” but after some time I can see when things started going left. Plus my gut snitched on her but I let my heart do the decision making. Women don’t have that problem. Like @MikelArteta said she was processing the breakup while still with you getting that last ounce of love until she makes peace about it.

It’s messed up when you think about it with a sober mind but that’s their nature. All you can do is say ok I don’t want this but I wish you the best and like you said vanish. Thats what I did.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I already know the answer but do you fellas think a chick always has someone lined up when she drops them thangs?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yeah a lot of guys be like “it came outta nowhere” but if you truly separate your emotions to stop and think you can usually pin point the shift. Problem is men are programmed to stick it out and give the benefit of the doubt by making excuses for why she acting sus.

Like when my ex initiated the breakup I thought I was “blindsided” but after some time I can see when things started going left. Plus my gut snitched on her but I let my heart do the decision making. Women don’t have that problem. Like @MikelArteta said she was processing the breakup while still with you getting that last ounce of love until she makes peace about it.

It’s messed up when you think about it with a sober mind but that’s their nature. All you can do is say ok I don’t want this but I wish you the best and like you said vanish. Thats what I did.

Exactly. I always say if yiu made it out with no kids or legal marriage YOU ARE BLESSED!!!

its a reason why women initiate moat divorces.

Like i said breh need to take 6 months to transform and heal because worst thing is going back dating bringing that burden on a women who did nothing to you and you ruin her.

Learn to be alone which the 6 months helps with so yoh lose that codependent bug too