Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

Best advice would be to stop thinking about pulling women altogether for a while. Real talk. Just start conversing with everyone who passes you with a smile and genuine intent to find out what makes them unique. Sounds crazy but this is practice but also a confidence booster. It will make you more comfortable socially.

Just ask them about themselves, about their family, how many siblings, are they close, what do they do, what school, best friends, just keep asking questions. Look for connections and commonalities. Some people might be like I don't know you fool. But that's ok. That means your questions are personal and rejection is good because it makes us stronger.

Just keep talking to people to learn how to do it. Learn how to make people laugh. Learn how to make people smile. Learn how to make people comfortable sharing with you.

If you just do this publicly, while working on yourself privately, next thing you know you'll have 20 chicks and you'll be choosing which one is worthy of the d.

And above all you have to let go of that resentment, that anger. You have to forgive because even if you had a chick you'd run her off quick. Women require a certain amount of tenderness which ultimately boils down to your ability to keep your cool in hostile situations. If you can't handle her mood swings what you gonna do when shyt really hits the fan?

So you're not having any luck with ladies? That's obvious by your attitude about it. You're being emotional and feminine and that type of energy of course repels feminine energy. This is science. Women seek security in a man. We can't be this be insecure and hope to attract women.

Build yourself up. Hit the gym. Talk to people. Realize you're a great person and above all: forgive the world. Let go of that hate. Love yourself, love everyone around you, next thing you know you're surrounded by love.

And I don't fukk random women, I constantly build deep relationships and fukk who I decide I wanna fukk based on who I'm feeling the most. But I treat every interaction with a woman as a "relationship" of some sort, even if it's just a simple smile and hello. I always want to make them smile just in case. You never know when something will escalate. They say luck is preparation for opportunity. Cool thing about this is preparation creates opportunities as well so go better yourself and get in deep conversations with people along the way.

Of course being handsome always helps but just smiling can take you a long way. Makes people drop their defenses. Good luck.

this has to go in one of the top 10 commandments on what u must do to do well consistently with women.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

story??

Reading thru the last few pages is getting me through the last hr of work lol

Long story short this past weekend was my b day,woman from my past who I know from a mutual friend.We exchange #'s and we gonna meet up later this week.She def feeling the kid .Trust me on this she a prospect

 

[Womb Raider]

Man, I really been running from depression ever since my last relationship ended...had to let shyt go with the last chick I was fukking cuz she the one who broke us up and that shyt was not good for my mental health...fukked a few other chicks but it didn't help. Been smoking weed, staying active playing ball and lifting, hanging with the bros...I still have suicidal thoughts every now and then. trying to get a new job and finish my last year of undergrad strong but this shyt is hard...idk wtf to do

 

[TheArchitect]

After a lot of thinking and evaluating, I've come to a couple of conclusions:

Ive always held a certain resentment towards women. Not that i just wanna slap every bytch i see, but they left a bad taste in my mouth since i was child, and it never really went away (i would automatically think negative thoughts, have negative/apathetic feelings towards them, etc.).

Another thing is I lack the ability to gain rapport with them. I think its because growing up I really wasnt hollering at females like that, and I would always feel awkward somewhat around them. I have some female homegirls, but only a couple.

So Im thinking maybe I oughtta get these negative thoughts and resentments out of my head, and start talking to more females in general....

 

[Reno89]

To contribute to the original post: If she talking about her morals on the first date, she don't like you fam

 

[Johnny Kilroy]

Man, I really been running from depression ever since my last relationship ended...had to let shyt go with the last chick I was fukking cuz she the one who broke us up and that shyt was not good for my mental health...fukked a few other chicks but it didn't help. Been smoking weed, staying active playing ball and lifting, hanging with the bros...I still have suicidal thoughts every now and then. trying to get a new job and finish my last year of undergrad strong but this shyt is hard...idk wtf to do

Keep your head up, breh. There's lots of other women out there. Use this as an opportunity to grow. No sense in going though all this shyt and not coming out a better man.

This woman, there are more like her, some even better. Now that you know this, and you know what surrendering your heart to one woman can do to you, what's the lesson? I would conclude talk to as many as those girls as you can and be very selective about who, if anyone, you give your heart to.

No woman will ever love you like your mama or like you love yourself. Understand that going in. Whatever relationship you're in is a physical representation of love mixed with animal lust. All things physical die. So your relationship, be it a night or a year or a decade, is finite. Know this going in. Unconditional love between a man and woman takes decades to achieve. That's 50th wedding anniversary ish. Right now, it's all conditional. I'm looking for conditions, she's looking for conditions and if all of these conditions are met then we're "in love" but that's not true love.

This is an opportunity to meet new people, expand your circle. Get into conversations with complete strangers, men and women alike. Ask questions. This is an act of caring that will lead the world to open up to you with love. Take solace and find peace in that. It's also a good way to meet ladies too (hint hint).

 

[delta]

To contribute to the original post: If she talking about her morals on the first date, she don't like you fam

i dont think so... more like she's trying to convince you (and herself) that she's not promiscuous

its all about what they do

 

[Uitomy]

Has anyone ever dealt with constant day dreaming and dreaming about a woman
I'm fukked up man, I just can't stop, like, I look at certain things and I catch myself in a trance and then I have to slap myself a bit to snap out

But when I dream about her there's nothing I can do, I guess it's a phase that goes but it kind of scares me, it's such a lack of control

 

[Suspicious Dingo]

Has anyone ever dealt with constant day dreaming and dreaming about a woman
I'm fukked up man, I just can't stop, like, I look at certain things and I catch myself in a trance and then I have to slap myself a bit to snap out

But when I dream about her there's nothing I can do, I guess it's a phase that goes but it kind of scares me, it's such a lack of control

I've been there man. All you can really do is try to find other things to occupy your mind and, most importantly, stay the fukk away from her as much as possible... it will pass in time. It sucks, but sometimes all you can do is play the hand you're dealt.

 

[Reno89]

i dont think so... more like she's trying to convince you (and herself) that she's not promiscuous

its all about what they do

More like if she's talking about her morals on the very first date, she's convinced that she's not going to be smashin, and is attempting to deter you from shooting your shot

 

[VertigoKnight]

Along with the 'I don't usually do this' every woman I've been out with who starts talking morals or about what she does or doesn't do on a first date is considering having sex. But doesn't want the man to think it will be too easy.

As I said to a woman I met yesterday night you're either horny or not. I find their is little ambivalence. A woman knows within 10 mins if she's open to sleeping with you. But we as men and women have to play this game where we pretend women don't have base desires like men. It's why a man has to read between the lines and make the first move. Most chicks do not and will not make that move and go in for a kiss to begin proceedings.

I'd met the same woman I mentioned above earlier for just a coffee date. And we got along so well that when that closed we grabbed a bottle of wine and went back to her apartment to watch the sun set on her balcony. When we did finally kiss she said she was unsure if I actually liked her, as I hadn't made a move all evening. We were actually having a good conversation so I thought anything else could wait.

We still smanged though.

 

[Neuromancer]

To contribute to the original post: If she talking about her morals on the first date, she don't like you fam

elaborate.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

If I get turned down this time...




Them I'm going back to the drawing board

 

[Taharqa]

If you're texting a girl and shes giving you 1 word answers to everything, shes not interested. Move on

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

After a lot of thinking and evaluating, I've come to a couple of conclusions:

Ive always held a certain resentment towards women. Not that i just wanna slap every bytch i see, but they left a bad taste in my mouth since i was child, and it never really went away (i would automatically think negative thoughts, have negative/apathetic feelings towards them, etc.).

Another thing is I lack the ability to gain rapport with them. I think its because growing up I really wasnt hollering at females like that, and I would always feel awkward somewhat around them. I have some female homegirls, but only a couple.

So Im thinking maybe I oughtta get these negative thoughts and resentments out of my head, and start talking to more females in general....

Yeah. Go see a therapist if you can so you can,get to the bottom of this. I'm talking from,experience