Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Don’t check her
I used to check girls

It’s pointless these days. Just move on to the next one and keep talking to the current but don’t give her much attn/investment
When I say check her I just mean communicating your boundaries. Some women don't know for real cuz the prior dudes they were with would simp and chase em or didn't value their time. You let her know what it is and if she violate then you keep it moving.

I've had women who shape up cuz I tell em I don't play games so if you tired or cant talk just let me know rather than tryna hide and wait til later cuz she scared of the response or she think imma hang around no matter what she does.

Like you said tho you can play the games and match her energy if you want to smash but if we out here with options why even do that? It's already hard enough to basically code switch between women and remember all the little shyt about them without mixing them up now we wanna add on energy matching too? Sounds like unnecessary headache to me
 

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When I say check her I just mean communicating your boundaries. Some women don't know for real cuz the prior dudes they were with would simp and chase em or didn't value their time. You let her know what it is and if she violate then you keep it moving.

I've had women who shape up cuz I tell em I don't play games so if you tired or cant talk just let me know rather than tryna hide and wait til later cuz she scared of the response or she think imma hang around no matter what she does.

Like you said tho you can play the games and match her energy if you want to smash but if we out here with options why even do that? It's already hard enough to basically code switch between women and remember all the little shyt about them without mixing them up now we wanna add on energy matching too? Sounds like unnecessary headache to me

dont even do that just ghost and leave.
 

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According to a lot of cats on this thread, those are the ones that you're supposed to lock down. It don't matter what you want, it only matters what they want.

I look at them dudes pushing female supremacy like :mjpls:
On the one hand you want your gf/wife to be somebody who showed high interest in you from the beginning on the other hand you don't want somebody who throws it all at you immediately and wants relationship with you off top cuz she's dealing and thinking of an idealized version of you she made up in her head rather than getting to know wanting a relationship with the real you. The friction will start once she realizes you differ from what she imagined and idealized the relationship to be and look like. It's not organic.
 

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On the one hand you want your gf/wife to be somebody who showed high interest in you from the beginning on the other hand you don't want somebody who throws it all at you immediately and wants relationship with you off top cuz she's dealing and thinking of an idealized version of you she made up in her head rather than getting to know wanting a relationship with the real you. The friction will start once she realizes you differ from what she imagined and idealized the relationship to be and look like. It's not organic.

there is a difference between showing interest and rushing to a relationship. Rushing to a relationship is a woman implementing HER PROGRAM on you and has nothing to do with if she likes you lol if anything it is "you will do". A woman interested in you will follow your lead and at worst if things aren't going anywhere after a while do what's best for her and leave.
 

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there is a difference between showing interest and rushing to a relationship. Rushing to a relationship is a woman implementing HER PROGRAM on you and has nothing to do with if she likes you lol if anything it is "you will do". A woman interested in you will follow your lead and at worst if things aren't going anywhere after a while do what's best for her and leave.
Overall I agree. But I think attempting to rush into a relationship is showing interest tho. You're right about the implementing her program aspect. Those same chicks tend to be pushy and tryna wear on you with unreasonable ass requests. Like this one chick asking me to take off work early to come down and fukk her :dahell:
In what universe we putting p*ssy over paper? :mjlol:
So yeah definitely agree
 

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Overall I agree. But I think attempting to rush into a relationship is showing interest tho. You're right about the implementing her program aspect. Those same chicks tend to be pushy and tryna wear on you with unreasonable ass requests. Like this one chick asking me to take off work early to come down and fukk her :dahell:
In what universe we putting p*ssy over paper? :mjlol:
So yeah definitely agree

Rushing into a relationship is a desperation act, its like how a woman proposing to a man is seen as odd lol.

A woman into you enjoys spending time with you so you will spend a ton of time and may even enter a “situstionship” because you as a man hasnt given the thing a title. Idk if thats what you mean because my interpretation of rushing into a relationship is a women fast as fukk demanding titles or forcing titles that are outside of the usual words of affection
 

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Rushing into a relationship is a desperation act, its like how a woman proposing to a man is seen as odd lol.

A woman into you enjoys spending time with you so you will spend a ton of time and may even enter a “situstionship” because you as a man hasnt given the thing a title. Idk if thats what you mean because my interpretation of rushing into a relationship is a women fast as fukk demanding titles or forcing titles that are outside of the usual words of affection
Yep it's desperate but only when she has no options. If she has options then you're just that guy for real. Some women are desperate for their type and go crazy when they find it and they wanna lock that man down when they find them. But keep in mind what I'm talking about is a situationship. She wanna do relationship shyt so bad and you haven't even given her a title or talked about a title at all.
 

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On the one hand you want your gf/wife to be somebody who showed high interest in you from the beginning on the other hand you don't want somebody who throws it all at you immediately and wants relationship with you off top cuz she's dealing and thinking of an idealized version of you she made up in her head rather than getting to know wanting a relationship with the real you. The friction will start once she realizes you differ from what she imagined and idealized the relationship to be and look like. It's not organic.

Oh indeed (c) Omar

Here are my 2 points when "iffy" chicks and also "OMG I LOVE YOU, LETS GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW" type chicks come at you

1) Are you getting what you want?

I think the 1st point is obvious, and anyone telling cats the only way to be happy is if the girl is chasing you from the start - is not to be trusted, and possibly an LSA agent.

Except that it's not obvious to dudes.

2) Females Change

A) The chick that was iffy can become your wife. Every story you ever hear about couples meeting (black ones at least), "I didn't like him at first"

One of the extended fam, she was like, I didn't like him on the first night. 2 weeks later I saw him at the spot, and now we've been married 10 years and have 2 kids.

I have smashed more chicks that didn't like me at first, than ones that was hoping I would holla at em.

B) The chick that was wifey from jump, can switch up for all types of reasons
  • She feel diff
  • New job, new me
  • New body, new me
  • New degree, new me
  • Old Dude come back in the picture
  • New dude come in the picture
  • Her broads whisphering in her ear this and that
  • She's watching soap operas/TV, traditional media, new media, social media
^Had these happen to me all the time. Everything is chill, we solidfying and them boom something changes on her end. This is the essential story I read when it comes to relationship issues.

Chicks are not just moody and emotional. It's not a time of the month thing. It's not little thing.

It's their essential essence.

They'll chop their hair off on a whim, pick a place on a map and just move there, get married just cause.

They are chaos embodied.

All the time they put time, money, effort, and energy into hobbies, careers, and dudes that are obviously dead ends from the outset.

Ignore what everyone says, ignore their own minds...and then be like "why didn't you stop me" (Should sound familiar in terms of politics)

But you got so many dudes talmbout, if you just smash her right, if you stack bills and handle your business...

Stone Cold Pimps lose broads over some BS, why wouldn't a regular dude?

So I go back to the 2 principles

1) As a man, are you getting what you want?
And
2) Because she's a female, she's gonna change.

To the first, a lotta guys don't get what they want, but even more don't KNOW what they want. Cause sometimes you think you know, until you get it. (With new information, you should change your mind)

To the second, if the chick is playing games or she's way too in to you from the start - that can and often does change, both to the positive and negative. ...

Following from the fact that hoes will change on a dime - as a man, are you prepared for that?

Lotta guys say yes, and then find themselves crying or drinking/smoking themselves out trying to replace that love they felt...
 

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Yep it's desperate but only when she has no options. If she has options then you're just that guy for real. Some women are desperate for their type and go crazy when they find it and they wanna lock that man down when they find them. But keep in mind what I'm talking about is a situationship. She wanna do relationship shyt so bad and you haven't even given her a title or talked about a title at all.

I dont consider a situationship the same as "relationship" in the woman context. As a Man we know when we rock with a chick we want to be around her, but Men do not like being pressured into something they didnt initiate. So yes if a woman wants to spend most her free time with you excluding pre existing engagements then yeah she is into you, but like I said that is totally different than "I want to be married in x amount of time" or 1 week in "what are we?" or the "intentional dating only" lol ultimately Im like when chicks have a laundry list of requirements being presented then she aint into you she looking for a sucker, when a chick is into you the "go with the flow" stuff takes precedence.
 

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When I say check her I just mean communicating your boundaries. Some women don't know for real cuz the prior dudes they were with would simp and chase em or didn't value their time. You let her know what it is and if she violate then you keep it moving.

I've had women who shape up cuz I tell em I don't play games so if you tired or cant talk just let me know rather than tryna hide and wait til later cuz she scared of the response or she think imma hang around no matter what she does.

Like you said tho you can play the games and match her energy if you want to smash but if we out here with options why even do that? It's already hard enough to basically code switch between women and remember all the little shyt about them without mixing them up now we wanna add on energy matching too? Sounds like unnecessary headache to me
to me its not black and white. it depends on what you want from the situation, what the girl wants, the age of the two of you, how long youve known eachother etc

if you want something serious, then sure communicate your boundaries and weed the chicks out. but if you just wanna smash/have fun, shift your attention elsewhere and if she comes back around cool, if she doesnt cool. in my experience communicating boundaries just scares bytches off unless you have already smashed or unless they are on a serious, respectful wavelength.

it actually happened to me recently. i met a chick while leaving the gym, we were texting the same day but she was scheduled to go to Seattle from Toronto the next day. She ghosted at some point. Maybe 5 days later i hit her up again to no avail and then i just deleted her number.

Two weeks later she hit me up - didnt know who it was until I saw Seattle in her message. I was going out that day or sumn and invited her out. We linked, kicked it. Hit her up a day or two later, she didnt respond until maybe 5 days later. SHe invited me to a park, i said nah but you can come here. She asked me how the tables turned all of a sudden and i said they didnt turn, but i aint gonna go out of my way for somebody who cant even communicate or properly...mentioned it was no hard feelings but if she wanna see me she gotta come to me, otherwise I'll see her around our neighborhood. All of a sudden she fixed up, mentioned that usually ppl dont have a problem but that she will do better moving forward. Been seeing her ever since and she baking me a cake for my birthday tomorrow lol.

So it can work but thats a 34 year old chick who realizes she let her prime pass her by. If it's a young chick, 28 or younger dont even bother. Bet the 28 year old version of her woulda just deleted my number and blocked me
 
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to me its not black and white. it depends on what you want from the situation, what the girl wants, the age of the two of you, how long youve known eachother etc

if you want something serious, then sure communicate your boundaries and weed the chicks out. but if you just wanna smash/have fun, shift your attention elsewhere and if she comes back around cool, if she doesnt cool. in my experience communicating boundaries just scares bytches off unless you have already smashed or unless they are on a serious, respectful wavelength.

it actually happened to me recently. i met a chick while leaving the gym, we were texting the same day but she was scheduled to go to Seattle from Toronto the next day. She ghosted at some point. Maybe 5 days later i hit her up again to no avail and then i just deleted her number.

Two weeks later she hit me up - didnt know who it was until I saw Seattle in her message. I was going out that day or sumn and invited her out. We linked, kicked it. Hit her up a day or two later, she didnt respond until maybe 5 days later. SHe invited me to a park, i said nah but you can come here. She asked me how the tables turned all of a sudden and i said they didnt turn, but i aint gonna go out of my way for somebody who cant even communicate or properly...mentioned it was no hard feelings but if she wanna see me she gotta come to me, otherwise I'll see her around our neighborhood. All of a sudden she fixed up, mentioned that usually ppl dont have a problem but that she will do better moving forward. Been seeing her ever since and she baking me a cake for my birthday tomorrow lol.

So it can work but thats a 34 year old chick who realizes she let her prime pass her by. If it's a young chick, 28 or younger dont even bother. Bet the 28 year old version of her woulda just deleted my number and blocked me
:mjlol: so it worked? Sometimes I'll send a pic after the gym with good morning. That usually gets them to respond and be interested they be quick with it too. Lot of these chicks just say they want a relationship because that's what they're supposed to say. But their hormones say otherwise :russ:
 

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Oh indeed (c) Omar

Here are my 2 points when "iffy" chicks and also "OMG I LOVE YOU, LETS GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW" type chicks come at you

1) Are you getting what you want?

I think the 1st point is obvious, and anyone telling cats the only way to be happy is if the girl is chasing you from the start - is not to be trusted, and possibly an LSA agent.

Except that it's not obvious to dudes.

2) Females Change

A) The chick that was iffy can become your wife. Every story you ever hear about couples meeting (black ones at least), "I didn't like him at first"

One of the extended fam, she was like, I didn't like him on the first night. 2 weeks later I saw him at the spot, and now we've been married 10 years and have 2 kids.

I have smashed more chicks that didn't like me at first, than ones that was hoping I would holla at em.

B) The chick that was wifey from jump, can switch up for all types of reasons
  • She feel diff
  • New job, new me
  • New body, new me
  • New degree, new me
  • Old Dude come back in the picture
  • New dude come in the picture
  • Her broads whisphering in her ear this and that
  • She's watching soap operas/TV, traditional media, new media, social media
^Had these happen to me all the time. Everything is chill, we solidfying and them boom something changes on her end. This is the essential story I read when it comes to relationship issues.

Chicks are not just moody and emotional. It's not a time of the month thing. It's not little thing.

It's their essential essence.

They'll chop their hair off on a whim, pick a place on a map and just move there, get married just cause.

They are chaos embodied.

All the time they put time, money, effort, and energy into hobbies, careers, and dudes that are obviously dead ends from the outset.

Ignore what everyone says, ignore their own minds...and then be like "why didn't you stop me" (Should sound familiar in terms of politics)

But you got so many dudes talmbout, if you just smash her right, if you stack bills and handle your business...

Stone Cold Pimps lose broads over some BS, why wouldn't a regular dude?

So I go back to the 2 principles

1) As a man, are you getting what you want?
And
2) Because she's a female, she's gonna change.

To the first, a lotta guys don't get what they want, but even more don't KNOW what they want. Cause sometimes you think you know, until you get it. (With new information, you should change your mind)

To the second, if the chick is playing games or she's way too in to you from the start - that can and often does change, both to the positive and negative. ...

Following from the fact that hoes will change on a dime - as a man, are you prepared for that?

Lotta guys say yes, and then find themselves crying or drinking/smoking themselves out trying to replace that love they felt...
Mfer wrote a masterpiece :wow:
Truly a gem of a post
 

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:mjlol: so it worked? Sometimes I'll send a pic after the gym with good morning. That usually gets them to respond and be interested they be quick with it too. Lot of these chicks just say they want a relationship because that's what they're supposed to say. But their hormones say otherwise :russ:
conversely, i tried to set a boundary with another chick and she just called me petty. Other women have ghosted. She was a 26 yr old baddie

It really depends on the girl. Most women though it wont work…at least 75% lol. Only ten percent of woman are gonna be accountable and mature enough to adapt

The girl who taking long to respond to you is responding fast to another dude
 

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conversely, i tried to set a boundary with another chick and she just called me petty. Other women have ghosted. She was a 26 yr old baddie

It really depends on the girl. Most women though it wont work…at least 75% lol

The girl who taking long to respond to you is responding fast to another dude
Dont matter. The 25% who get with the program is who we wanna worry about. She responding fast to another dude that's fine. You've read the courage to to be disliked right? Dont worry about her tasks. You told ol girl how you need to be treated. How she chooses to deal with it is her task. You're protecting your peace of mind.

How many posts in here we got of dudes worrying about what a woman is doing and asking whether they should say something to her about something that bothers them? They aint focusing on their tasks.

How she feel about something is how she feel maybe she dont like it and disappears maybe she recalibrates her behavior gives you what you need. Cool less stress in the long run.

But the going along matching energy shyt is just going with her program cuz you switching up hoping she give you some p*ssy and she knows that. Which is kinda crazy cuz it's displaying that in the totality of what you have to offer her p*ssy is more valuable than that.

Crazy work. Humans don't always think logically especially when hormones are involved so I understand and I'm not saying it doesn't work. Sometimes it does but shyt is pretty wild when you think about it.
 
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