Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DAlbert]

women never ever tell me if they're in relationships until I ask

I knew I shouldn't this time, but shyt I said fukk it

this game is so cutthroat brehs

 

[MikelArteta]

she on that

yeah man..The stress was real

Im still feeling the effects..

Im trying to learn how to smile more and shyt like that..

I unknowingly be intimidating women etc and i dont even realize it

The funny thing is kids are the exact opposite

im pretty sure im balding and got greys cuz of the

@Emperor_ReinScarf went to the walmart at hwy 27 and there was a PAWG with a voluptuous body and an ass just made for backshots in front of me wearing a sundress

knew i had to holla at that...so i waited till we got outside and shouted excuse me miss....and it seemed like she heard but didn't wanna turn around ...so a nikka had to run abit with my fruit tray in my hand and said excuse me miss again...and she turned around and said ye....so i said do you got a minute...and she goes nope but thanks and some other shyt....but i was like and didn't care to hear what else she had to say, so i walked off to my car.

attitude was but the body was

 

[MikelArteta]

I might told this story in here before, but about 3 yrs ago after breaking up with my long term ex, I was a little lost out there I was dating here and there but no one I took seriously at the time and me and my current girl were just friends at the time. Anyway, so one day it was pretty nice out so I roll to a happy hr to meet an ex-coworker. Me and the co-worker chat and catch up and my co-worker leaves. So I just start up a convo with this nice looking chik sitting next to me. Turned out she visiting from Australia. So we kinda hit it off and she asked me about a club that plays hiphop and R and B. So I taker her to a little lounge. We hit it off more and I end up smashing and staying over. She did come with a friend but he wasn't in the room by the time we got to her spot. He was roaming the streets himself. So I end up staying the night and going to work the next morning (doing the walk of shame because of the same clothes and I smelled like perfume and alcohol). I didn't know, how to call it with that night. Next thing I know she starts texting me later in the afternoon to meet up again. I told her I had to go home first, and she said she wants to see my place. So I meet her at her room since it was near my job. Met the dude she was traveling with and he was cool as hell. He was dying to meet some spanish chiks he let me know, so I told him some phrases to help him. So this chik heads to my house with me and we smash again and she stays the night. I took her to a friend's house party the next day, she then got her luggage and spent the next 4 nights and days with me. We had a good time. Picnics, site-seeing, restaurants, deep convos about past relationships...it was great man. It was like having a temp g/f. Of course it sucked when she left. We spoke a lot after, she even told me she loved me and let me know how I restored her faith in men. Apparently, her ex did her dirty and was abusive. I won't lie, I was really digging her also but had done the long-distance thing and this would have been a little too long distance for me. I actually planned on going out there to see her again but as time went by me and my current girl started becoming more than friends and I let the Australian chik know. She was sad but understood. Fast forward to the present- we chat randomly here and there but they are always good convos. We both are in serious relationships and we give each other advice on relationships and things in general. But just from the time spent with her, I really realized the qualities I wanted in a woman. Had I not had that experience I might have still been aimlessly dealing with chiks for the sake of it. If you get a good vibe from a chik, I say enjoy as much time as you can with her. Things might not end perfectly, but it could end in a positive lesson learned.

im going to a wedding on a thursday, my friend met this guy on a cruise 7 years ago, jus chatted here and there on and off realized they "were meant for each other", dude moved down here and boom.

 

[Brandsdale]

Registered for this thread. I had a lot I wanted to say but it took like two weeks for my registration to be approved.

I'm 22 and I had to teach myself everything I know about women. My dad is cool but he pretty much only told me "don't put the p*ssy on a pedastal". He probably would have told me more but I like to keep my emotions and shyt to myself, so he most likely figured I didn't need any help and I didn't care about love and all that.

Getting to the point: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted legitimate advice. I read about 90 pages but most of the posts started to become the same stuff but worded differently. A lot of it is indeed situational but there's still tons of things a lot of dudes should read over.

This thread definitely changed my view on women and made light of what my dad told me. I didn't understand what he meant until I read this thread. Luckily, I was only a simp with two girls but now I know what to look out for.
A lot of this stuff I already knew, though...which is good to know that I had put myself on the right track all these years.

After soaking up all the information I gathered in this thread, I really don't even know what to do as far as women go. Like, I really couldn't care less if I were to stay single for the rest of my life and it's honestly liberating af to not care about shyt like that anymore. I still enjoy looking at women and shyt but that's about it.

I agree with whoever said every man needs his heart broken by a woman. Imo, that's when you become a man because a devastating breakup is what tunes you in to your emotions. I used to hate a certain ex of mine but now I'm forever thankful. Our breakup changed me in almost every single way and for the better. I know exactly what I want out of a relationship and what I like/dislike in a female because of her. Breaking up with her forced me to enjoy being alone and now I don't need to be with anybody. I'd never tell her but she made me into the person I am today. My life would be totally different if I never met her.

I used to have no confidence at all. I used to hate the way I talk, look, my height (5'7''), my hair, my complexion, my name...damn near everything until I started really thinking about things and paying attention to certain situations, like where/why/when/how women talk to me and treat me. I would stare at myself in the mirror, forcing myself to pick out things I liked about my face and shyt. Corny but it worked. I don't know why I never had confidence, I've never had issues getting girls. It was just hard for me to believe someone actually had feelings for me, I suppose.

I spend a lot of time alone. I have tons of friends but people are busy. If I'm not working or some shyt, I'm thinking about what I can do to improve myself. This has nothing to do with money or material things. It's more of a mental and soul development thing. I'm more worried about what happens after you die (intrigued would be the better word) than the next girl I'm going to fukk. A lot of people don't get that, though. So many dudes ask me, "BRO...HOW CAN YOU NOT NEED p*ssy BRO? I SWEAR MAN I NEED IT EVERYDAY BRO I NEED ME SOME p*ssy" - that is weak af to me. You shouldn't NEED anything from anyone other than their respect. My own damn cousin thinks I'm gay because I won't sit there with him and discuss sexual shyt or because I'm never trying to get laid. I've never understood why a bunch of nikkaz would want to sit around and talk about what they like having done to them and all that shyt. You really have nothing else better to talk about? C'mon bro...

There are so many things to have your mind stapled to other than p*ssy. Don't attach your self-worth to sex.

Experience. Experience. Experience. Over time I've learned a lot about women especially from my two close friends whom I can call my mentors but what really made me learn is by experiencing the good, the bad, and the ugly first hand. The past year isbwhat put everything into perspective from pursuing a chic for p*ssy or a relationship.

I genuinely dont care man, care deeply about where you want to be in life and work on that while the chics will come naturally In (in numbers hopefully). In the mean time no harm in going for a good looking chic every now and then (gotta feed sometimes breh ). Meeting women is a good exercise to strengthen your communication and social skills which could even translate to the job world when networking, meeting new people closely related to your specified career path etc.

 

[Action Mike]

Meeting women is a good exercise to strengthen your communication and social skills which could even translate to the job world when networking, meeting new people closely related to your specified career path etc.

110% true

 

[Bless't]

women never ever tell me if they're in relationships until I ask

I knew I shouldn't this time, but shyt I said fukk it

this game is so cutthroat brehs

So frustrating. It's like youre setting yourself up to be denied... but I prefer honesty over deceit. So, I appreciate when women are truthful.

 

[Fatboi1]

 

[Rich Spirit]

Keep that cold heart breh

 

[Sharp]

Here's something they're not going to tell you and it's because it will destroy the game and the relationship/dating enterprise which grosses billions of dollars

As a man, in terms of marriage, you are more valuable.

There will always be a surplus of beautiful, educated women with great personalities. However, there isn't that many of us.


A man who keeps up his appearance, is educated, financially stable, and charismatic decides his own destiny. These women should be courting you.

Check this out. Right now the NBA Free Agency is going on. Look at the star free agent players. Team are going to them, making presentations, trying to get them to sign. These star free agents should be looking for the best situation. They want to play for the best team that will offer them a maximum salary. Some may have other requirements such as location, etc. But the point is that you are the star player and these women are the teams. They can't make demands because you have numerous options.

Now I'm not saying to let these women pick you. You should take your destiny in your own hand and pick the women who you think bring the most value and less stress to your life. But you should not allow these women to dictate the terms of the situation, especially when if you wait around, you can find a better situation.

Always remember that. Never allow these women who are courting you to try to impose an ultimatum on you. If you got your shyt together, you are the star player and any team would want to have you.

 

[Ohene]

Here's something they're not going to tell you and it's because it will destroy the game and the relationship/dating enterprise which grosses billions of dollars

As a man, in terms of marriage, you are more valuable.

There will always be a surplus of beautiful, educated women with great personalities. However, there isn't that many of us.


A man who keeps up his appearance, is educated, financially stable, and charismatic decides his own destiny. These women should be courting you.

Check this out. Right now the NBA Free Agency is going on. Look at the star free agent players. Team are going to them, making presentations, trying to get them to sign. These star free agents should be looking for the best situation. They want to play for the best team that will offer them a maximum salary. Some may have other requirements such as location, etc. But the point is that you are the star player and these women are the teams. They can't make demands because you have numerous options.

Now I'm not saying to let these women pick you. You should take your destiny in your own hand and pick the women who you think bring the most value and less stress to your life. But you should not allow these women to dictate the terms of the situation, especially when if you wait around, you can find a better situation.

Always remember that. Never allow these women who are courting you to try to impose an ultimatum on you. If you got your shyt together, you are the star player and any team would want to have you.

this is where I am at man.

that being said, just because you're a star player it doesnt mean that you should be disappointed when a team doesnt hit you up for a contract. Not everybody will need or even recognize your true value no matter how great a player you are. Stay firm regardless. Never demean yourself

 

[MikelArteta]

Sometimes your restricted

Or like Marc gasol he's not taking any calls

this is where I am at man.

that being said, just because you're a star player it doesnt mean that you should be disappointed when a team doesnt hit you up for a contract. Not everybody will need or even recognize your true value no matter how great a player you are. Stay firm regardless. Never demean yourself

 

[NormanConnors]

to add on im feeling like patrick willis out here, i was talking to this 31 year old chick and just meh. I just don't have it anymore . I don't have the drive to bend over backwards and text or call, the fakeness to even care about asking questions to know about her. Too court and all that when theres a bunch of other vultures flying above, nah go ahead. Right now I've been saving hoping to go to paris this year

I'm with you breh, it's never been my style to ask a lot of questions, I usually get my answers through listening/observation, seems to be a fool proof method to keep the upperhand. A chick I'm dealing with now stays with the , constantly asking why I don't ever have any questions. She can't get a bead on a brotha

 

[Action Mike]

i might be doing this right now, but dont talk your way out of p*ssy.

gotta catch yourself, sometimes silence is a good option.

especially in this gat damn text messaging world..

 

[fkthisgaysite]

Experience. Experience. Experience. Over time I've learned a lot about women especially from my two close friends whom I can call my mentors but what really made me learn is by experiencing the good, the bad, and the ugly first hand. The past year isbwhat put everything into perspective from pursuing a chic for p*ssy or a relationship.

I genuinely dont care man, care deeply about where you want to be in life and work on that while the chics will come naturally In (in numbers hopefully). In the mean time no harm in going for a good looking chic every now and then (gotta feed sometimes breh ). Meeting women is a good exercise to strengthen your communication and social skills which could even translate to the job world when networking, meeting new people closely related to your specified career path etc.

That's what I've been doing in 2015 so far: focusing on myself. As far as a passion goes, I like driving/cars (don't know shyt about them but I'm learning every now and then) and video games. Parties and shyt are getting old.

I haven't shunned women by any means. I still love them just as much as I did before I explored this thread. I just don't need one anymore. That's all I'm sayin'.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I was enjoying my fourth of july weekend all the while kicking it wit some guys I havent seen in awhile. As we laught and make crude jokes...the subject changes into women as it would with most men. The sudject then turned into friendzone. As I just sat listend yo these guys talk about friendzone and the many ways to get out(lol) of it...only giving my tidbits of thoughts on the subject. Mind you these guys are between the ages of 25-28. Im 31 so Im the elderstatesmen so to speak.

FREINDZONE: No man should want to be in the friendzone as I have come to know it as ...really just rejection. A man's default response should always be to excuse him from the LJBF situation. No self respecting man should EVER wanna ride a women's bench and have her take you off that bench when SHE get ready to. Another way out the friendzone is just to be honest . Tell her what you after weather its a relationship, FWB, one night stand etc. If the women declines take the "L" and keep it moving. It also show you know your own worth. To a greater or lesser degree, women require attention and the more they have of it the more affirmation they experience, both personally and socially.

Men get a LJBF rejection because of a process. These are the" friend first" mindset guys; the guys who put for too much emphasis on a solitary woman and wait her out until the perfect moment to attempt to escalate to itamacy, at which point her most comfortable rejection is to LJBF.To me personally men and women cant be friends. Its too many thing that happen to were things can get messy. Ill talk about it later maybe ill do a part 2 to this post.

Dont settle as a man. Know whst you want and stick to your guns. Also know your value . I guarantee you ask Lebron James or Kevin Durant and Stephan Curry "do you feel like the best player in league when you step oo that court" All of them will say "yes". Know your value...dont ride no women's bench. Know what you bring to the table .

Other thoughts: I was getting my things togther to head home from work and i used to want wife and two sons. As driving home I realized i dont want that at ALL anymore. I think one of the coo things about taking a spirtual journey or being some what of a MONK is you begin to make piece ceartin things. Ive come up with a plan for each area of my life ...except relationships. Once you stop wasting time on things that DONT make you better as a man things in life become clear and your time is well invested. On the the drive home the only thing that i can compair the dissapoinment in the relationship area of my life to is like a kid who grow up without dad and he was told his farther is coming to get him all threw out the years but they father just never shows. So after a while that kid dosent even want his father to show up just so he can be sparred his dissapoinment. My heart has got cold when it comes relationships.

As always just trying to help in this thread ...while being a stand up guy.
Im gone.