Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Lieutenant Daniels

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if you want my overly philsophical take: part of the issue is how we are all taught to designate relationships. Divide into categories. And the hyper categorization that has become part of the day to day language of social media is even worse, words like situationships, for example. I think social media's grip has made everyone even more judgmental and close minded, closer to the Victorian era puritans than any kind of modern, and even the Victorians knew how to have a good affair. Isn't situationship just a pejorative for spending time together?

More practical stance: The only thing I ever pay any attention to, is how that person makes me feel, and do I want to see them again. Of course eventually you have to have a conversation, but 2-3 dates in, you barely know each other. All this "intentional" dating I think is delusional. Even the Victorians didn't take 2 dates to decide marriage. It was a months long process. Sometimes years.
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The “intentional” dating phrase came about because folks got tired of dating someone who strung them along for a month or two; and in some cases longer only to cut and run when the relationship tried to progress. A lot of men and women in the dating pool have no direction. Most things in life have a goal in mind and dating is no different. For example, some may want to just have sex and hangout sometimes, some may want a full blown relationship. The hangup is a person you meet may not be interested in going in the same direction you’re going dating wise but it’s not said upfront.

They aren’t truthful with their “intentions” and will string you along until one of you ask for more than the other. I think dating with “intention” is good because it helps set boundaries EARLY in the interaction and frames your thought into “do I even like this person and are they looking for the same thing I’m looking for”.

Basically it’s all about finding like minded individuals who want the same things which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. We need more of that. It prevents a lot of “I’m just going with the flow but secretly don’t want anything serious” women and men.
 
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Lieutenant Daniels said:
The “intentional” dating phrase came about because folks got tired of dating someone who strung them along for a month or two; and in some cases longer only to cut and run when the relationship tried to progress. A lot of men and women in the dating pool have no direction. Most things in life have a goal in mind and dating is no different. For example, some may want to just have sex and hangout sometimes, some may want a full blown relationship. The hangup is a person you meet may not be interested in going in the same direction you’re going dating wise but it’s not said upfront.

They aren’t truthful with their “intentions” and will string you along until one of you ask for more than the other. I think dating with “intention” is good because it helps set boundaries EARLY in the interaction and frames your thought into “do I even like this person and are they looking for the same thing I’m looking for”.

Basically it’s all about finding like minded individuals who want the same things which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. We need more of that. It prevents a lot of “I’m just going with the flow but secretly don’t want anything serious” women and men.
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Well said
 
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re'up said:
More practical stance: The only thing I ever pay any attention to, is how that person makes me feel, and do I want to see them again. Of course eventually you have to have a conversation, but 2-3 dates in, you barely know each other. All this "intentional" dating I think is delusional. Even the Victorians didn't take 2 dates to decide marriage. It was a months long process. Sometimes years.
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Ohene said:
if a woman is attractive and i enjoy spending time with her, i'll roll with her as long as I can. It's really that simple.

People underestimate how hard it is to find those two things. A chick will be attractive, but can barely hold a conversation or is social awkward/prissy. Then a chick will be cool as fukk but is like a 6 in the looks department lol. Every time I find a chick though who I am actually attracted to and genuinely have good chemistry with (in person), they start acting weird and it blows up.
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Same shyt i said here
Thing is, a lot of women judge based on way more than that
 
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