Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[semtex]

My family thinks i get so much p*ssy. I don't get any.

 

[George Gooney]

Just got back from a CRAZY night brehs. I'm writing the story right now.

 

[George Gooney]

@kevm3 @His_Excellence_Reincar What y'all think of this??? I ask because recently an older woman has been trynna get at me(No kids, Good Job, Doesn't look her age) I might hang with her next weekend. http://laidnyc.wordpress.com/2013/08/05/dont-marry-any-woman-older-than-25/

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Mr Hate Coffee @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper
@twan83

Spoiler

Aight brehs so y'all may remember I was talking about a 33 year old chick who was showing me some interest in the post I quoted. Well tonight me and her went out. She makes the third date I went out on this week. Wednesday I went out with a chick and on Thursday another. Well I meet up with shorty tonight and we hit up a spot called Red Rooster in harlem. I heard about the place from a few associates but had no idea what to expect. We get to the restaurant and it's clearly some high established classy joint. We walk through the door and they ask us if we had a reservation. A reservation??? They said ok well we may have a few tables downstairs. So we walk to the downstairs area and they seat us and hand us menus. I look at the menu and there's only like 10 meals on it to choose from. Most of it is seafood which I'm allergic to . shyt is like $20 dollars a meal at that. I look at the menu and see the appetizers got some chicken, waffle combos, but it's 16 bucks FOR A APETIZER . She says that she wants to try the chop suey shyt(whatever the fukk that is). Her food costed 23 dollars. That along with my meal makes $39. Normally I have a rule that I don't spend more than $30 on a date. When I got out I bring only about $50 cash Just to make sure I don't go over that limit. I had my bank card too but I never swipe my card in restaurants(I know nikkas who be doing that scam shyt with the black box where they swipe your card and get all your info). So we're still looking at the menu making our final decisions and the waitress comes and asks us if we'd like anything to drink. The choices of water are (distilled, sparking and regular tap) I say "Just water" . She says can I have "sparkling water". The waitress is like "sure!" We also order our meals and start to talking. They bring us our waters and mine is a medium sized wine glass with some water and ice in it. Hers is a glass and tall ass container of some sparkly ass bubbly water that I know ain't free. We're having a great convo lots of touching and flirting and laughing. I can tell she feeling your boy. Our food gets here and we start grubbing. I had two medium ass pieces of fried chicken and two small ass waffles. I don't give a fukk tho cause i'm not really that hungry. We're still talking, More laughs and touching and flirting(I can smash soon! I know it!). The chemistry was AMAZING! It didn't feel like a first date. We were talking about crappy jobs we had in the past and I brought a Job I had years ago at a coffee shop making drinks and waiting tables. She asks me "what color is a latte?" I'm like "what color?" she's like "yea! Like is it my complexion? Your complexion?" I don't know what the fukk she was getting at with that question. She's a little on the light side and I'm a brown skin dude. I said some smooth shyt outta nowhere like "If we had a Baby. That color!" Her eyes lid up and she started blushing. So I know I planted that sexual seed In her mind unintentionally. Well we're talking more and laughing and we finish our food. One of the waiters comes and takes our plates. Our waitress comes back like "Would you guys like to see a dessert menu?" I can only Imagine how expensive their desserts are So i'm like "Nah I'm good. I don't like sweets". Here shorty Go "I'd like to see one" On the inside I'm like . So they bring over two menus and she's like "You see anything you like? Something not too sweet?" I'm Like nah I'm good. But she orders some apple crust yogurt shyt. They bring that over and two plates and spoons. She's like are you gonna share it with me? eith the puppy dog eyes. I'm like nah you might have cooties. She's like your were just touching me(I was playing this intimacy game with her. which required us holding hands). I'm like "so I didn't lick them" She's like "whatever" and slides a little piece of it onto my plate. I try it and it's not so bad We're talking more and our birthdays are a day apart. And she jokes around like "we're gonna bump heads a lot in our relationship". I'm ready to get the fukk up outta there. So the waitress comes and brings us the bill. Altogether shyt came up to like 65 bucks(without tip!) Because of that damn dessert and water!!! Shorty gets up and excuses herself to go the bathroom. I take out my wallet and Pull out my 50 dollar bill and put it on the table(This chick is putting something in! I don't give a fukk how cute she is!) So she gets rom the bathroom(which took longer than usual. I see what she was trynna do.) So I get up and I go to the bathroom while she sits at the table.I take a piss wash my hands and come back to find she ain't put down no bread! So We talk it out and I'm like "Put down something and I'll pay you back when we get outside near an ATM." She start complaining and shyt and I'm not trynna hear none of that. So she reaches in her purse and pulls out two 5 dollar bills. I'm Like "you short 5" she like "well this is all I got, You don't have a card?" I'm like "You don't have a card!?!?!? . Apparently she doesn't. She's like blah blah blah this is awkward, you should've told me there was a limit blah blah blah. She gets up out her seat and Is like "Well I'm going upstairs I'll leave this for you to handle". She gets up and starts walking upstairs. So I get up and I start walking up the stairs! We almost get to the door when the waitress comes up on me taps me on the shoulder. I turn around And shorty keeps walking so fukk It I pay with my bank card. But the time it's all said and done shorty Is Long gone. I know I prolly fukked this up with her. But how she come to dinner and assume I'ma pay for her and not bring no paper??? Then try to walk off and leave me like ima be washin dishes dolo on some herb shyt? Bushes for her!










But yea So two outta three dates this week. Not so bad! I just wanted to share this story with my brehs. It's probably an L for me but I still feel good cuz I got the other two chicks to fall back on. Have options brehs.

 

[Redguard]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Mr Hate Coffee @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper
@twan83

Spoiler

Aight brehs so y'all may remember I was talking about a 33 year old chick who was showing me some interest in the post I quoted. Well tonight me and her went out. She makes the third date I went out on this week. Wednesday I went out with a chick and on Thursday another. Well I meet up with shorty tonight and we hit up a spot called Red Rooster in harlem. I heard about the place from a few associates but had no idea what to expect. We get to the restaurant and it's clearly some high established classy joint. We walk through the door and they ask us if we had a reservation. A reservation??? They said ok well we may have a few tables downstairs. So we walk to the downstairs area and they seat us and hand us menus. I look at the menu and there's only like 10 meals on it to choose from. Most of it is seafood which I'm allergic to . shyt is like $20 dollars a meal at that. I look at the menu and see the appetizers got some chicken, waffle combos, but it's 16 bucks FOR A APETIZER . She says that she wants to try the chop suey shyt(whatever the fukk that is). Her food costed 23 dollars. That along with my meal makes $39. Normally I have a rule that I don't spend more than $30 on a date. When I got out I bring only about $50 cash Just to make sure I don't go over that limit. I had my bank card too but I never swipe my card in restaurants(I know nikkas who be doing that scam shyt with the black box where they swipe your card and get all your info). So we're still looking at the menu making our final decisions and the waitress comes and asks us if we'd like anything to drink. The choices of water are (distilled, sparking and regular tap) I say "Just water" . She says can I have "sparkling water". The waitress is like "sure!" We also order our meals and start to talking. They bring us our waters and mine is a medium sized wine glass with some water and ice in it. Hers is a glass and tall ass container of some sparkly ass bubbly water that I know ain't free. We're having a great convo lots of touching and flirting and laughing. I can tell she feeling your boy. Our food gets here and we start grubbing. I had two medium ass pieces of fried chicken and two small ass waffles. I don't give a fukk tho cause i'm not really that hungry. We're still talking, More laughs and touching and flirting(I can smash soon! I know it!). The chemistry was AMAZING! It didn't feel like a first date. We were talking about crappy jobs we had in the past and I brought a Job I had years ago at a coffee shop making drinks and waiting tables. She asks me "what color is a latte?" I'm like "what color?" she's like "yea! Like is it my complexion? Your complexion?" I don't know what the fukk she was getting at with that question. She's a little on the light side and I'm a brown skin dude. I said some smooth shyt outta nowhere like "If we had a Baby. That color!" Her eyes lid up and she started blushing. So I know I planted that sexual seed In her mind unintentionally. Well we're talking more and laughing and we finish our food. One of the waiters comes and takes our plates. Our waitress comes back like "Would you guys like to see a dessert menu?" I can only Imagine how expensive their desserts are So i'm like "Nah I'm good. I don't like sweets". Here shorty Go "I'd like to see one" On the inside I'm like . So they bring over two menus and she's like "You see anything you like? Something not too sweet?" I'm Like nah I'm good. But she orders some apple crust yogurt shyt. They bring that over and two plates and spoons. She's like are you gonna share it with me? eith the puppy dog eyes. I'm like nah you might have cooties. She's like your were just touching me(I was playing this intimacy game with her. which required us holding hands). I'm like "so I didn't lick them" She's like "whatever" and slides a little piece of it onto my plate. I try it and it's not so bad We're talking more and our birthdays are a day apart. And she jokes around like "we're gonna bump heads a lot in our relationship". I'm ready to get the fukk up outta there. So the waitress comes and brings us the bill. Altogether shyt came up to like 65 bucks(without tip!) Because of that damn dessert and water!!! Shorty gets up and excuses herself to go the bathroom. I take out my wallet and Pull out my 50 dollar bill and put it on the table(This chick is putting something in! I don't give a fukk how cute she is!) So she gets rom the bathroom(which took longer than usual. I see what she was trynna do.) So I get up and I go to the bathroom while she sits at the table.I take a piss wash my hands and come back to find she ain't put down no bread! So We talk it out and I'm like "Put down something and I'll pay you back when we get outside near an ATM." She start complaining and shyt and I'm not trynna hear none of that. So she reaches in her purse and pulls out two 5 dollar bills. I'm Like "you short 5" she like "well this is all I got, You don't have a card?" I'm like "You don't have a card!?!?!? . Apparently she doesn't. She's like blah blah blah this is awkward, you should've told me there was a limit blah blah blah. She gets up out her seat and Is like "Well I'm going upstairs I'll leave this for you to handle". She gets up and starts walking upstairs. So I get up and I start walking up the stairs! We almost get to the door when the waitress comes up on me taps me on the shoulder. I turn around And shorty keeps walking so fukk It I pay with my bank card. But the time it's all said and done shorty Is Long gone. I know I prolly fukked this up with her. But how she come to dinner and assume I'ma pay for her and not bring no paper??? Then try to walk off and leave me like ima be washin dishes dolo on some herb shyt? Bushes for her!







But yea So two outta three dates this week. Not so bad! I just wanted to share this story with my brehs. It's probably an L for me but I still feel good cuz I got the other two chicks to fall back on. Have options brehs.

Yeah you kind of took an L but at least you dodge a bullet. Its funny how most women don't even try to pay at least their part of the bill and expect the man to do it. I know its traditional but to me it has to be within reason. When she was asking for dessert I would have cut her off and asked for the bill.

 

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

We're all just animals.

 

[DaRealness]

This dude is almost always on point.

 

[DaRealness]

Nah, as a man you have to initiate most of the times. IF you wait on females to try and initiate, you will be waiting for a very long time. Don't fall into the 50/50 social imperative. "Aren't we supposed to be equal, so why don't women initiate?"

What you do is do what a man does and 'hunt'. Initiate, but just as you aren't allowing yourself to fall into androgynous programming, you have to demand she does what a woman is supposed to do. You aren't a 50/50 man, so you won't let her be a 50/50 woman.

Alright @kevm3 , I know you indirectly referenced a post I made a while back without quoting me directly and I think you misunderstood my position. To clarify when I mentioned the 50/50 aspect I simply meant that the woman has to play her role as a woman and also put in work, that's it. My thing was that a lot of women don't do shyt to contribute to a relationship nowadays and many 'men' are simply cool with that. The 50/50 wasn't a literal percentage and had nothing to do with a man taking control some of the time, it was simply within the context that she does what she's supposed to do to fulfill her duties and I do what I do as the man in the relationship. It wasn't about being 'watered down' or compromising or cutting deals, because that ain't the type of man I am and never will be and any female I deal with will know I'm the leader and not to take advantage or cross the line. Maybe 50/50 wasn't the best reference, but it was the best example I could think of that time.

 

[MikelArteta]

I never pay for dates unless we are committed.

To many women will use you for free food and entertainment, smile in your face and laugh and give you a hug all for 65 bucks, while she's texting another dude as soon as she leaves.

Tom leykjs said something, call a check invite her out, but ask her like when are you eating dinner and she will be like I eat dinner around 6, and then you say all right I pick you up at 7

 

[T-K-G]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Mr Hate Coffee @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper
@twan83

Spoiler

Aight brehs so y'all may remember I was talking about a 33 year old chick who was showing me some interest in the post I quoted. Well tonight me and her went out. She makes the third date I went out on this week. Wednesday I went out with a chick and on Thursday another. Well I meet up with shorty tonight and we hit up a spot called Red Rooster in harlem. I heard about the place from a few associates but had no idea what to expect. We get to the restaurant and it's clearly some high established classy joint. We walk through the door and they ask us if we had a reservation. A reservation??? They said ok well we may have a few tables downstairs. So we walk to the downstairs area and they seat us and hand us menus. I look at the menu and there's only like 10 meals on it to choose from. Most of it is seafood which I'm allergic to . shyt is like $20 dollars a meal at that. I look at the menu and see the appetizers got some chicken, waffle combos, but it's 16 bucks FOR A APETIZER . She says that she wants to try the chop suey shyt(whatever the fukk that is). Her food costed 23 dollars. That along with my meal makes $39. Normally I have a rule that I don't spend more than $30 on a date. When I got out I bring only about $50 cash Just to make sure I don't go over that limit. I had my bank card too but I never swipe my card in restaurants(I know nikkas who be doing that scam shyt with the black box where they swipe your card and get all your info). So we're still looking at the menu making our final decisions and the waitress comes and asks us if we'd like anything to drink. The choices of water are (distilled, sparking and regular tap) I say "Just water" . She says can I have "sparkling water". The waitress is like "sure!" We also order our meals and start to talking. They bring us our waters and mine is a medium sized wine glass with some water and ice in it. Hers is a glass and tall ass container of some sparkly ass bubbly water that I know ain't free. We're having a great convo lots of touching and flirting and laughing. I can tell she feeling your boy. Our food gets here and we start grubbing. I had two medium ass pieces of fried chicken and two small ass waffles. I don't give a fukk tho cause i'm not really that hungry. We're still talking, More laughs and touching and flirting(I can smash soon! I know it!). The chemistry was AMAZING! It didn't feel like a first date. We were talking about crappy jobs we had in the past and I brought a Job I had years ago at a coffee shop making drinks and waiting tables. She asks me "what color is a latte?" I'm like "what color?" she's like "yea! Like is it my complexion? Your complexion?" I don't know what the fukk she was getting at with that question. She's a little on the light side and I'm a brown skin dude. I said some smooth shyt outta nowhere like "If we had a Baby. That color!" Her eyes lid up and she started blushing. So I know I planted that sexual seed In her mind unintentionally. Well we're talking more and laughing and we finish our food. One of the waiters comes and takes our plates. Our waitress comes back like "Would you guys like to see a dessert menu?" I can only Imagine how expensive their desserts are So i'm like "Nah I'm good. I don't like sweets". Here shorty Go "I'd like to see one" On the inside I'm like . So they bring over two menus and she's like "You see anything you like? Something not too sweet?" I'm Like nah I'm good. But she orders some apple crust yogurt shyt. They bring that over and two plates and spoons. She's like are you gonna share it with me? eith the puppy dog eyes. I'm like nah you might have cooties. She's like your were just touching me(I was playing this intimacy game with her. which required us holding hands). I'm like "so I didn't lick them" She's like "whatever" and slides a little piece of it onto my plate. I try it and it's not so bad We're talking more and our birthdays are a day apart. And she jokes around like "we're gonna bump heads a lot in our relationship". I'm ready to get the fukk up outta there. So the waitress comes and brings us the bill. Altogether shyt came up to like 65 bucks(without tip!) Because of that damn dessert and water!!! Shorty gets up and excuses herself to go the bathroom. I take out my wallet and Pull out my 50 dollar bill and put it on the table(This chick is putting something in! I don't give a fukk how cute she is!) So she gets rom the bathroom(which took longer than usual. I see what she was trynna do.) So I get up and I go to the bathroom while she sits at the table.I take a piss wash my hands and come back to find she ain't put down no bread! So We talk it out and I'm like "Put down something and I'll pay you back when we get outside near an ATM." She start complaining and shyt and I'm not trynna hear none of that. So she reaches in her purse and pulls out two 5 dollar bills. I'm Like "you short 5" she like "well this is all I got, You don't have a card?" I'm like "You don't have a card!?!?!? . Apparently she doesn't. She's like blah blah blah this is awkward, you should've told me there was a limit blah blah blah. She gets up out her seat and Is like "Well I'm going upstairs I'll leave this for you to handle". She gets up and starts walking upstairs. So I get up and I start walking up the stairs! We almost get to the door when the waitress comes up on me taps me on the shoulder. I turn around And shorty keeps walking so fukk It I pay with my bank card. But the time it's all said and done shorty Is Long gone. I know I prolly fukked this up with her. But how she come to dinner and assume I'ma pay for her and not bring no paper??? Then try to walk off and leave me like ima be washin dishes dolo on some herb shyt? Bushes for her!










But yea So two outta three dates this week. Not so bad! I just wanted to share this story with my brehs. It's probably an L for me but I still feel good cuz I got the other two chicks to fall back on. Have options brehs.

 

[DaRealness]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Mr Hate Coffee @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper
@twan83

Spoiler

Aight brehs so y'all may remember I was talking about a 33 year old chick who was showing me some interest in the post I quoted. Well tonight me and her went out. She makes the third date I went out on this week. Wednesday I went out with a chick and on Thursday another. Well I meet up with shorty tonight and we hit up a spot called Red Rooster in harlem. I heard about the place from a few associates but had no idea what to expect. We get to the restaurant and it's clearly some high established classy joint. We walk through the door and they ask us if we had a reservation. A reservation??? They said ok well we may have a few tables downstairs. So we walk to the downstairs area and they seat us and hand us menus. I look at the menu and there's only like 10 meals on it to choose from. Most of it is seafood which I'm allergic to . shyt is like $20 dollars a meal at that. I look at the menu and see the appetizers got some chicken, waffle combos, but it's 16 bucks FOR A APETIZER . She says that she wants to try the chop suey shyt(whatever the fukk that is). Her food costed 23 dollars. That along with my meal makes $39. Normally I have a rule that I don't spend more than $30 on a date. When I got out I bring only about $50 cash Just to make sure I don't go over that limit. I had my bank card too but I never swipe my card in restaurants(I know nikkas who be doing that scam shyt with the black box where they swipe your card and get all your info). So we're still looking at the menu making our final decisions and the waitress comes and asks us if we'd like anything to drink. The choices of water are (distilled, sparking and regular tap) I say "Just water" . She says can I have "sparkling water". The waitress is like "sure!" We also order our meals and start to talking. They bring us our waters and mine is a medium sized wine glass with some water and ice in it. Hers is a glass and tall ass container of some sparkly ass bubbly water that I know ain't free. We're having a great convo lots of touching and flirting and laughing. I can tell she feeling your boy. Our food gets here and we start grubbing. I had two medium ass pieces of fried chicken and two small ass waffles. I don't give a fukk tho cause i'm not really that hungry. We're still talking, More laughs and touching and flirting(I can smash soon! I know it!). The chemistry was AMAZING! It didn't feel like a first date. We were talking about crappy jobs we had in the past and I brought a Job I had years ago at a coffee shop making drinks and waiting tables. She asks me "what color is a latte?" I'm like "what color?" she's like "yea! Like is it my complexion? Your complexion?" I don't know what the fukk she was getting at with that question. She's a little on the light side and I'm a brown skin dude. I said some smooth shyt outta nowhere like "If we had a Baby. That color!" Her eyes lid up and she started blushing. So I know I planted that sexual seed In her mind unintentionally. Well we're talking more and laughing and we finish our food. One of the waiters comes and takes our plates. Our waitress comes back like "Would you guys like to see a dessert menu?" I can only Imagine how expensive their desserts are So i'm like "Nah I'm good. I don't like sweets". Here shorty Go "I'd like to see one" On the inside I'm like . So they bring over two menus and she's like "You see anything you like? Something not too sweet?" I'm Like nah I'm good. But she orders some apple crust yogurt shyt. They bring that over and two plates and spoons. She's like are you gonna share it with me? eith the puppy dog eyes. I'm like nah you might have cooties. She's like your were just touching me(I was playing this intimacy game with her. which required us holding hands). I'm like "so I didn't lick them" She's like "whatever" and slides a little piece of it onto my plate. I try it and it's not so bad We're talking more and our birthdays are a day apart. And she jokes around like "we're gonna bump heads a lot in our relationship". I'm ready to get the fukk up outta there. So the waitress comes and brings us the bill. Altogether shyt came up to like 65 bucks(without tip!) Because of that damn dessert and water!!! Shorty gets up and excuses herself to go the bathroom. I take out my wallet and Pull out my 50 dollar bill and put it on the table(This chick is putting something in! I don't give a fukk how cute she is!) So she gets rom the bathroom(which took longer than usual. I see what she was trynna do.) So I get up and I go to the bathroom while she sits at the table.I take a piss wash my hands and come back to find she ain't put down no bread! So We talk it out and I'm like "Put down something and I'll pay you back when we get outside near an ATM." She start complaining and shyt and I'm not trynna hear none of that. So she reaches in her purse and pulls out two 5 dollar bills. I'm Like "you short 5" she like "well this is all I got, You don't have a card?" I'm like "You don't have a card!?!?!? . Apparently she doesn't. She's like blah blah blah this is awkward, you should've told me there was a limit blah blah blah. She gets up out her seat and Is like "Well I'm going upstairs I'll leave this for you to handle". She gets up and starts walking upstairs. So I get up and I start walking up the stairs! We almost get to the door when the waitress comes up on me taps me on the shoulder. I turn around And shorty keeps walking so fukk It I pay with my bank card. But the time it's all said and done shorty Is Long gone. I know I prolly fukked this up with her. But how she come to dinner and assume I'ma pay for her and not bring no paper??? Then try to walk off and leave me like ima be washin dishes dolo on some herb shyt? Bushes for her!










But yea So two outta three dates this week. Not so bad! I just wanted to share this story with my brehs. It's probably an L for me but I still feel good cuz I got the other two chicks to fall back on. Have options brehs.

Ah man!! This shyt is hilarious and like something out of the Brothers With No Game series.

That excusing herself to go to the restroom when the bill comes is the oldest female trick in the book, she must think people are stupid. If she had any class she would have left some money on the table then excused herself.

The chick did have a point though, you have to make it clear that the bill will be split before a date. We can't just assume that the chick already knows this....well some of them do, but it's been said a million times in this thread that women will always try you. A lot of dudes are scared to this because they think they will be making themselves look tight and it will put the chick off, but so what? If she's put off by that, she isn't worth it anyway. This is why it has been suggested to go somewhere that doesn't cost any money, like a museum or park or something. Or just go to a local Starbucks or something. If a chick is interested in you, she would go. If she looks at you funny, then it's the bushes. At least if you suggest somewhere free, she knows to eat beforehand.

BTW, I've learned it's always a good idea to look up the menu of a place online or see it for myself when others suggest it.

Chick was just looking for a free meal and nothing more. That 'rapport' you thought you had with her was just a ruse to make you feel comfortable enough to cover everything. She prolly went to the bathroom to go online on some 'ha ha' shyt to her friends.

You gotta kiss some frogs in the dating game, but each experience is a learning curve. At least now you know.

The last part of the story was pure jokes though, I can just picture that shyt in my mind.

 

[kevm3]

Alright @kevm3 , I know you indirectly referenced a post I made a while back without quoting me directly and I think you misunderstood my position. To clarify when I mentioned the 50/50 aspect I simply meant that the woman has to play her role as a woman and also put in work, that's it. My thing was that a lot of women don't do shyt to contribute to a relationship nowadays and many 'men' are simply cool with that. The 50/50 wasn't a literal percentage and had nothing to do with a man taking control some of the time, it was simply within the context that she does what she's supposed to do to fulfill her duties and I do what I do as the man in the relationship. It wasn't about being 'watered down' or compromising or cutting deals, because that ain't the type of man I am and never will be and any female I deal with will know I'm the leader and not to take advantage or cross the line. Maybe 50/50 wasn't the best reference, but it was the best example I could think of that time.

I feel you on that. You are right in always wanting to make sure a woman is bringing something to the table. I just had to reaffirm the point that you never want to lower your masculinity down to meet a woman. I would tell any man here to never give up their manhood, despite what society tells them. If a woman is getting emotional and acting out, never meet her at her level and get emotional and start yelling as we.. Be calm and act in the position of a man. The reason I'm saying this is because I know a lot of men 'react' to women. In other words, if a woman does something, they will go and do something similar back. If she slashes his tires, he will smash her computer or something of that nature. Manhood is separate and unaffected by what a woman does and manhood is the basis for your actions and not reacting in like kind to a woman.

 

[Turbulent]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Mr Hate Coffee @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper
@twan83

yeah breh, like Darealness said, this one is kind of on you. should have made it clear from the get go. OR should have asked for seperate bills. Not feeling her style though. she's pulled some lame shyt. chicks like that are not quality. I even know legit golddiggers with more style and class. The way i see it, a chick with real game won't even need to pull these silly bathroom moves. She'll genuinely make you feel like paying for her as if she was your girlfriend. She will make you feel like wanting to take care of her without her even trying.

i used to be VERY anti-dates. I still am to some degree but i've relaxed my ideas on this because i realized it's not dating itself that's the problem. it's the intent behind the date that's the problem. it's the chicks we choose to go on dates with that's the problem. I keep saying it but it's really something i believe in. Pick chicks that are choosing you and you will not even have these types of problems.

I told this story before but one of the last chicks i went on a date with, she's the one who asked me out, I was gonna pay for my ticket but she legit tricked me into paying for mine. she was choosing hard. last chick i went on a "date" with, she asked me if i wanted to see a movie, we went dutch on the tickets. was hungry so i ask her if she wanted to go grab something to eat. Paid for her shyt cause it just felt right but i still made her put in work and told her to put that shyt in her bag to sneak it in the movies (i was inspired, lol). You gotta go with your gut and what feels right. I made a post about awkwardness once. It's really fascinating how scared we all are of awkwardness. Awkwardness is not the enemy. Your fear of it is. Awkwardness can actually be your ally. Once someone feels like you're trying to avoid awkwardness, they know instinctively they can control you. We'll do almost anything to avoid it. see that chick in the first example, she was feeling me at that point in time and she paid the tickets while i wasn't there to avoid an awkward moment. She wasn't willing to risk letting money or awkwardness be an obstacle in us getting closer. She didn't want to even risk making me feel like she's trying to play me because she feared i would dismiss her for it. And it has little to do with money or looks. Once you learn to give up control on who chooses you, you're in business.



Sorry for going on a tagent, as far as your situation i would have played it like this. I would have waited for her to come back from the bathroom, grin at her very slightly like and pay for the whole thing without saying a word. Cause really it's not even about the money. I would have REALLY made her feel awkward and lame without saying a word. The beauty of it is, if you don't say a word, she has no "in" to defend herself. it's like you're telling her "you stupid petty bytch, I would have paid either way but you pulled a basic move to play me for something i was already gonna give you. now at least i know to avoid your calls, thank you ". And she can't answer cause it wasn't said in words. funny part is looking at the little hamster in her head racing to find an idea on how to gain back her dignity. Then I would have told her it's getting late and blablabla and drop her at her place. If she gives signs of offering puss, i would not even entertain it (and frankly it's not even playing cause the bathroom shyt would really be a turnoff). After that, never call or text, short and vague replies if she texts until she either makes me want her again or gets tired of this stupid game. After that 9 chicks out of 10 will go crazy and do anything to get back in your good graces cause that shyt is ethering their soul and self-esteem. Then you eat! That's the player way to handle it.

the mature way is practically the same. You just pay, drop her home and straight bushes. If she sends you texts or calls and asks you why you didn't call, just say you're not feeling it and KIM.

 

[George Gooney]

Aye brehs. I know this is an L that could've been a W if I used better judgement and foresight. I'm just sharing the story for the brehs who've been through similar situations and for brehs who think dating is all about success. .
@His_Excellence_Reincar -I also heard Leykis say that before. I got the $30 dollar limit thing from him too .
@Turbulent- Your way was obviously the best way to go with this. I just don't like to feel like I'm getting played but I'm aware and man enough to say it was all on me this time and that's ok.
@T-K-G- A man takes responsibility for his L's and talks about them to help his fellow men in my opinion. That Gif made me laugh tho.

Did I take an L? Yep! Will I probably take a few more in life? Yep! Will I let that scare me outta trynna get at these females and put a seed of fear in my heart? NAH!

to y'all for chiming in.

 

[MikelArteta]

another thing you can do is when you go out to eat, look who your waitress is, and say you got to go to the washroom, on your way there let the waitor/waitress know that it will be separate bills.

the thing is as i mentioned this is what women do especially on dating sites, the will set up like a data date on friday, saturday sunday

3 dudes paying for their meals as they act like there interested for 2-3 hours

 

[DaRealness]

Sorry for going on a tagent, as far as your situation i would have played it like this. I would have waited for her to come back from the bathroom, grin at her very slightly like and pay for the whole thing without saying a word. Cause really it's not even about the money. I would have REALLY made her feel awkward and lame without saying a word. The beauty of it is, if you don't say a word, she has no "in" to defend herself. it's like you're telling her "you stupid petty bytch, I would have paid either way but you pulled a basic move to play me for something i was already gonna give you. now at least i know to avoid your calls, thank you ". And she can't answer cause it wasn't said in words. funny part is looking at the little hamster in her head racing to find an idea on how to gain back her dignity. Then I would have told her it's getting late and blablabla and drop her at her place. If she gives signs of offering puss, i would not even entertain it (and frankly it's not even playing cause the bathroom shyt would really be a turnoff). After that, never call or text, short and vague replies if she texts until she either makes me want her again or gets tired of this stupid game. After that 9 chicks out of 10 will go crazy and do anything to get back in your good graces cause that shyt is ethering their soul and self-esteem. Then you eat! That's the player way to handle it.

the mature way is practically the same. You just pay, drop her home and straight bushes. If she sends you texts or calls and asks you why you didn't call, just say you're not feeling it and KIM.

Good post, but what I will say to that is this: Personally I'd take it a step further and not send any replies at all, vague or not...unless it's a one off reply to tell her never to contact you again. If certain females exhibit terrible behaviour and show no class (especially after the age of 30 for goodness sake), they should not be given a second chance by you under any circumstances.

Remember, her attempting to get back into your good graces is just a challenge and most times not even about you per say. If shyt between you two is to end, THEY want to do it on THEIR terms, not yours. If you let her back in - even if it is to just smash - then she would have got one over on you because she'd know that her puppydog charms worked and managed to soften you up to the point where you gave her the time of day again. After you smash, then she'll just ignore YOU. Nah, I'd say especially if you have other options, send her to the bushes and don't look back. Her not being given a second chance and facing rejection from a male is the ultimate ether and would make her be on her best behaviour in future so that she doesn't even risk being dissed like that again. Trust me, if she lives to a 100 and dates 10,000 men you will always be in the back of her mind as that one dude who made her soul burn slow when you've long forgotten her. A man who was able to reject sexual offers in this sex crazed world? She'll never get over that - especially if you're a brotha. As men, we need to exercise self mastery to the point where we're completely fine on missing out on a quick nut in order to not to compromise our principles. Self respect and pride is way more important than sex.

You have to cut the cord completely and KIM. That's true #Hardonhoes.